Over the past years I’ve been taught to keep the “upper hand” by my mom. The “upper hand” can mean a lot of different things. But I have been taught that it is an invisible hand that helps you gain power or confidence, whether this at school, work, in relationships, or yourself. Very similar to DJ Khaled's keys to success. These are 10 ways for you to keep the “upper hand.”

1. Smile, because when you smile not only do you get other people to smile back, but you make them feel comfortable and relaxed.

2. If words are silver, silence is gold.

3. When making important phone calls or dates, do it at the end of the week. People are in a much better mood because it is the weekend.

4. If you have a complaint about anything, always start off with something positive: you will get your point across much better. Maybe even end with a positive thing as well.

5. No matter how bad your day is always remember that tomorrow is a new day with a new beginning. You are keeping the “upper hand” here with yourself.

6. First respect yourself, then most people will respect you.

7. Be a good listener, people will communicate with you better and you might find them interesting.

8. Don't have angry feelings, the only person it hurts is you and you will always look mad.

9. Never regret any decisions you make, for they happened for a reason. You can learn from them whether they were the right decisions or the wrong ones.

10. Always stay in control of yourself because you don't want someone else being in control of you.

Bonus!

11. Use your resources and do your research. You will have a better argument and have a greater chance in success no matter what you do.

12. Stay true to yourself and what you believe in.

13. If you are not okay with something make sure to speak up. Your voice needs to be heard.

With these tips keeping the upper hand is easy. Whether you are dating someone, dealing with friends, or trying to handle your job. These tips can make you confident in anything that you decide to do.