There are many types of women in this world, but a majority of the time we can categorize them into two categories: marriage material and swingers. The women who are marriage material are those who are always in long-term relationships or none at all. They either date for the long run or wait for the right guy to come around. Many times these women get turned away by guys because they aren't ready for a "wife," which is what she represents, but they also say that they're the best to settle down with.
The swingers, on the other hand, are very different. They have never been single and never plan on it. They can always be found with a guy at the hip and another in their back pocket. They love the company and comfort of another person. Now even though they date many different guys, they do not sleep around like some might think. Moving from one bed to the next and racking up their number is not an interest to them. Just because they date a lot doesn't mean they have sex a lot.
Many people from the outside looking in claim that the swinger is insecure or is very dependent and therefore always needs a man by her side. Some even call her a serial flirter, but these are not always the truth. Just because she likes a male companion does not automatically make her insecure or dependent on anyone. Some people like to be left alone and others don't.
Time and time again I have fallen into the trap of being labeled as a swinger because I like to talk to people. I do not go out on a lot of dates, nor can I say I have had a lot of boyfriends. I can, however, say that I have talked to many different guys and liked many different guys and there is nothing wrong with that. I will someday get married and have a family with one guy, but right now, at this time in my life, I enjoy just talking to people.
Every day guys talk to and even date multiple girls at the same time and yet no one ever tries to shame them or put them down. Guys laugh and congratulate each other with each "conquest" or girl they check off. If they talk to multiple girls, its no big deal to them, but when girls try to do the same thing they shame us and put us down and call us sluts. But this is wrong and needs to stop.
If you have ever been labeled as a swinger or think you might be one, there is no need to worry. You are doing nothing wrong by flirting and talking to whomever you like. Liking the company of others is not a crime, and so what if that company is male? You're not sleeping with every guy you talk to, nor are you getting paid for any of it. Being called a swinger should not make you feel bad; actually it's not a word that should even be used at all.
