The Value Of Acceptance

The Value Of Acceptance

Why we need to let ourselves be OK with not feeling OK all the time.

Sometimes, life just doesn’t go at all the way we had planned. We switch majors, switch schools, friendships end, relationships end, new friends come, jobs come and go, and we change our dreams and goals. At first, these changes can seem downright horrible for those of us, like myself, who hate change that we have no control over. I like change when I can control it and when I want it. For example, I liked switching my major because I knew it was what I wanted to do with my life. But, I don’t like change when it is something I wasn’t planning on or expecting.

When I discover that what I had wanted for so long is no longer plausible, or that my future might not be exactly the way I had wanted it to be, I tend to react very negatively. I have a hard time accepting that things don’t always go the way I want them to at the moment.

This has been a constant struggle of mine, because it is very difficult for me to find peace and joy in situations that don’t necessarily present themselves the way I was hoping they would. What I have learned though, is that the fact that I struggle with this is perfectly OK.

Accepting the fact that I don’t feel at peace or happy with certain situations has been the first step in actually beginning to feel at peace and happy. It’s weird how that works.

I don’t like feeling sad, I don’t like feeling lost, and I don’t like feeling confused. These statements used to make me feel even more sad, lost, and confused. But, simply accepting the fact that I don’t like feeling those ways has eliminated so much of the anxiety surrounding situations that make me feel sad, lost, or confused. I tend to worry a lot about the fact that I am sad about something, which makes it seem even worse than it actually is. But, realizing that it is OK to feel that way makes my worries lessen, even just a little.

Accepting the situations that we are in leads to so much more peace in our lives, even if we hate our current situations. The heightened anxiety and stress we live through as a result of not acknowledging or being okay with the fact that we don’t like something that is happening to us can be reduced tremendously if only we have the courage and strength to accept that it is our reality, at least for now.

There is so much freedom that comes from the act of simply saying that we don’t like the way things are right now. Accepting that we are sad, hurt, grieving, lonely, confused, or whatever other emotion we may be feeling allows us to take control of the situation, frees us from the worry the unaccepted feelings bring, and empowers us to take back our lives, in pursuit of the amazing adventures and joys that await us.

"God grant me the serenity
To accept the things I cannot change;
Courage to change the things I can;
And wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
Enjoying one moment at a time;
Accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
Taking, as He did, this sinful world
As it is, not as I would have it;
Trusting that He will make all things right
If I surrender to His Will;
So that I may be reasonably happy in this life
And supremely happy with Him
Forever and ever in the next.

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12 Bible Verses For Faith In Hard Times

Remind yourself that God is always with you.

Lately, I have felt lost at what God wants for my life. Ever since I've come back to UWG everything has been horrible. It seems that I can't catch a break. I'm trying my best to focus on school, work, and extracurricular activities. But it's hard when I'm having issues with my apartment/roommates and knowing my family back home is struggling and needs many prayers. All, I keep thinking is maybe Carrollton isn't where I belong anymore. I've asked God if He can guide me in the right direction. Below, I have found Bible verses that have helped get me through these rough, past couple of weeks.

1. Isaiah 43:2

"When you go through deep waters, I will be with you."

2. Psalm 37:5

"Commit your way to the Lord. Trust in Him, and He will act."

3. Romans 8:18

"The pain that you've been feeling, can't compare to the joy that's coming."

4. Proverbs 31:25

"She is clothed in strength, and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future."

5. Joshua 1:9

"Be bold. Be brave. Be courageous."

6. Ecclesiastes 3:1

"There is a time for everything and a reason for every activity under the heavens."

7. Isaiah 41:10

"Don't be afraid, for I am with you. Don't be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand."

8. Isaiah 66:9

"I will not cause pain without allowing something new to be born, says the Lord."

9. Psalm 91:4

"He will cover you with His feathers, and under His wings, you will find refuge; His faithfulness will be your shield and rampart."

10. Psalm 62:1-2

"My soul finds rest in God alone, my salvation comes from Him, He alone is my rock and my salvation."

11. Philippians 4:13

"I can do everything through Christ who gives me strength."

12. Jeremiah 29:11

"For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

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18 Vampire Films And TV Shows to Sink Your Teeth Into

A little bite won't hurt anyone


Listen to them, children of the night...What music they make.

Okay, off hand you probably didn't know that it is a quote from Dracula but here I am to the rescue! What a better way to start Halloween then list a few good movies, right? Vampires are on the blood, I mean brain today so let's start here.

Personally, I love vampires and I can not get enough of them. If I see fangs on clothes or anything of such, I will be the first one to buy it. I am a faithful vampire wannabe and this list is going to prove it. I've seen almost every movie on this list, some good and some bad. What I think however is it is a good list and you will enjoy.

Sure, some movies I'm sure you've seen or at least you've heard of them. These movies and shows range from the 1930's all the way to the last few years. There's old school and new school fighting over what vampires are better and what ones suck. (No pun intended)

One thing I love about these bloodsuckers is that they change just like zombies. They get new strengths, weaknesses and whatever else they want to develop. Are they still allergic to sunlight? Do they love to eat garlic? Can they go to church on Sunday's? Oh, who knows anymore but that is one thing I love about them.

As for this list, I have to make something perfectly clear. No, I am not counting the sparkly, glittering Cullen family and their neighbors. I do not classify Twilight or its movies as Vampires for various reasons. I lived through the craze and that was enough to make me lose my mind. Sorry Edward but I count true vampires, not ones who sparkle.

The Lost Boys

This is probably my favorite movie of all time. I can't tell you how much you need to see this movie and if you have, you loved it. 1980's, cool teenage vampires and great fashion. Watch this and you'll thank me.

Lost Boys: The Tribe

A sequel followed from 1987 all the way to 2008. Sure it's not near the first but I love this as well. It reminds me of an updated version and did I mention that the lead vampire is hot?

 Interview with a Vampire

Okay, so I've only saw bits and pieces to this but if it counts I did read the book. You know my biggest turn off, Tom Cruise with blonde hair. I'm sorry but that look was a no go

Queen of the Damned

So this is the third book in the Vampire Chronicles by Anne Rice. First is Interview with a Vampire and then this movie came out. Why it skipped the second book I don't know but trust me; you'll like it. Plus it has Aaliyah in it so it's a bonus.


Vampires versus the Lycans. I actually just watched this movie a few months ago due to an actor I like being in it. It's different from what you may think and the details in it are to die for.

Underworld: Evolution

Hey, a movie I just said I haven't watched. In actuality, I believe there are at least five or six of them but I am only watching the first two. I know they change down the line but who knows if I actually get to them

Fright Night (1985)

Welcome to Fright Night...For Real. This is a classic and has horror plus a dash of humor. This movie is gold and I'm sure most will cross this out quickly. Give it a try though, it's hysterical but not too much

 Fright Night (2011)

What would you do if your neighbor was a vampire? I'll stand with binoculars if my neighbor looks that good. This version is a remake with an updated feel yet seems very parallel. Watch them back to back and you'll see what I mean


Mr. Vlad himself. This movie started the whole vampire craze in my opinion and this was once actually labeled as a love story once upon a time. It is very old but it shows how the classics never die

Dracula 2000

In this updated version, we find Dracula himself roaming the streets of New Orleans with Van Helsing on his trail. I used to love this as a kid and it is very underrated


This is actually a comic book series about a man named Blade who is half human and half vampire. He hunts them down as they want to take over the world. It sounds ridiculous but did I mention again that the main vampire is hot?

The Forsaken

This move is super underrated and may be hard to find. It's about a guy and girl who have been bitten and don't want to turn into vampires. The only way to live is to road trip with a human and kill the leader. It's got gore, action and on top of it no fangs...They still classify

30 Days of Night

This is a movie that my Mom has tried getting me to watch but I never have. I've seen things here and there but it puts vampires in the arctic where night staying for 30 days, that would be absolutely terrifying

True Blood

Now onto the TV Shows. This had lasted seven seasons of HBO and it has everything you need. Vampires, werewolves, werepanthers, fairies...Trust me you are missing out if you haven't saw this show

 The Vampire Diaries

Who doesn't love a love triangle. The Salvatore Brothers falling for Elena Gilbert. I'm sure you've heard of this story or show more than once and it is one of the best. 8 seasons may sound like a lot but you'll love it

The Originals

The Vampire Diaries spin-off takes the Original family of vampires to New Orleans. I can't say enough how much this show means to me and gave me one of my favorite fictional characters ever

Hemlock Grove

If you love Netflix then you can check this show out there. I've only saw the first season but boy oh boy. You are in for a strange ride but it was worth it


This show had only lasted one season but make it what it's worth. I personally loved it and it was a good twist on the horror classic. Give it a try, you'll want more but beggars can't be choosers

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