To The Person Having Their Quarter Life Crisis

To The Person Having A Quarter Life Crisis, Don't Settle Just To keep Up

The quarter life crisis is far too real.


So if you're reading this, you are probably in your twenties. Going to college or just getting out of college into the real world. Your love life is DOA (Dead On Arrival) and your usual date night are with Netflix and the pint of Talenti in your fridge. No shame because this is me every other weekend.

Now I'm just going to get straight to the point. A lot of us millennials have friends or family members who are jumping the broom (getting married) or trading their shot glasses for bottles of formula. You got all the invitations you've gotten in the mail pinned your fridge so you don't forget what days. You have to head over to Ross to get several weddings outfits, sometimes you a designated outfit for weddings. You and your single friends are always at the designated "singles table" and fake smile for the picture while we are asking ourselves "What am I doing with my life?" or "Why can't I find anybody?"

And if you're a bridesmaid, you're trying to make the dress the bride picked work while getting hit on by half of the groom's family.

Then there are your friends who are having kids left and right and see a daily pregnancy announcement on your timeline. When I tell you the amount I've spent on gifts for baby showers and birthday presents, you would think I was doing short-term payments to the student loan office. We love kids don't get us wrong but some of us aren't really ready for kids yet or don't want them at all. Hell, there are times people are asked by friends to hold their kids and will hold a baby mid-air and ask what to do with it.

But we have those family members that ask us "When are you going to find somebody special?" or "When are you going to give me some grandkids?" The friend group that you started young adulthood with are popping out a new baby every eight months. Meanwhile, you're that cool aunt that babysits but ready to hand them back to their parents a the end of the night.

Now you're probably feeling a lot of emotions and self-evaluating yourself about what you think you're doing wrong.

Scared that you'll end up being that old maid that will be trying to relive her younger years.

No lie, I've had times where I thought of being in the world records book for owning the most cats or dogs in your house.

I'm here to tell you that there is nothing wrong with you. It's okay to be picky. It's okay to be on your own. It's okay that you have a plan for your life and want to wait. There's no timeline that we're supposed to follow. We don't need to grow up so fast. It's okay to be selfish and want more out of life before you settle down. You're young and if you have dreams, go for them. If you want to wait for the right time, there's nothing wrong with that. You are your own person and you are the captain of your ship on the journey that is your life. So get off the couch and turn off Netflix and go live your best life!

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To The Nursing Major During The Hardest Week Of The Year

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.


To the Nursing Major During Finals Week,

I know you're tired, I know you're stressed, and I know you feel like you can't go on. I know that no part of this seems fair, and I know you are by far the biggest critic of yourself. I know that you've thought about giving up. I know that you feel alone. I know that you wonder why in the world you chose one of the hardest college majors, especially on the days it leaves you feeling empty and broken.

But, I also know that you love nursing school. I know your eyes light up when you're with patients, and I know your heart races when you think of graduation. I know that you love the people that you're in school with, like truly, we're-all-in-this-together, family type of love. I know that you look at the older nurses with admiration, just hoping and praying that you will remain that calm and composed one day. I know that every time someone asks what your college major is that you beam with pride as you tell them it's nursing, and I know that your heart skips a beat knowing that you are making a difference.

I know that no grade can possibly prove what kind of nurse you will be. I know that no assignment will showcase your compassion. I know that a failed class doesn't mean you aren't meant to do this. I know that a 'C' on a test that you studied so. dang. hard. for does not mean that you are not intelligent. I know that no amount of bad days will ever take away the empathy inside of you that makes you an exceptional nurse.

I know that nursing school isn't fair. I know you wish it was easier. I know that some days you can't remember why it's worth it. I know you want to go out and have fun. I know that staying up until 1:00 A.M. doing paperwork, only to have to be up and at clinicals before the sun rises is not fair. I know that studying this much only to be failing the class is hard. I know you wish your friends and family understood. I know that this is difficult.

Nursing school isn't glamorous, with the white lab coat and stethoscope. Nursing school is crying, randomly and a lot. Nursing school is exhaustion. Nursing school is drinking so much coffee that you lose track. Nursing school is being so stressed that you can't eat. Nursing school is four cumulative finals jam-packed into one week that is enough to make you go insane.

But, nursing school is worth it. I know that when these assignments are turned in and finals are over, that you will find the motivation to keep going. I know that one good day of making a difference in a patient's life is worth a hundred bad days of nursing school.

Keep hanging in there, nursing majors. It'll all be worth it— this I know, for sure.

So, if you have a nursing major in your life, hug them and tell them that you're proud of them. Nursing school is tough, nursing school is scary, and nursing school is overwhelming; but a simple 'thank-you' from someone we love is all we need to keep going.


A third-year nursing student who knows

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To The High School Graduating Seniors

I know you're ready, but be ready.



I am not going to say anything about senioritis because I was ready to get out of there and I'm sure you are too; however, in your last months living at home you should take advantage of the luxuries you will not have in a college dorm. The part of college seen in movies is great, the rest of it is incredibly inconvenient. It is better to come to terms with this While you still have plenty of time to prepare and enjoy yourself.

Perhaps one of the most annoying examples is the shower. Enjoy your hot, barefoot showers now because soon enough you will have no water pressure and a drain clogged with other people's hair. Enjoy touching your feet to the floor in the shower and the bathroom because though it seems weird, it's a small thing taken away from you in college when you have to wear shoes everywhere.

Enjoy your last summer with your friends. After this summer, any free time you take is a sacrifice. For example, if you want to go home for the summer after your freshman year and be with your friends, you have to sacrifice an internship. If you sacrifice an internship, you risk falling behind on your resume, and so on. I'm not saying you can't do that, but it is not an easy choice anymore.

Get organized. If you're like me you probably got good grades in high school by relying on your own mind. You think I can remember what I have to do for tomorrow. In college, it is much more difficult to live by memory. There are classes that only meet once or twice a week and meeting and appointments in between that are impossible to mentally keep straight. If you do not yet have an organizational system that works for you, get one.

I do not mean to sound pessimistic about school. College is great and you will meet a lot of people and make a lot of memories that will stick with you for most of your life. I'm just saying be ready.

-A freshman drowning in work

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