This is not an easy topic to talk about. Thanksgiving is giving thanks to the food that people around you have provided and over the years that others have done. The expression of gratitude towards God for all the food that is available on that special day and helping others in need of that food. Food is provided and people enjoy their meal, talking at the table about numerous topics that may not pertain to Thanksgiving. A beautiful gathering of enjoyable food to eat and friends/family to be around. I am having Thanksgiving as a child of divorce. Even though my mother and father have been divorced for quite a while, it is still tough. It would be great to have everyone come together for the most part. I mainly have Thanksgiving every year at my grandmother's house with my uncles, aunts, and cousins. Every year it is great to talk to them about what has been going on in the past years, but then you realize that you are missing one person that is not there at that moment.
Divorce sometimes is for the best because of many reasons that may involve money issues, relational conflicts, or just taking care of things without any time. Divorce is better than staying together with marital conflict because the children or child is affected greatly after hearing all those arguments and disputes often. Thanksgiving is giving thanks to what you have necessarily and to what you had. Divorce is a process that takes time to endure, so when my parents divorced a couple of years back, I was not really aware of what was going on. It was all a blur and then understanding the whole concept all made sense. I really thing that people sometimes are deserved to be together, but not everyone is deserved to be together. This is just saying that problems can come in a relationship, but too many that cannot be worked out will make that relationship detrimental without proper help. Giving thanks to others will only make you feel good and those others feel good, leading to reciprocity; whatever someone gives you will most likely return the favor.
Thanksgiving as a child of divorce is not that bad when you have a positive mindset for your future and helping people realize that life is what you make of it. Spending time with your family, eating delicacies, and cherishing those moments is what Thanksgiving is about. Those problems and dilemmas that one had in life are of the past for many of us and we have to cherish what we have today not what we went through in the past. The past can be different from others, but its the past look into the future more. Hope everyone's Thanksgiving goes great!
