To The Friend That Received But Never Gave Back

To The Friend Who Received But Never Gave Back

I kept giving and giving, and received nothing in exchange.


Dear You,

I know it's been quite some time, too much in fact.

I don't know why you still run sometimes through my head like a sad carousel full of nostalgic bittersweet memories.

Honestly, I wondered why I would be writing this letter after so long, but I realize now that I haven't fully gotten closure over what happened between us.

I'm still not over the screaming and the hot tears that rolled down our faces as we watched our friendship shatter before our very eyes. Ever since that day, I wondered if I was the reason why our friendship fell apart.

Was I not good enough? Did I do something wrong?

It didn't make sense to me though, I remember always putting in so much time and energy into our friendship, how could it have fallen apart?

That's when it hit me. I was the one putting in the time and energy, I was the one. Me.

I kept giving and giving, and received nothing in exchange.

I remember you calling me, your voice was wavering like you had been crying for hours, and you had, about a significant other that had broken your heart once again.

I remember dropping everything I was doing just to talk to you and remind you of who you were. You're wonderful, you don't need someone to remind you of that, but in reality, you already had someone reminding you. You had me.

What I don't remember though, was receiving help, even after I told you my mother was diagnosed with cancer.

I received a pitiful "It'll be OK," followed by you wondering how on earth you were going to talk to your latest significant other; I was ridiculous and offered you help anyway, knowing that what you were doing wasn't OK.

I know it was my fault too.

Now that we've both grown, I've come to the realization that I don't ever want that friendship back.

I've realized now what true friendship and love is.

I realize now that loyalty isn't a meaningless word like we always thought it was, but rather one that can rival Love.

All those years of wondering why I wasn't good enough doesn't matter anymore, because the truth is, I am good enough.

I'm good enough for my friends in college and I'm good enough for the few friends I have back home.

I am more than just "The Smart Friend."

I am kind, wonderful, funny, and such a good person.

What we had wasn't healthy, but I wish you nothing but the best in life.

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Summer = Rest?

Sometimes it feels as if we need a vacation... from our vacation.


Ah summer: Popsicles and sun burns, mixed with fresh-squeezed lemonade that local kids are pandering to make enough money for Roman candles and Black Cats. The crack of the bat can be heard among the simmering charcoal grills and Troy-bilts humming through the ever-lasting sun. School is out and children are wild. It's a paradise.

Or is it?

But after countless sports camps and tournaments, other camps, vacations, school (?) events, traveling teams, VBS, summer seems to have been sucked fun-free.

Maybe it's Hollywood and Harper Lee's fault for giving us this utopian view of what summer should look and feel like (I'm looking at you Sandlot). But how can we really rest this summer? Because everyone needs some actual rest, even adults.

First thing is do NOT pack your summer full. Say no to some things. Coaches and Families can expect too much and it's okay to say no to them. You have to. There is no time for kids to be kids anymore.

Work can take a backseat. Vacations need to be taken. Families need to reconnect.

And for all my super-scheduled people out there, please PLEASE don't schedule out your vacation. Just enjoy it.

Another bit of advice would be to put away the technology and spend some time outside. When was the last time you tried to catch lightning bugs? Or went for a swim? Or listened to birds on your front porch?

I may sound like I have an old soul, but I really feel like we have lost this connection to the outside world. Summer is all about getting a farmer's tan and getting stung once or twice. I can guarantee you that's some of the best therapy in the world.

Maybe this sounds all over the place. Maybe this sounds like me ranting. And it probably is.

But I'm telling you that this stuff matters. Don't let summer whiz by and you arrive in August more drained that you were in May. Enjoy this time with family and friends.

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