Technology Has Changed The Way We Date But I'd Really Like To Rewind To The Traditional Ways Of Dating

Technology Has Changed The Way We Date But I'd Really Like To Rewind To The Traditional Ways Of Dating

I'm sick of hearing about people swiping right

121
views

Have you ever heard about how your parents or your grandparents first met? It's a story you have maybe even heard over a dozen times. Whether you are tired of hearing it or not, there is no denying that the stories told by older generations are drastically different from ones you hear about today.

Quite frankly I am getting tired of hearing the same old narrative of people meeting on Tinder by swiping right. Where has the romance gone?

People used to have to physically ask another person out on a date in person. Much of the interactions were also done in person as opposed to behind a screen. There was a rawness in this process that seems to be drifting away as social media and other forms of technology are the predominant ways in which our society interacts now.

The actual process of dating has become nonexistent in the college setting. Many college kids prefer to say, "We are just talking." The "talking" phase has been extremely pronounced in recent years which indicates a casualness to the relationship which indicates a lack of commitment by both individuals, As a result in this shift, the hookup culture is at the forefront of experience people have while in college. This may be because of the fact that technology is so convenient and easy to use that it does not take much time or effort.

With technology at our fingertips at virtually all times, there are issues between people who are seeing each other. We all know of someone who is overly obsessive and checks the other's social media accounts, scrolls through text messages, and even more. I've heard from many guys that they were with someone who has taken their phone to go through everything to make sure they weren't talking to anyone else or even liking another girl's picture on social media. Come on folks, it's time to stop obsessing and stop worrying about what another person is doing on their phone.

Where has the trust and commitment gone in relationships? It's time to drop the cell phone and utilize the power of interacting in a face-to-face setting when possible. I'm not suggesting that we need to revert back to all of the traditional ways of dating, but sometimes I think it would make life so much simpler. Let's change our minds about what dating is and try to make more connections in real life and fewer matches on Tinder.

Popular Right Now

An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.
198178
views

Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.

Sincerely,

Your Son’s Girlfriend

Cover Image Credit: Christian Images and Quotes

Related Content

Connect with a generation
of new voices.

We are students, thinkers, influencers, and communities sharing our ideas with the world. Join our platform to create and discover content that actually matters to you.

Learn more Start Creating

It's Time For Romance Movies To Start Portraying Love And Relationships More Accurately

It's 2019, get with the times.

1512
views

Currently, on TV and in the movies, many romance movies have the same storyline. If it's on Hallmark, two people fall in love and complete some kind of mission. If it's in the movies two people date/fall in love, something causes them to break up, then they get back together and everyone lives happily ever after.

The problem is that all of these plots are seriously unrealistic.

All of these movies and TV shows just inaccurately portray how a relationship works in real life. A real relationship takes a lot of work, time, and effort. Not everything is candy canes, unicorns, and comes so easily. There are so many other factors that people have to think about.

I really got into watching these romantic type movies when I started watching PG-13 movies. I would watch them and picture all my relationships going this way. But these movies painted the wrong picture of relationships. I'm not saying my boyfriend is a bad boyfriend at all, he is wonderful! But we both have learned it takes a lot of work, time, effort, and communication. These are things very few romance movies teach us.

Also, everyone expects things from their significant others from what they see in these movies. I was one of those people, but then real life hit. There are bills, jobs, and time management that you have to consider. This doesn't mean that my boyfriend and I don't go out, but we have to choose wisely for what we do and when we do it! We have also found fun things to do at home in place of going out in order to save money.

I understand that many people like to watch these programs and enjoy them. But there needs to be a change to accurately portray a relationship. Personally, I think this is why many young people's relationships don't last - they have watched this easy relationship develop and stay in a movie and they haven't seen what it is like in real life.

So, to those who produce these types of movies and shows, it's time that you start making things more realistic.

Related Content

Facebook Comments