A lot of us have grown up without an important part of our lives--a Father. To some of us it has been very painful, but for a lot of us it has been a blessing in disguise. When I was dragged to therapy sessions she would always tell me that me not having a Father was the root of my "issues." It's something I've always refused to believe because I see his absence as part of my success. He's taught me many things and here is just a few of them.

Dear _____,

I haven't seen you for a few years. I haven't shown up to the legendary Christmas parties at Grandma's house, I haven't gone to the birthday dinners at Cracker Barrel, but I'm not the one to blame. The last time you called me was on my 15th birthday, that was four years ago. The last time I saw you was a couple Christmas' ago. You walked out of every room I walked in, you barely talked to me. I guess we don't know how to talk to each other, but again I'm not the one to blame.

Last July, I decided to give you one last chance. I invited you to my high school graduation, and for the first time in a long time, I was excited to see you. I was excited for you to see me walk across that stage, and I was hopeful that you would realize--I did it without you. I was also hopeful that maybe you had changed. Maybe you would hug me, and tell me how proud of me you were. I was seeking your affirmation, but I now know, I do not need it.

You didn't show up. I was kind of upset, but I didn't let it ruin MY day. I'm grateful to you for not coming. You reminded me that you aren't worth getting my hopes up. You reminded me of my strength.

I'm writing this to thank you because you are the second biggest reason for my success. The first being my angel of a Mother for raising me by herself.

So I thank you...

I thank you for leaving, allowing me to have the relationship with my Mom that I do.

Thank you for teaching me at an early age how to deal with someone I love leaving me.

Thank you for teaching me that some love does not last forever.

Thank you for disappointing me time and time again, you've taught me to not expect too much from most people.

I thank you for reminding me to never let you witness my success.

You've taught me a lot, Dad. But I hope you realize it isn't because of your presence--it's thanks to your absence. I'm a stronger person because of you, and that was the greatest gift you could have given me. I wonder if you miss me at times like I miss you, but I'm thankful that you stay away. I don't need your hectic lifestyle, or your excuses anymore. I don't need your inconsistency. I will always think of you, and wonder how you're doing. But I know I'm better off without you, and I've finally accepted that.

Signed,

Your "daughter," or something like that.