From the time we were little kids, we were taught to be kind-hearted compassionate human beings. As we grow up, those values are still instilled upon us. But there are some people who take the meaning of nice to a whole new level. These are your “nice girls.” They will do anything for you at the drop of a hat, have a hard time saying no, and when they do, they feel immensely guilty about it.
Your nice girls, constantly overthink everything. They have a hard time deciding on things, and on top of that they worry about what you want. The “nice girl” puts other’s feelings before her own and does not want to disappoint you. The point is that nice girls are a rarity and should be appreciated for the struggles that they go through on a daily basis. Here are 13 common struggles a “nice girl” has.
1. She does not think about what she wants. What you want to do is far more important to her because she does not want to disappoint anyone.
2. She is not a push-over, spineless, or weak.
Just because she is genuinely nice does not mean she cannot stand up for herself. Your nice girl, does have a dark side, so don't push her.
3. The word “no” is not in her vocabulary, it physically pains her to say it. This usually causes her to become overwhelmed with too many obligations.
4. And when she finally does use the word “no,” she feels like a complete monster.
5. She says “sorry” a lot…even if she did nothing wrong, she will continue to apologize.
She bumped into you last week? You caught her staring? She had to cancel plans? Chances are she's still sorry about that. All in all, she's apologizing so much because she doesn't want you to hate her. There is just something in her thinking that assumes if she does something wrong no matter how big or small it is, people will automatically hate her with no question. So don't get annoyed if she apologizes a lot, it's just how she is programmed.
6. She feels like it's her obligation to keep everyone happy.
She does not want anyone to ever feel upset because she cannot bear to see them down.
7. She does not like confrontation, and she will do anything at all costs to avoid it, even if it means taking the fault.
8. Chances are, if something is bothering her she will not tell you or she will make up another reason as to why she's acting weird.
9. She will say "I don't know" a lot when asked what she wants to do, eat, or for her opinion.
Her indecisiveness may annoy you but she will say "I don't know" to your questions because if she were to state her opinion, she feels that you might not be happy with it. Not to say, she is not opinionated because she is but her worry of disappointing others is important to her.
10. She keeps most of her problems to herself because she does not want to trouble others with her personal issues.
11. But she has no problem in listening to other people's problems.
12. She feels that she deserves the respect and kindness that she gives to you.
Because she is treating you kindly, it is expected from her that you will do the same. In her mind, being kind and respectful is very easy to do and being rude is something that is difficult to do. It's just not how our brains work, kindness just comes easily, so we expect others to be kind.
13. She loves being the nice girl, but she wants others to understand that she isn't as one-sided as she seems.
In conclusion, the nice girl loves who she is and loves those around her. She is not a push-over and is not perfect or a "goody two-shoes" as some might call it. She has her flaws and wants you to understand that this is who she is and she will not compromise herself in order to make you happy. The "nice girl" feels too much and cares even more. Seeing you happy makes her happy, so please be appreciative for the little things she does. She loves being nice and the feeling of making someone's day makes her day. The nice girl is a rare breed so find yourself one and never let her go.
