Everyone has moments in their life where they're just not feeling the best. When it feels like everything in their world is going wrong and there is nothing that can be done to change that circumstance. Some people are able to bounce back and get past it while others are quietly stuck in a situation where it feels like there is no escape.
No two situations are ever the same and not everyone has people in their lives that can help them get out of their rut. Sometime's it's the people closest to you that are making you feel like you have nobody, and those people aren't even realizing that you're feeling this way.
In class my professor once told me the golden rule is flawed and that we should be following the platinum rule which is, "Treat others how they want to be treated." Not everyone want's to be treated as you would like to be because we are all different people. It's hard to truly treat other's how they would like because humans are flawed and we can't help placing ourselves and opinions into each and every situation.
It's hard to treat other people right, when you don't even know how to treat yourself at times or if you don't even know who you are as a person.
If you're ever feeling like you're in a rut or don't know who you are I promise one of the most important things you can do is to find things that make you happy. This may seem like the obvious answer or solution and I'm not claiming it's an easy task to do by any means, but if you can try its one of the most important goals to achieve. Maybe you love reading but school work, extracurriculars, work, friends, family, etc. has taken away all of your time and you haven't felt like you had any time. Drop everything you're doing and pick up your favorite book and start reading, pick up a new book you've been meaning to read and don't stop until you're finished. Love watching movies and have no time? Have a movie marathon by yourself and don't let anyone tell you that it's gross to stay in all day and binge watch a show because you're doing what makes you happy.
Happiness comes in many forms. In the company of good friends, in the feeling you get when you make someone else’s dreams come true, or in a promise of hope renewed. It’s ok to let yourself be happy, because you never know how great that happiness might be. Sometimes pain becomes such a huge part of your life, that you expect it to always be there, because you can’t remember a time in your life when it wasn’t. But then one day you feel something else. Something that feels wrong only because it’s so unfamiliar, and in that moment you realize you’re happy."
At times, we let other people's judgements of us cloud our opinions and perceptions on what we truly value. At the end of the day, no other person on this earth should seriously make you feel bad for doing something you love to do. the only person you ever have to answer to is yourself. If we start depending on other people's judgements of what is right, and what is wrong then we start giving other people the power to define our happiness.
No person is ever going to be truly themselves if we let other people determine when we are feeling good about ourselves. No love interest is going to suddenly change your life and make you happy until you are happy yourself. Each individual has the strongest power within themselves and that is the power of happiness. We can bring light into other people's lives by simply being ourselves, and a person isn't really themselves when they aren't happy.
We never know what someone else is going through in their lives and the friend that you think is fine may not be. The co-worker you always joke with is going through something, the employee you were mean to is going through something, the person that was rude to you is going through something too. When we are truly happy we learn to not let the ideas and opinions of someone else affect us because they are not responsible for our happiness.
It's hard to truly accept this idea and everyone finds their own way to their own happiness. At the end of the day no matter how you get there, the most important thing to be is just that. Within that you'll find yourself. Go read that book, watch that movie, go on a long drive, take a long hike. Find your own happiness.
