In life, you go through so many phases, stages, ups and downs, mood swings, personality shifts, and changes. You also go through friends, boyfriends, pets, couches, plants, wine openers, lamps, etc. There are seldom things in life that are actually permanent and will stick with you forever.
But here’s the truth: We’re humans, and we all get busy. We get distracted. We get caught up in our own lives and busy schedules. And for most of us, it’s hard to find time for everyone we care about. We make time for those that we want to spend our time with. Whether it be a boyfriend, girlfriend, friend, or just yourself. Time is a precious thing, especially when it comes to college life. Life can be so difficult and so stressful sometimes. And I feel like, at the end of the day, people just want to be happy and have fun. We all have the good people in our lives -- the ones who answer your calls at 2 a.m when you’re drunk crying because your heart is broken, or the ones who pick you up in the middle of nowhere when you got a flat tire. Those ones. I know about five or six people I could call that would be there for me. And the funny thing is, I don’t really see those people on a weekly, not even monthly basis. It’s not like they’re a million miles away either. But is it that I just don’t like them anymore?
No, that’s not it at all. I try to find a good thing about each person. I think each person has something amazing in them, but sometimes you have to search really hard in some people to find it. I feel like each one of my friends has an amazing quality. Sometimes, I wish I could take all of each of my friend’s amazing qualities and mash them into one person and just hang out with that one person all the time.
Friends kind of associate with what mood you’re in too, right? Like, I’m depressed today -- I need my chill friend who will talk me through it. Or I’m in the mood to talk all night about deep controversial topics. So I need my crazy smart chatterbox friend. Or, I’m in the mood to get drunk and dance all night long and do stupid things. So I need my friend who will start taking shots with me at 6 p.m when I get off work.
Friends are kind of like moods. And sometimes the moods that you’re feeling just don’t associate with certain people. This year, I’ve been super swamped and the busiest I’ve ever been in my whole life. I didn’t know how to handle it. And I didn’t realize how easily a relationship can fade away when you stop spending time with someone. I know that there are a lot of people who might disagree with this whole mood-friend thing, but isn’t that the point of writing a blog, anyway -- to put all of your feelings out there in the open?
Sometimes, the moods and feelings and interests that you once had in your life aren’t there anymore. And, sometimes, you’re too busy to recognize that. The person I once was when we were friends, isn’t really who I am right now. And should we feel bad about that? I don’t think so. I think that we all are changing and growing as people all the time. Maybe two friends don’t click anymore because they’ve both moved on and grown into bigger, or different things for themselves. And maybe that friendship wasn’t suited for their future lifestyles.
I think most people, when they meet someone tend to search for the flaws. For me, I always try to find at least one thing that’s bad about a person. I’ve noticed, lately, that i’ve developed this habit over time. I think the reason why I do this is because I love being close with people and knowing exactly what I’m dealing with. I love knowing their weak points so I can help them when it becomes present. I love being so close with people that you can be your 100 percent complete self. And it doesn’t just have to be a romantic type of relationship. I mean relationships with friends, family, anyone.
Being close with someone allows you to experience something that you would normally experience alone. Close friendships are amazing when you have them. The sad thing is, they can fade away so easily. And sometimes there’s just nothing you can do to revive that friendship. But it’s kind of something you just have to accept. You kind of just have to realize that it faded away and be thankful that you got to experience another person’s soul in your life. Be thankful for all the people you meet. That’s what I want you to take away from this. Realize that so many people will come and go in your life. Realize that your dreams and goals are the most important, and realize that you should never sacrifice who you are for someone else. Realize that your friendships don’t define you. But choose your friends wisely, because they show a reflection of who you are. Be yourself, and the rest will fall into place.
