The Things I Left In 2016

The Things I Left In 2016

New year, new me, and I promise you it's real this time.

I hope when I'm older, I will remember the year 2016 as the year that everything went wrong. Scratch that. I hope when I'm older, I don't remember this year at all. It's pretty safe to say that the bad outweighed the good, demons came to life, and my worst nightmares became a reality. What a year it was, indeed and I'm leaving it all behind. Especially the things I should have left behind long ago.

1. Negativity

I struggle to see the best in every situation and this is something that I always wanted to change about myself. It feels like something goes wrong and I take it like it's the end of the world and it could never get better from here. That isn't the case. If this last year has taught me anything, it's that your attitude is what gets you into the situations you're in and keeps you trapped there. Instead of looking at the glass like it's half full, or half empty, realize that the glass is always refillable.

2. Toxic Relationships

My eyes were opened to a lot of people that were in my life who were doing more hurt than good. This last year I had friends turn into strangers and family turn into enemies. If someone isn't putting as much into your relationship as you are, you need to let them go. If someone is hurting you more than they're doing good for you, you need to let them go as well.

3. Gluten

For those of you who don't know what gluten is, it is the sticky substance in basically all foods that rips us Celiacs' stomachs apart. Gluten was created by the devil himself to wreak havoc to those who can't digest it. I found a couple health food stores around my town and I'm starting from there.

4. My Scale

I started becoming very reliant on checking my weight every single day and the ONLY thing this did for my body was destroy my self image. I started to think that the number that it read was how pretty I was that day. Get rid of that thing. Just be healthy without a piece of metal with a number on it telling you your worth.

5. Ex Boyfriends

Did you ever have an annoying cough that just won't go away? Same thing. This last year was spent trying to relight old cigarettes and I can't preach enough that they never taste the same. If you have someone in your life who just won't go away, do yourself a favor and block their number, delete all of those pictures, and sell the jewelry. You don't need that anymore.

You know that horrible saying that we all say at the beginning of a new year? I'm screaming it this year. Welcome 2017. New year, new me; and I promise you this is real this time.

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To The Parent Who Chose Addiction

Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.


When I was younger I resented you, I hated every ounce of you, and I used to question why God would give me a parent like you. Not now. Now I see the beauty and the blessings behind having an addict for a parent. If you're reading this, it isn't meant to hurt you, but rather to thank you.

Thank you for choosing your addiction over me.

Throughout my life, you have always chosen the addiction over my programs, my swim meets or even a simple movie night. You joke about it now or act as if I never questioned if you would wake up the next morning from your pill and alcohol-induced sleep, but I thank you for this. I thank you because I gained a relationship with God. The amount of time I spent praying for you strengthened our relationship in ways I could never explain.

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Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.

The amount of hurt and disappointment our family has gone through has brought us closer together. I have a relationship with Nanny and Pop that would never be as strong as it is today if you had been in the picture from day one. That in itself is a blessing.

Thank you for showing me how to love.

From your absence, I have learned how to love unconditionally. I want you to know that even though you weren't here, I love you most of all. No matter the amount of heartbreak, tears, and pain I've felt, you will always be my greatest love.

Thank you for making me strong.

Thank you for leaving and for showing me how to be independent. From you, I have learned that I do not need anyone else to prove to me that I am worthy of being loved. From you, I have learned that life is always hard, but you shouldn't give into the things that make you feel good for a short while, but should search for the real happiness in life.

Most of all, thank you for showing me how to turn my hurt into motivation.

I have learned that the cycle of addiction is not something that will continue into my life. You have hurt me more than anyone, but through that hurt, I have pushed myself to become the best version of myself.

Thank you for choosing the addiction over me because you've made me stronger, wiser, and loving than I ever could've been before.

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What I Wish I Knew About Life After High School Before I Had To Live It

Life after high school isn't always what you expected it to be.


So you're about to graduate high school and you think you have it all figured out. You and your best friends are going to stay close throughout college and you're going to take those long road trips in college to see each other. Think again.

Life after high school isn't always what you want it to be. You think you'll miss high school, you'll always be close with your high school besties, and you'll have all this free time in college. That's just not entirely true. I personally do not miss high school. I don't really talk to anyone I went to high school with on a regular basis, and I'm totally OK with that. I have friends in college that I believe will be my lifelong friends whereas my friends in high school didn't make an effort to keep in contact with me after high school.

I haven't had all the free time I've dreamed of in college, because I'm busy with school and meetings. When I'm not doing homework, I'm making sure the rest of my life is in order and all my stuff for school is in line. I'm not the crazy party girl that people think I am because of where I go to school. I'd rather sit in bed and watch Netflix than go out with my friends. I'm not a 4.0 student, but I work so hard in my classes just to make sure that I'm passing. I study a week before tests and still don't always make A's. And that's OK. It's not what I expected during my college years, but it's what's happening, and most of my friends are the same way.

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Just know that life in college isn't all easy, breezy, and beautiful like Covergirl. It's hard and you will struggle whether it be in school or with your friends. College isn't always complete freedom. You'll be tied down with school and life and you won't have the free time that you always imagined. You won't always be best friends with your high school friends. You won't be taking those road trips because you won't be able to afford them, and if you're like me, your parents won't let you.

College won't be exactly what you dreamed it'll be, but it'll be some of the best years of your life.

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