The Grass Isn't Greener On The Other Side

The Grass Isn't Greener On The Other Side

When you feel like everyone else's grass is greener than yours, learn that God is asking you, right now, in your current stage of life, to water, grow, nourish and find contentment on the grass you are standing on.

If there’s one thing I’ve learned about this generation, it’s this – we don’t understand contentment. It’s a foreign word. We are constantly a million miles ahead of ourselves, wondering when we’ll be the ones with the ring on our finger, the ones living in the suburbs, the house with a white picket fence. We can’t wait to graduate, whether high school or college. We can’t wait to grow up. We want what’s next, now. For us, it’s all about the next stage, the next achievement, the “better than now” stage. For me, it’s always been about the next stage, until now.

I was recently challenged to look at my life. To view everything as it is – good and bad. To not complain about my current stage, but to thrive in it, knowing that in moments when I feel like the grass is greener on the other side, it’s important to realize that it’s not.

Being content is realizing that everyone is on their own journey, uniquely written for them. Why would we ever want to walk someone else’s journey when we have our own incredible story in front of us? There will be moments when others' lives appear to be more appealing than our own. Moments when we watch the ones we love do incredible things and we wish we were doing the same things. But what if the purpose of our personal journey, no matter how painful or how boring they may seem, was to make us better, to strengthen us to be great?

So often we miss our purposes because we’re so busy trying to live someone else’s life. We want to live vicariously through people’s Instagram feeds, by basically creating what we want our life to appear like, when in reality, our lives are messy, just like everyone else’s. Be OK with the mess. Immerse yourself in it; build something spectacular out it. The beautiful thing about our mess is that we are constantly being rebuilt. We are remade. God writes our stories and journeys for us, not for anyone else. That’s what contentment is. We get to learn to love thriving in our current state, because we finally come to a place where we know that is exactly where we belong. To follow Jesus and to follow His path is to know that it is not easy. We’re not called to be comfortable. We’re called to be uncomfortable as we follow Jesus, to thrive and to ultimately find contentment in that.

We’re called to stand on our grass, no matter how torn up, shriveled, dirty or dead it may be. We should be proud to be broken, because brokenness radiates God’s incredible grace and His power to rebuild our brokenness into something indescribable. God calls us to contentment, knowing that His story for us is the best story. He wants us to thrive where He has placed us, without fear of the future, without damaging comparison, rid of any lingering bitterness towards the path He has set for us. He wants us, free of “what if’s” and “if only”. Instead He wants us to focus on the “right now.” Not tomorrow, not next week—right now, this very moment. What does that look like for us?

In those moments when you feel like life possibly couldn’t get worse, when you’re mulling over the fact that your life didn’t turn out the way you thought, that death shouldn’t have happened, or wishing that brokenness hadn’t taken root, know that what truly matters is the grass you’re standing on, not your neighbor’s, not your best friend’s, not your family’s. Your grass is what is important. Stand on it proudly. When it dies, water it. When it flourishes, thrive in it. Learn to view your world, your life and your circumstances through content eyes. When you feel like everyone else’s grass is greener than yours, learn that God is asking you, right now, in your current stage of life, to water, grow, nourish and find contentment on the grass you are standing on.

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12 Bible Verses For Faith In Hard Times

Remind yourself that God is always with you.

Lately, I have felt lost at what God wants for my life. Ever since I've come back to UWG everything has been horrible. It seems that I can't catch a break. I'm trying my best to focus on school, work, and extracurricular activities. But it's hard when I'm having issues with my apartment/roommates and knowing my family back home is struggling and needs many prayers. All, I keep thinking is maybe Carrollton isn't where I belong anymore. I've asked God if He can guide me in the right direction. Below, I have found Bible verses that have helped get me through these rough, past couple of weeks.

1. Isaiah 43:2

"When you go through deep waters, I will be with you."

2. Psalm 37:5

"Commit your way to the Lord. Trust in Him, and He will act."

3. Romans 8:18

"The pain that you've been feeling, can't compare to the joy that's coming."

4. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed in strength, and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future."

5. Joshua 1:9

"Be bold. Be brave. Be courageous."

6. Ecclesiastes 3:1

"There is a time for everything and a reason for every activity under the heavens."

7. Isaiah 41:10

"Don't be afraid, for I am with you. Don't be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand."

8. Isaiah 66:9

"I will not cause pain without allowing something new to be born, says the Lord."

9. Psalm 91:4

"He will cover you with His feathers, and under His wings, you will find refuge; His faithfulness will be your shield and rampart."

10. Psalm 62:1-2

"My soul finds rest in God alone, my salvation comes from Him, He alone is my rock and my salvation."

11. Philippians 4:13

"I can do everything through Christ who gives me strength."

12. Jeremiah 29:11

"For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

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He Made You For More, Do Not Settle

Psalm 139:13-14 " For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well."


When we read titles like that, we usually think about romantic relationships, not today!

Let Daenne's Journal take your mind to a new direction.

When I read verses like Psalm 139:13-14 " For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well." My confidence level always rise up on many areas of my life.

When it comes to relationships, we usually tell our friends do not settle, you are worth more than this, you are this you are that which are all good things. But, what about all the other aspects of life? Why do we often put romantic relationships as the center of the universe? Were we not created for far more than that? Aren't we kingdom children called to be part of the advancement of the kingdom by making disciples and succeed in everything we do? Aren't we called to first seek the kingdom of God?

I find it interesting that we give our loved ones advice on whether or not they are settling in relationships, but find it okay that they are settling for everything else in life.

I do not like to see anyone go through heartbreaks or settle for less in relationships because I have been through some heartbreaks and it is not pretty. But, I have learned that settling for less in the other aspects of life can affect us negatively as well. There is no age limit when it comes to having dreams and following them.The one person's story who inspires me the most is my dad's. I do not usually mention him in my articles or any public post because this is not his thing. But, he had a goal, left home, went elsewhere for a better life, worked on that goal, succeed, went back home with other goals, fulfill them, succeed, and working on more goals. He is nearly 60 and this man has not stopped working. I have never met anyone more hardworking than my father, my rock, my daddy (can you tell I'm still daddy's girl at heart).

What I found out is that many times we settle for less in life because we don't know our purpose (that is a big one). We might know our purpose, but forget that God is the creator of the universe, author of our story and He has a day and a time for everything to come to pass. God has been working on my patience on so many levels Daenne's Journal Fam. My mindset is usually "I want it, I want it now", can you relate? I mean, who likes to wait? if you do, man God bless you. I don't even like to wait for the commercials on YouTube. I often just give up watching something I had my mind set to watch on YouTube just because the skip button is not coming up. Thirty seconds=too long of a wait for me. It took me a while to realize that I was like that in other areas of my life. My impatience led me to settle for less than what God had for me so many time, and I do not want that for you.There are thoughts that I have sometimes which later make me think "you think God needs your help to accomplish His plans for your life?" The answer to this is a big NO for both you and I.

In what area of your life are you settling for less? Are you perhaps "being impatient"? Have you asked yourself if that is God's plan for your life?

As Children of God, we should commit our plans to Him and let him establish our steps (Proverbs 16:3). Pray, do your part, be patient and let God handle this!

If you don't remember anything else I said, just remember the following: Wait on God! Trust His GPS! DO NOT SETTLE WHILE YOU WAIT! What He has for you is always better than what you are settling for!

Romans 12:12 "Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer."



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