The Truth About Recovery

The Truth About Recovery

Recovery is a lot of things
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Recovery is a process

Recovery is painful

Recovery is constant

Recovery is failing

Recovery is rewarding

Recovery is sacrifice

Recovery is reflection

Recovery is warmth

Recovery is lonely

Recovery is hopeless

Recovery is hope

Recovery is confusing

Recovery is love

Recovery is heartache

Recovery is forgiveness

Recovery is accountability

Recovery is resilience

Recovery is prayer

Recovery is joy

Recovery is appreciation

Recovery is devastating

Recovery is trying

Recovery is support

Recovery is forward

Recovery is understanding that not all days are good days, but overall, the days are still good.

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An Open Letter To The Girl Trying To Get Healthy Again

"I see you eating whatever you want and not exercising" - Pants
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Dear girl trying to get back in shape,

I know it's hard. I know the hardest thing you may do all day is walk into the gym. I know how easy it is to want to give up and go eat Chicken McNuggets, but don't do it. I know it feels like you work so hard and get no where. I know how frustrating it is to see that person across the table from you eat a Big Mac every day while you eat your carrots and still be half of your size. I know that awful feeling where you don't want to go to the gym because you know how out of shape you are. Trust me, I know.

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The important thing is you are doing something about it. I'm sure you get mad at yourself for letting your body get this out of shape, but life happens. You have made a huge accomplishment by not having a soda in over a month, and those small changes are huge. I understand how hard it is, I understand how frustrating it is to not see results and I understand why you want to give up. Being healthy and fit takes so much time. As much as I wish you could wake up the day after a good workout with the 6 pack of your dreams, that just isn't the reality. If being healthy was easy, everyone would do it, and it wouldn't feel so good when you got there.

Remember how last January your resolution was to get back in the gym and get healthy again? Think about how incredible you would look right now if you would have stuck with it. The great thing is that you can start any time, and you can prove yourself wrong.

Tired of starting over? Then don't give up.

You are only as strong as your mind. You will get there one day. Just be patient and keep working.

Nothing worth having comes easy. If you want abs more than anything, and one day you woke up with them, it wouldn't be nearly as satisfying as watching your body get stronger.

Mental toughness is half the battle. If you think you are strong, and believe you are strong, you will be strong. Soon, when you look back on the struggle and these hard days, you will be so thankful you didn't give up.

Don't forget that weight is just a number. What is really important is how you feel, and that you like how you look. But girl, shout out to you for working on loving your body, because that shit is hard.

To the girl trying to get healthy again, I am so proud of you. It won't be easy, it will take time. But keep working out, eating right, and just be patient. You will be amazed with what your body is capable of doing.

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Sexual Predators Don't Deserve Fame And BØRNS Is One So Sell Your Tickets To See Him ASAP

No one seems to be talking about it.

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UPDATE: September 25, 2018, at 3:30 p.m.

Earlier this week, I sat down on Twitter and scrolled through my feed. Suddenly, I found a tweet that startled me. It was by Izzy Humair, who said, "Kaitlin and I LOVED borns. We've been obsessing over him for the past month, watching videos together, planning outfits and our schedules for his concert for this Thursday. We found out he was an abuser last night and we immediately sold our tickets."

For those who don't know me, BØRNS is my favorite artist.

For the past three years, I've listened to all of his songs. I've bought his content. I introduced him to my friends, who purchased tickets to his concerts as well as his merch. He's been my lock screen on my phone for months. I cried my heart out to one of his songs after being broken up with.

BØRNS couldn't be an abuser, could he? I am a feminist. I immediately denounce any star who has been called out for malicious behavior, such as taking advantage of a fan.

How could I have fallen in love with someone who is an abuser?

I stumbled upon the Twitter account @exposing_borns. They had retweeted numerous stories of girls who were taken advantage of by Garrett.

The first story I found was from @kaliforxnia, which caught a bit of attention. She told her story of how BØRNS had befriended her, and when she turned down his sexual advances, he had ignored and ghosted her. By doing this, she felt like she had done something wrong.

This process is called "grooming," defined as "When a sexual or another kind of predator sets the stage for abusing another, such as a child or other person."

They instill trust by giving their victim gifts and then alienate them when they don't get what they want. A groomer usually thrives on power, which is exactly what BØRNS did.

He knew he had power over his fans. He knew he could get what he wanted.

The full story is here.

However, I thought, that is only one story. I didn't want to believe that my idol had done anything as disgusting as that. But the stories only continued, as did screenshot and picture evidence from other girls.

The story that made me believe it all was from a girl named Mathilda, who is 19 years old and met BØRNS in Hamburg. She told her story, which was horrifying, and only worsened when I saw the proof. Knowing she idolized him, BØRNS pressured the young girl for nudes and sexts. If she did not send him things, he would ignore and ghost her.

She claimed he flew her out to Europe, and I found it unbelievable... until I saw the photos.

Misty Boyce, who toured with BØRNS last year, has been liking some of the victims' stories as well as tweets regarding the allegations. When asked about her opinion on the allegations, she replied, "I believe survivors."

There are numerous stories from other fans, all coming out one by one.

Though he has been my favorite artist and his music has gotten me through hard times, I cannot support someone like this. No one should. I encourage you all to spread the word and to not buy a single cent of his future content. Sell your tickets if you have them. Don't give him any more attention.

Sexual predators don't deserve fame. Celebrities should not be allowed to use their fame as leverage for sex and get away with it.

UPDATE: With increased pressure, BØRNS released a statement about these allegations.

For more on the statement from BØRNS; coverage from Spin and Pitchfork.

It says: "I am both hurt and angered over the disturbing and false allegations that have been spread over the past few days on social media. All of the relationships I have had were legal and consensual. They ended abruptly and that obviously caused hurt feelings, but for anyone to suggest anything beyond that is irresponsible."

There were mixed reactions from fans regarding this response. Some praised him for releasing a statement rather than waiting for the situation to blow over. Others viewed the response negatively. I, like many other fans, agree with @anobraintay's reply to his statement: "Things can be legal but not moral. The issue here is he is taking advantage of young girls who idolize him. That's abuse."

While his relationship with these girls may be legal, they are not moral by any standard. They were groomed, manipulated, and abused. We should not applaud a celebrity for simply addressing a topic; we should demand an apology.

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