We all have that friend that will constantly hit you up on the weekend, wondering about your weekend plans, but as the week comes along they are no where to be found. They simply text, "Let's go out this weekend, yeah?" After I I casually respond, "Probably not going out," the messages tend to stop, and I wait to hear from them as Thursday rolls around again.
So why is it so bothersome? It isn't because they only hang out to party, because I obviously do have my going out crew, but it's the fact they act like a friend but the truth unfolds and the obvious is there: they are using you to party.
These friends are hard to identify, because before you are used for your pre games and invites to themed parties, they'll snuggle up to you in the hopes of being invited out every weekend. The blunt honest truth is that they will pretend to be your friend. Soon enough, hanging out is unnatural and partying becomes the norm of the friendship.
Soon enough, it's obvious that you are being used for your pre games and the introduction to other friends (especially in frats). Whether you recognize it or not, just give it time, and soon enough you'll see the traits of the friend who only likes to party. This friend has many traits, and one of them is my ultimate favorite: ditching you at the party (I hope you noted my sarcasm). That's right, you get to the party that you were invited to, and even though you brought them along, they end up spending the night chatting up new people and not even a second is spent with you. When it's time to go, though, the friend will quickly follow the group in the hopes it wasn't too obvious they completely ditched you for the night.
Whether you are at the scene of the crime or not, this friend will show many symptoms of showing they only want you for your parties. The texts will become limited, especially if you don't want to party, and your liquor will be shared amongst not only them, but their friends too, as they will try to convince you to let their friends join you.
So what do you do about a friend like this? Well, I guess the odds are in your favor. It's completely up to you. In a situation like this, it's hard to decide. I mean they were your friend at first, right? Then again, they are clearly using you for your parties and your house. So I guess that being said, you can deal with the friend or you can let them go as they make it more clear that there is no real solid friendship to be shared. If you can't hang, why should you be able to party?
