In life, you expect the cute boy with perfect hair to break your heart, but that’s not always the case. Sometimes, girls can break your heart more effortlessly than the guy who you’re lusting over. The hardest part about your best friend breaking your heart is that she’s not there to help piece it back together.

At first, you think, “It’s just an argument, we’ll be friends again by tomorrow.” Then, you realize that you’ve reached your breaking point. The constant cycle of being on good terms and bad terms with your bestie begins to stabilize with the bad and, eventually, there’s hardly any good. The friendship turns into this toxic relationship and the only type of happiness that you get from it is from the past.

When you've done everything that you possibly could to keep the friendship going, you should be OK with it ending. You no longer have to compromise your happiness for the friendship. All that you can think about now is who you are going to get lunch with tomorrow. Who are you going to binge watch Netflix with? Most of all, who are you going to have as your best friend? All of these questions have the same answer. It's you. You can get lunch with yourself, you can binge watch a series alone, and you need to be your own best friend.

Often, we lose ourselves within our friends. Trying new things is never a bad thing, but when you’re forgetting the roots of who you are in order to be friends with someone, it’s not worth the companionship. This is the process of remembering who you were before you tried to impress someone else. You can grow from the friendship that went sour and know that you aren’t dependent on someone else for your identity. This is the time to reacquaint yourself with who you are.

To the friend who broke my heart, thank you for helping me find who I need to be.