DISCLAIMER: I am only one woman and these are just some thoughts and a little bit of research I've done in the past about what deems male dominance as "sexy". Obviously this varies from person to person, so NOT every single woman you encounter will feel this way. However, this post will discuss general trends I've discovered and my personal thoughts about male dominance :)

I'm sure almost everyone on the planet has heard the phrase "Nice guys finish last", right? Well, I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but in a lot of ways this phrase is plausible. It's not necessarily the fact that girls don't like nice guys. We want our men to be nice to us and treat us with respect. However, most of the time the thing that separates nice guys from bad boys is the dominant personality.

So what exactly does it mean to be a "bad boy"?

What classifies as a bad boy can vary depending on who you ask. Some may say that bad boys are fuckboys who talk to a lot of different girls and treat each one of them like shit. Some think of a bad boy as in a guy who doesn't know how to express his emotions due to a troubled past. Others might only think of a bad boy as a narcissistic guy who typically likes to take charge in all aspects of his life without questioning the consequences. Either scenario you look at, you'll find that dominance is the common denominator no matter how you define a bad boy.

Jamie Dornan as Christian Grey in Fifty Shades of Grey is one of many examples of a dominant Alpha male

But why do some women find dominance attractive?

From an evolutionary standpoint, women usually have more to lose when it comes to mate selection. Reproductive success is key for women who ultimately want a husband in the future. Therefore, women who gravitate to more dominant partners subconsciously do so because they hold superior genes. Depending on a woman's hormonal cycle, her preference of more masculine looking men with rugged facial features and stronger genes over men with effeminate features persists. In other words, when a woman is ovulating she'll prefer dudes who look like Idris Elba and Chris Hemsworth over pretty boys like Zac Efron.

From a sexual standpoint, dominant men are much more assertive by nature. There's a lot more adventure and thrill added to the mix. Relationships with these kind of men are not going to be like your typical YouTube couple that basic girls go insane over because they're "goals". It's more like a relationship where both of you are crazy about each other and can't keep your hands off of each other because passion is what ultimately drives the relationship.

But what if a man isn't necessarily a dominant guy, but wants to take on aspects of that role to please his woman?

If you're a guy who has this dilemma then you've come to the right place. Also, if you're a girl who is interested in a stereotypical nice guy and you're figuring out how you can get him to spice things up without going overboard, you have also come to the right place. Before we get into the good stuff though, first things first. Just because I use the word "dominant" does not mean that it is okay to take on a toxic persona and treat your woman like trash to get her attention. Being assertive does not mean that you're exempt from treating women with respect. Also, dominance is only attractive if the woman is actually interested in you so don't even think about trying anything you're about to read if you're not 100% sure she's into you. Got it? Great. Now on to the good stuff.

My personal advice to any guy who wants to show more dominance in his relationship is to not hold back. If you're chillin with your girl or potential girl and you think she looks beautiful in her attire (whether it be a red dress, silk robe, or even shorts and an oversized T-shirt), tell her and don't be meek about it. Say it with your chest! Don't just tell her she looks good, but also tell her why. Does her attire show off her long, sexy legs? Does her silk robe make you want to bend her over and make her yours? Let her know and go into detail! Not only does this boost her confidence, but it'll leave her imagination flowing about what you'll do to her sooner or later. Once you've gotten to the point where you're going to have sex, try and explore different ways in which you can implement a power exchange. This can include grabbing her face when you're kissing her, spanking her, gripping her hair, and/or tying her up to the bed. You can do it bit by bit and add a little more strength each time so it creates more psychological anticipation.

Never forget that consent is required though, and every women is different. Some might want to explore more BDSM in the bedroom and others may want more subtle gestures of dominance like putting your arm around her shoulder sometimes when you two are out on a double date to show others the authoritative body language or calling her your Queen, your girl, or whatever word you find appropriate. You may not think of it as a big deal, but including the word "your" is a more subtle way of showing her that she's yours without going too overboard and being borderline possessive. There are probably hundreds of ways you can assert dominance while still being respectful of your woman as long as you're willing to put yourself out there and take that risk.