It's Summer of 2019 and you find yourself single. If you're like me then this is no surprise but if you're not then poor baby! Everyone knows that there are several stages in the post break up process. You experience the Heartbreak stage, the Rehab stage, and then my favorite stage the Bad Bitch stage.
The Heartbreak Stage: At first it's the really heartbreaking couple of days after the break up where everything reminds you of your former boo. This is the time where you typically mope around and eat ice cream by the pints. You're generally in the mood for sad songs that explain your situations.
1. Out of Love by Alessia Cara
This song particularly questions why the relationship couldn't have worked out. The lyrics especially trigger the emotions if you were broken up with.
"There's not a thing I could say, not a song I could sing for your mind to change. Nothing can fill up the space, won't ask you to stay. But let me ask you one thing: Oh, when did you fall out of love, out of love? Ohh, when did you fall out of love with me?"
Of course the voice of Adele can make anyone sob but this ballad really tugs at the heartstrings. She begs for one last happy memory with her ex lover to help her cope with the break up.
"If this is my last night with you, Hold me like I'm more than just a friend. Give me a memory I can use. Take me by the hand while we do what lovers do. It matters how this ends, 'cause what if I never love again?"
If you're unfamiliar with this powerhouse, let me put you on! Her soulful voice describes her thought process while discovering her lover was cheating on her. In the live version you can really hear every little feeling she experiences.
"You can't even look me dead in the eyes. Her love is strong, she got you hypnotised. You say you love me, but I know it's a lie. When I work so hard to keep you satisfied. I, I, I, I'm bout to lose my...My mind, my mind, my mind"
The Rehab Stage: Once the initial shock value wears off and you're besties are trying to coax you into getting out of the house, you enter the Rehab stage. This is the time where you reflect on the relationship and make the attempt to move on and relove/relearn yourself.
In this mellow songs, she explains how she is learning to love herself and accept her situations. It also makes cute references to the bible which always puts me in a good mood personally.
"Woke up this morning with my mind set on loving me, with my mind set on loving me.
I'm not lonely, I'm alone. And I'm holy by my own"
2. Put Your Records On by Corinne Bailey
This early 2000's bop is such a feel good tune. She sings about finding yourself but while still having fun. Stop stressing girl!
"Girl, put your records on, tell me your favorite song. You go ahead, let your hair down
Sapphire and faded jeans. I hope you get your dreams. Just go ahead, let your hair down. You're gonna find yourself somewhere, somehow"
3. Don't Worry Be Happy by Bobby McFerrin
This song is good for any circumstance but especially post breakup! Firstly, its just a super catchy song and should definitely smile at least a little.
"Here's a little song I wrote, You might want to sing it note for note. Don't worry, be happy! In every life we have some trouble, but when you worry you make it double. Don't worry, be happy
Don't worry, be happy now!"
The Bad Bitch Stage: Welcome to the final stage sis! By this time, you are way over the breakup and you're ready to put yourself out there and have some fun. This stage includes many parties and exchanging of information from the cute guy that's been staring at you.
This song is the Summer anthem! It declares that you are great without a guy and you don't need him anyway.
"I just took a DNA test, turns out I'm 100% that bitch, even when I'm crying crazy.
Yeah, I got boy problems, that's the human in me. Bling bling, then I solve 'em, that's the goddess in me. You coulda had a bad bitch, non-committal."
Listen, Cardi B does not make bad music! If this song does not make you feel like you're the baddest thing on Earth, then start it over. Cardi raps about how bomb she is, which then makes you feel bomb too.
"Walkin' past the mirror, ooh Damn, I'm fine (Fine) Let a b*tch try me, boom. Hammer time, uh.
I was born to flex (Yes). Diamonds on my neck. I like boardin' jets, I like mornin' sex (Woo!)
But nothing in this world that I like more than checks (Money)"
Everyone is guilty of posting those thirst traps on social media to show your old boo exactly what they are missing. Yonce definitely sparks that inner baddie by encouraging you to wear that dress!
"Soon as he saw me, turned on by how the dress was fittin' right. Short and backless (backless, backless). See my silhouette in the moonlight."
It's Summer of 2019 and you find yourself single. Don't let it put you down. It gets better!
