The Danger Of Comparison

The Danger Of Comparison

Don't fall into the temptation.
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It is rather difficult to not compare yourself to others, especially living in a time when our lives seem to be documented on social media for everyone to see. But how much of what we post actually correlates with who we are? I would guess about slim to none. That is because what we post on social media is handpicked and filtered—not the reality of our lives.

Now I’m not saying social media is evil; in fact, there are many benefits to it. It’s a great tool for keeping in touch with others and good for spreading the word about important causes. It is also a great opportunity to voice yourself and share information. But to what extent are we letting what we see on social media frame our opinions of others?

Even if social media were out of the equation, I have noticed both in my own experience and in hearing the experiences of others that there is a huge danger of comparison in our society.

Comparing yourself to others is, of course, natural but not productive. When you compare yourself to others, you are comparing yourself to what you perceive they are like, when in reality, they could be going through something you know nothing about.

Comparing yourself to others is dangerous because every human being on earth is different, and there is something truly amazing about this fact. There are some people who are simply more athletically gifted, some people who are more math-minded, and some people who just have a naturally good singing voice. Just because you are not the same as someone does not mean that they are superior or that you are inferior. It simply means that you are wired differently, and I think that’s something to embrace.

Now, I’m not saying it’s an easy task to stop comparing yourself to others. Most people do! It’s easy to fall into the temptation, especially when you think what they have is better than what you have. But it can go the other way, too. You can compare yourself to others in an arrogant way, thinking that you are superior to others for whatever reason.

Comparison is dangerous.

In my life, too often I have compared myself to others, and it has prevented me from living my life to the fullest. I’ve gotten down on myself for no reason and been undeservingly harsh to myself. This is not productive. This is dangerous.

Stop comparing yourself to others because every life is different. You simply have no idea what is going on in someone else’s life, and it is unfair to make a judgment about someone’s character because of what you think they are like. Stop comparing yourself to others and let yourself be happy—let yourself be free! There are so many obstacles that we go through in this life, and it would be a shame to add more just because we think we know what others are going through.

The danger of comparison is how it prevents us from being truly happy. If we acknowledge this danger and tell ourselves that we are all different, we can escape from it and in turn, be sincerely free.

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

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Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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The Danger Of Future Tripping

Making small goals can help you achieve a better tomorrow.

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The future is mysterious. Because of this elusive, unknown timeline we all face, why shouldn't we spend our time daydreaming of our distant goals and desires? These dreams have a tendency to taunt us in our seemingly boring present life. But it feels so wonderful to visualize ourselves in a better, distant state of absolute satisfaction and fulfillment in all aspects of our future. This visual that we create of a happier, healthier, and stronger self, is what we consider to be our ending goal; our definition of success.

So what is future tripping, and why is it detrimental to our future success and present satisfaction with our lives? According to Healthyplace.com future tripping is a "human condition of peering into the imagined future and anticipating the outcome," but what's wrong with visualizing our "perfect" future career, future lifestyle, and future home, with a wood burning stove and all? Well, before I completely bash visualizing a "better" you, I have to give it credit because it gives you a motivator. The issue is that people, including myself, get so caught up in what we want rather than what we need to do to achieve this version of ourselves and our life.

If we were to only focus on our ending goal, we are creating an existence of madness, and impatience. We need to begin making smaller goals and smaller effort in an effort to become better. A peer of mine said something the other day that struck home. In my own words, he said, "You can only be better than the person you were yesterday." What a simple, achievable goal to work on daily. It sets the bar low, making it easier to feel satisfied as you lie in bed at night and think, "What did I do today that made me a better me than yesterday?" In making these small, easily achievable goals daily, you are working towards this future "self" you wish to become. In other words, you must walk before you can run.

The sooner we begin rewiring our consciousness to confront our current life, self, and mini goals, the more attainable and realistic our far-off goals will become. Each day must be lived, that is a fact. If we are always thinking about tomorrow, or a year from now, or decades from now, we are wasting the precious opportunities of living, exploring, and growing that today offers. If we continue to romanticize and future trip, our levels of current satisfaction will begin to plateau.

I'd like to add and reiterate, that it is good to plan, and that it is good to have an overarching goal to work towards. College presents a perfect environment for structuring your goals (career/life path), and giving you daily errands (homework) that slowly, but surely, take you closer to your desired outcome.

So I hope that in reading this, you will start to catch yourself from future tripping in those moments of current disappointment and make a goal to make tomorrow better.

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