Let me give you a quick backstory.

Probably about four years ago, I got a Tinder. I started talking to this guy who was from a town near me, but he went to college in Philly. We would make plans to hang out, and he would come home from school in hopes of seeing me.

But we never did see each other, partly because I was a chicken and partly because it just didn't work out. Soon, he got a girlfriend and, shortly following, I got a boyfriend. So I forgot about him, obviously.

Until 10 months ago when he reached out to me again. This time was strictly on Snapchat, which is honestly odd, but I had a boyfriend still, so it didn't matter. I brushed him off.

But three short months later, I broke up with my boyfriend, and it was like he knew like some mental buzzer went off. Again, he added me on Snapchat, which is still odd.

We have each other's numbers. He asked how I was, what was new, and all the usual things. He asked about my boyfriend, and I told him we broke up.

So, naturally, I asked about his girlfriend. Without hesitation, he told me they were still together.

Okay, WHAT?

After that, I didn't proceed with the conversation because, well, why would I?

I noticed he blocked me on Instagram because that was the only social media we followed each other on, and there were tagged pictures of him and his girlfriend. So, obviously, he had to protect himself from me reaching out to her.

The adding and re-adding on Snapchat persisted for months. He would talk to me for a couple days, delete me, months would go by, and he would do it all over again. It was like clockwork that I could predict when he was going to show up again.

But I finally just couldn't help but wonder, "Dude, you've been with her for YEARS, but you continuously try and hang out with me." You know what he told me, "There is just something about you."

Usually, that's flattering, but NOT when it comes from a guy in a long-term relationship.

Now, my question is, WHY?

Why does anyone, regardless of who they are, think that this is an okay thing to do? Why does anyone think that going behind your significant other's back to talk to someone else is okay?

The reality is, if you ever break up with that person, I will not even slightly consider dating you. I will not even give you the slightest chance because you could do to me exactly what you did to her. There isn't the slightest chance I'm ever going to be able to trust you.