Advice For The Students Who Never Speak Up In Class

To The Kid In The Corner Seat Suffering In Silence, Speak Up!

In this day and age, shaming is deteriorating.

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I have never had a problem with learning in class, but I do know if I get behind that I can always ask for help. Asking questions in class felt like taboo back in high school. The number of mumbles that you would hear or even the outburst of "you're stupid" was enough to keep anyone from raising their hand. Obvious questions were left unspoken because of the ramifications of looking like you had no common sense (which isn't even common anymore). It began to make me think about the students who were behind further than I am and what they must be going through.

Ask for help.

Getting help with any type of work these days is easier than ever. You have tutors, online tutors, Google, Youtube, Wolfram Alpha, and Quizlet. I personally have these great resources to thank for my success throughout my years of schooling. Utilizing these allows you to not only catch up in class but also get ahead of the ball. Falling behind in class (especially at the collegiate level) can be really stressful because of the other classes that you are taking. You have to compensate for time lost in one class for a time in another and it can easily become a disaster as the semester goes on.

Do not try to be a macho man or woman and fight it out.

If you are struggling with a subject, do not suffer in silence. Suffering in silence is not a good habit and it is also not a good habit to loudly complain about the trouble you are having. To find legitimate help. If you have a friend that has taken a class before you have to take it, go and ask that friend for help. Find your instructor or teacher assistant's office hours. I can't tell you how many times I've gone to see a TA and they are more than excited to help me with my problem. Do you know why they are so eager to help? Because NO ONE ever goes to see them, so they sit in their office all day doing nothing (that's why you always hear someone say TA's doing nothing as an FYI). If you give them nothing they will do nothing.

If you have no other motivation to get help in your class, think about this.

You are paying to be in that class. So, that means you are paying to suffer in silence. Do the right thing for yourself and your pockets and get help!

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This Is How Your Same-Sex Marriage Affects Me As A Catholic Woman

I hear you over there, Bible Bob.
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It won't.

Wait, what?

I promise you did read that right. Not what you were expecting me to say, right? Who another person decides to marry will never in any way affect my own marriage whatsoever. Unless they try to marry the person that I want to, then we might have a few problems.

As a kid, I was raised, baptized, and confirmed into an old school Irish Catholic church in the middle of a small, midwestern town.

Not exactly a place that most people would consider to be very liberal or open-minded. Despite this I was taught to love and accept others as a child, to not cast judgment because the only person fit to judge was God. I learned this from my Grandpa, a man whose love of others was only rivaled by his love of sweets and spoiling his grandkids.

While I learned this at an early age, not everyone else in my hometown — or even within my own church — seemed to get the memo. When same-sex marriage was finally legalized country-wide, I cried tears of joy for some of my closest friends who happen to be members of the LGBTQ community.

I was happy while others I knew were disgusted and even enraged.

"That's not what it says in the bible! Marriage is between a man and a woman!"

"God made Adam and Eve for a reason! Man shall not lie with another man as he would a woman!"

"Homosexuality is a sin! It's bad enough that they're all going to hell, now we're letting them marry?"

Alright, Bible Bob, we get it, you don't agree with same-sex relationships. Honestly, that's not the issue. One of our civil liberties as United States citizens is the freedom of religion. If you believe your religion doesn't support homosexuality that's OK.

What isn't OK is thinking that your religious beliefs should dictate others lives.

What isn't OK is using your religion or your beliefs to take away rights from those who chose to live their life differently than you.

Some members of my church are still convinced that their marriage now means less because people are free to marry whoever they want to. Honestly, I wish I was kidding. Tell me again, Brenda how exactly do Steve and Jason's marriage affect yours and Tom's?

It doesn't. Really, it doesn't affect you at all.

Unless Tom suddenly starts having an affair with Steve their marriage has zero effect on you. You never know Brenda, you and Jason might become best friends by the end of the divorce. (And in that case, Brenda and Tom both need to go to church considering the bible also teaches against adultery and divorce.)

I'll say it one more time for the people in the back: same-sex marriage does not affect you even if you or your religion does not support it. If you don't agree with same-sex marriage then do not marry someone of the same sex. Really, it's a simple concept.

It amazes me that I still actually have to discuss this with some people in 2017. And it amazes me that people use God as a reason to hinder the lives of others.

As a proud young Catholic woman, I wholeheartedly support the LGBTQ community with my entire being.

My God taught me to not hold hate so close to my heart. He told me not to judge and to accept others with open arms. My God taught me to love and I hope yours teaches you the same.

Disclaimer - This article in no way is meant to be an insult to the Bible or religion or the LGBTQ community.

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25 Bible Verses That Refute 5 Lies Ingrained In Our Culture

Rejecting lies by looking at the real truth

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The New York Times recently published a piece by opinion columnist David Brooks titled "Five Lies Our Culture Tells."

The Yale lecturer-New York Times Best Seller-PBS/NBC/NPR Commentator-Times columnist wrote an interesting piece highlighting the ways that he feels American culture has engrained lies in its society, specifically the minds of young people.

"It's become clear in the interim that things are not in good shape, that our problems are societal. The whole country is going through some sort of spiritual and emotional crisis. College mental health facilities are swamped, suicide rates are spiking, the president's repulsive behavior is tolerated or even celebrated by tens of millions of Americans. At the root of it all is the following problem: We've created a culture based on lies", said Brooks.

After giving the piece a read, I could not agree more with the lies that Brooks identified.

I believe that these lies deserve rebuttals, so here they are. The Bible gives us answers, refutes the lies, and offers much better alternatives to living in the lies.

1. Lie: Career success is fulfilling.

Truth: The only real and lasting fulfillment, satisfaction, or contentment we can ever have is through Jesus.

Psalm 145:15-16--"The eyes of all look to you, and you give them their food in due season. You open your hand; you satisfy the desire of every living thing."

John 4:14--"But whoever drinks of the water that I will give him will never be thirsty again. The water that I will give him will become in him a spring of water welling up to eternal life."

Psalm 107:9--"For he satisfies the longing soul, and the hungry soul he fills with good things."

Psalm 103:5--"He fills my life with good things. My youth is renewed like the eagle's!"

Romans 5:5--"And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love."

Colossians 3:23--"Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters."

Isaiah 55:2-- "Why do you spend your money for that which is not bread, and your labor for that which does not satisfy? Listen diligently to me, and eat what is good, and delight yourselves in rich food."

2. Lie: I can make myself happy.

Truth: Along the same lines as the first lie, you can never find true and lasting happiness, joy, and peace in yourself, but from leaning on God.

Psalm 16:11--You make known to me the path of life; in your presence, there is the fullness of joy; at your right hand are pleasures forevermore."

Isaiah 58:11--"And the Lord will guide you continually and satisfy your desire in scorched places and make your bones strong; and you shall be like a watered garden, like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail."

Romans 15:13--"May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, so that by the power of the Holy Spirit you may abound in hope."

2 Chronicles 9:7--"How happy your people must be! How happy your officials, who continually stand before you and hear your wisdom!"

John 15:11--"These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full."

3. Lie: Life is an individual journey.

Truth: We were designed to lean on God and one another, creating community and fellowshipping and being there for others and working together!!!

Hebrews 10:24--"And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, 25 not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching."

Ecclesiastes 4:9--"Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up."

Ecclesiastes 4:12--"Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken."

4. Lie: You have to find your own truth.

Truth: There is only one truth, Jesus. That's it.

John 14:6--"Jesus answered, "I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me."

John 8:32--"Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free."

John 16:13--"But when he, the Spirit of truth, comes, he will guide you into all the truth. He will not speak on his own; he will speak only what he hears, and he will tell you what is yet to come."

5. Lie: Rich and successful people are worth more than poorer and less successful people.

Truth: God sees us all on a way deeper level than possessions and titles. He sees us as people, loves all of us equally, and could not care less about dumb money on earth. So neither should we!!

Hebrews 13:5--Keep your life free from love of money, and be content with what you have, for he has said, "I will never leave you nor forsake you."

Ecclesiastes 5:10--He who loves money will not be satisfied with money, nor he who loves wealth with his income; this also is vanity.

1 Timothy 6:17-19--As for the rich in this present age, charge them not to be haughty, nor to set their hopes on the uncertainty of riches, but on God, who richly provides us with everything to enjoy. They are to do good, to be rich in good works, to be generous and ready to share, thus storing up treasure for themselves as a good foundation for the future, so that they may take hold of that which is truly life.

Luke 12:15--And he said to them, "Take care, and be on your guard against all covetousness, for one's life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions."

Romans 12:16-- Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited.

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