In the midst of this crazy life, sometimes we, unfortunately, let go of what is important to us to focus on getting on our feet and standing tall again. And then there are times where we stop focusing on what is our important to us, to help others get back on their own track.
There are some of us out there, who, unfortunately, cannot give up on people. Who cannot go a day without trying to please others and ensure they're satisfied. There are some of us who feel worthless because we do not feel we are making a difference in somebody else's life.
When you are constantly helping everyone else besides yourself, you lose who you are, you disregard what you like, and you start to worry often.
Thanks to my momma, I was blessed with the biggest heart on God's green earth. Unfortunately, thanks to my momma, I was blessed with the biggest heart on God's green earth.
It's not like I hate helping others, or hate being there for everyone... but doing so much for others makes me realize how much of myself I've lost along the way. I've forgotten how to handle myself and my own issues first.
So what does that leave those who are constantly helping others to do? It causes people like us to bury our own issues, ignore it and hope that it works itself out. But, does it? It doesn't ever. Nothing ever gets better unless you take initiative to fix it yourself. You need to focus on yourself and be selfish in times of hardship, stress, and issues.
I'm usually so worried about pleasing everybody because I feel like it is my job to make sure others are okay, settled and happy. That is no way to live. It's normal to help others, it's normal to be there for them, but when it comes to giving up your own life, that is when its time to cut the cord. You do not need to go out of your way and inconvenience yourself to make yourself feel valued.
For those that go out of their way to help others and do not get any thanks in return then that is also a great reason to stop right there what you are doing. Do not become a doormat. Do not let anybody take advantage of you and the giant heart you were blessed with. Your friends, family, and others will always appreciate the love and kindness you were offered, and that is all you need in life.
It is time to be selfish. It is time to realize not everybody can be pleased and would take much more than what you have to offer to make them happy. And in that case, it is important to stop stretching yourself so far. There's going to be times when you have to cut the cord (which should be complete) and work on yourself, work on fixing and completing yourself.
You only have to prove to yourself what you're capable of, which is everything you set your mind to. Do your own thing, complete your goals, lend helping hands, but most of all, be appreciated.
