A couple days ago I started off college (whoop whoop, so far I’m enjoying the adult life), and during one of our orientations I saw a couple girls using Tinder to interact with the opposite sex which is no surprise because I attend a women’s college. I was intrigued by the plethora of good looking men available at the tip of my fingers, a whole buffet of dudes to choose from so I decided to create an account (sorry mum and dad, curiosity killed the cat).
The first few minutes I got a ton of matches that made me question the authenticity of tinder, but still I went on. Although most people swipe left and right based on pictures and not what the people had to say, I was more into introductions and some semblance of first impressions they could convey. Nonetheless, I was baffled by a trend I noticed. A ton of the matches I received were particular from white men. Moreover, more than a third of the profiles of black men that I came across had statements like “I only like white girls” which made me quite confused and annoyed.
It been known for ages that black women have received a lot of hatred from basically every race imaginable. We are criticized for our nappy hair, the melanin in our skin, how the colors of our eyes are quite basic...I could go on for days. One thing I didn’t quite expect was that we would be receiving some semblance of hatred and racism from black males. Which led to the obvious question, Why? Their mothers, sisters and most if not all their family members have some shade or form of melanin in their skin so why direct their hate towards one of their own.
It’s not mystery that light skinned or mixed black women are always favored over chocolate and dark skinned women. During the early period of slavery, black people who were mixed could pass as white if their skin was lighter than a brown paper bag and they were classified as mullattos (derogatory term from what I’ve heard). I supposed this might be a starting point where dark skinned black women felt left out but it didn’t matter cause we could always count on our men to back us up right?. Well wrong! We’ve been cast aside to welcome white women and biracial babies so they could conform to the expectations of society. Now I’m not saying I’m against bi-racial relationship between a black man and a white woman, by all means I totally ship it, but when you choose to blatantly and purposely be racist against your own women in order to fulfill your own desire to have biracial kids cause you don’t think black kids are worthy, well you need to rethink your standards because It seems to me that you don’t quite value yourself.
Black men guilty of this: Get your act together and reexamine your racist views directed at your own women.
Black women: Keep doing what you’re doing! According to the National Center for Education Statistics, between 2009 and 2010, black women earned 68 percent of all associate degrees awarded to black students, as well as 66 percent of bachelor’s degrees, 71 percent of master’s degrees and 65 percent of all doctorates awarded to black students. While black men out there trying to find a white chick, we’ll be out here getting these degrees and showcasing our #Blackgirlmagic cause we don’t need y’all. Black girl magic all day, everyday.
