Nice Girls Don't 'Finish Last'
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Nice Girls Don't 'Finish Last'

Don't be discouraged because of your willingness to commit.

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Nice Girls Don't 'Finish Last'
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You meet someone, and you feel an instant connection. You spend all this time together. It's only ever good times with them. You couldn't picture yourself falling for anyone else.

Once the idea of becoming serious gets in the picture for the two of you, your world turns upside. They avoid answering the question. They stop texting you or answering phone calls. They make any excuse not to see you. It's as if they never truly knew you in the first place. Even worse, you find out that they chose your polar opposite over you. Been there, done that.

When things don't work out as expected, your first intentions are to blame yourself for not being what they want. You forever wish that you took the perfect selfies, or had a supermodel body, or guys pining all over you wherever you go.

In other words, you strive to be "perfect." Beauty doesn't last forever, but sure does a beautiful soul...also known as something you have that she probably doesn't have, and something boys cannot seem to notice.

Stop crossing oceans for people who wouldn't hop over a puddle for you. Even when it's tough, stop caring for people who don't care about you. Don't be discouraged by your willingness to commit. He's right: It's not you, it's him. He's not on your level of maturity or brilliance. Take it as a compliment and start understanding your self worth.

Your kindness towards others, sense of humor, and ability to keep a conversation going cannot compare to anything else in this world! Comparing yourself to others will hurt you even more.

At the end of the day, if you haven't found your prince charming, you have found the person you've always wanted to be. You have a career or a hobby that you can enjoy every moment doing. You have a family to come home to, knowing they love you unconditionally and support the decisions you make in life. You have friends that appreciate your friendship and admire your strength.

Do what makes you happy in life, and don't let anyone stop you from chasing after those dreams. Know that you don't need to depend on someone else for that, especially a guy. Someday, that boy you once loved will realize that he let go of a remarkable girl, who is doing just fine without him.

Among all the girls in relationships, know that you are a sunflower among the roses. You stand taller, stronger, prouder (yet humble) of your accomplishments, and radiate optimism to anyone that crosses your path. Know that you, as a nice girl, have finished first in life, rather than last.

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