Stop Letting Your Insecurities Ruin Your Life

Stop Letting Your Insecurities Ruin Your Life

You're only hurting yourself
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Imagine this: You’re having a nice time with your friends, you’re out at a concert, you’re hearing an artist that you LOVE and you’ve been looking forward to it for - forever. You and your friends are having a blast. You guys are enjoying the show, and you’re taking videos and snapping pictures like crazy. You want everyone to join in on this amazing experience with you. After the show is over, you go home. You lay in your bed, your ears still ringing from the loudspeakers, but you’re happy. You start to go through your pictures and your heart sinks. You don’t look as good as thought you did. You don’t look as good as you felt. Immediately, you roll your eyes. All the joy from that incredible experience has faded. You start thinking about how you’re never wearing that outfit again. You start to point out all the places you think you look fat, and wonder, why you're nose, looks big, and your eyes look lopsided. There’s no way you’re sharing those pictures now.

Now imagine this: Next time you go to a show, you’re a little more reserved. You don’t want to just smile and have fun- instead, you’re worrying about what you look like, and how your outfit looks on you. All your pictures have to be posed just right, and you end up missing some of a great night because of your insecurities.

But why? Why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we think that we have to be perfect all the time?

In a way it’s biblical to strive for “perfection” We are supposed to want to be like Jesus, who was perfect. But the kind of perfection that Jesus was/is is nothing like society’s definition of perfection. We’re so obsessed with our looks in our society, but apparently, God doesn’t think it’s that big of a deal, here’s what the bible has to say about what Jesus looked like: “There was nothing beautiful or majestic about his appearance, nothing to attract us to him.” (Isaiah 53:2) Basically, Jesus was not exactly the kind to stand out in a crowd, definitely not the kind of guy you expected to be the son of God. But He is.

Jesus’ perfection was because everything about Him was holy and pure. He never had a bad or selfish intention in His whole life. But our view of perfection has little to do with what’s inside and everything to do with how we appear.

When we’re so caught up in our appearance it sucks the fun and enjoyment out of everything. When we see pictures of ourselves that aren’t necessarily the most flattering all we can focus on is how bad we look and everything we want to change about ourselves instead of stopping to remember the moment that the photo was taken in. Maybe you were sitting in a weird way because you and all your friends were squeezed on a couch so that you could all fit, and someone told a joke right as the camera was about to go off. That moment is a fun and sweet moment, and because all you can think about is your outward appearance you’ve practically forgotten it. You banish the picture and beg all your friends not to post it anywhere. But why? Why do we have to let our insecurities and idea of perfection ruin our moments and memories?

Oh- wait… We don’t!

We’re all buying into the idea that to be beautiful is to always look like a picture straight out of a magazine. But that’s just not true. These days, the pictures in magazines don’t even actually look like the people who modeled them because of all the photoshop and editing.

To be beautiful you just have to be. You have to love, and you have to be able to just enjoy a moment. It’s beautiful to be free, to be vulnerable, to be kind, to be happy, to be loving and caring. It’s beautiful to be more in love with moments than the pictures that come from them. Who cares if you don’t always look like a million bucks, if you feel like a million bucks then what does it matter? It really doesn’t. Stop letting your insecurities ruin life’s greatest moments. You’re the only one who’s missing out.

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20 Small Tattoos With Big Meanings

Tattoos with meaning you can't deny.
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It's tough to find perfect tattoos with meaning. You probably want something permanent on your body to mean something deeply, but how do you choose a tattoo that will still be significant in 5, 10, 15, or 50 years? Over time, tattoos have lost much of their stigma and many people consider them a form of art, but it's still possible to get a tattoo you regret. So here are 20 tattoos where you can't go wrong. Here are 20 small tattoos with big meanings. (But don't blame me if you still have to deal with questions that everyone with a tattoo is tired of hearing!).

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1. A semi-colon indicates a pause in a sentence but does not end. Sometimes it seems like you may have stopped, but you choose to continue on.



2. "A smooth sea never made a skilled sailor."



3. Top symbol: unclosed delta symbol which represents open to change. Bottom symbol: strategy.



4. "There are nights when the wolves are silent and only the moon howls."



5. Viking symbol meaning "create your own reality."



6.Greek symbol of Inguz: where there's a will, there's a way.

7. Psalm 18:33 "He makes my feet like the feet of a deer; he causes me to stand on the heights."



8. 'Ohm' tattoo that represents 4 different states of consciousness and a world of illusion: waking (jagrat), dreaming (swapna), deep sleep (sushupti), transcendental state (turiya) and world of illusion (maya)



9. Alchemy: symbolizes copper, means love, balance, feminine beauty and artistic creativity.



10. The Greek word “Meraki” means to do something with soul, passion, love and creativity or to put yourself in to whatever you do.



11. Malin (Skövde, Sweden) – you have to face setbacks to be able to go forward.

12. Symbol meaning "thief" from the Hobbit. It was the rune Gandalf etched into Bilbo's door so the dwarves could find his house.



13. “Lux in tenebris” means “light in darkness.”

14. Anchor Tattoo: symbolizing strength & stability, something (or someone) who holds you in place, and provides you the strength to hold on no matter how rough things get.

15."Ad Maiora” is translated literally as “Towards greater things.” It is a formula of greeting used to wish more success in life, career or love.



16. A glyphs means “explore.” It was meant as a reminder for me to never stop exploring.

17. "Aut inveniam viam aut faciam," meaning roughly, "Either I shall find a way, or I will make one."



18. Lotus Flower. It grows in muddy water, and it is this environment that gives forth the flower’s first and most literal meaning: rising and blooming above the murk to achieve enlightenment.

19. The zen (or ensō) circle to me represents enlightenment, the universe & the strength we all have inside of us.

20. Two meanings. The moon affirms life. It looks as if it is constantly changing. Can reminds us of the inconsistency of life. It is also symbolizes the continuous circular nature of time and even karma.


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A Look Inside My Overpriced Dorm Room

The cutest 200 square feet.

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For most, the thought of leaving home and living in a space the size of their parent's master bathroom is terrifying; however, once you have lived at a camp for half the summer, you are oddly blown away with the space of an entire desk, futon, fridge, and closet to yourself.

A summer of hot hikes and bunk bed living prepared me more for a 200 square foot room at a 37,000 student population school than I ever could've thought to be thankful for. After a very sweaty 7 am Sunday check-in, a wholesome chipotle family gathering, and one last goodbye, I was officially a college student living almost on my own.

Dorm Sweet Dorm!

An over-the-door mirror was a must and apparently so was the "ring for champagne" wall decor that is only hanging up for the sole purpose of aesthetics and color scheme despite having no actual function. On our letter board, I had to throw in my favorite summer camp saying "Cho Boi" which is part of an African chant used to welcome warriors back to the safety and support of their villages and means "welcome home". We also keep our glorious shower caddies by the door on top of the dorm-hall-supplied "pedestal" which has quickly become our snack cabinet. We also have taken "adulting" all types of serious by buying pink and grey bins for real cleaning supplies and even a shower curtain to give the appearance of clean closets.

THE Futon

Here's to the people who sell color scheme matching futons on facebook for $15. Since our futon is on the smaller end and was built to be resting low to the ground, my super dad played Bob the Builder at 7 am and put together all the pieces of the futon frame we designed. When it comes to 200 square feet, storage space is the greatest gift, and we are blessed with a full drawer under the futon and two ottomans to contain an Amber Scholl sized shoe collection. We also can't forget about the Yeti-skin looking faux fur through that feels like a polar bear hug.

The Desk/Makeup Table/Step-Stool

For Senior Night, my mom took out the glass from an old picture frame and replaced it with chicken wire, and with some glittered clothespins and a paint pen banner, the cutest DIY picture display was made. I keep my hair products and tools on my shelf alongside all my "desk pens" (I keep them separate from back pens so I have them no matter where I am). I attached my extension cord with command strips to be out of the way and reach up to my lofted bed and down to the desk easily. I have gold accents for all my organizers and even a matching laptop case.

I have a slanted mirror from IKEA for makeup. I keep a three drawer cart for makeup where I use spray painted file organizers for pallet storage, have bins in each drawer to organize my products, and have grey buckets for eyeshadow and face brushes.



My Sacred Space

Hi, my name is Ansley Cartwright, and I have an unhealthy love for coffee.

We returned our bulky K-cup organizer, and instead, used a decorative bin for all my latte needs. We have a white basket for dry snacks and a Scentsy for our candle-free dorm. We also are in the process of setting up a Wii and TV for game nights, Bachelorette showings, and Netflix addictions.

Throwin' it out!

A cute wooden sign to remind me of home, and all the throw pillows you could ever need. The ruffle bedding is also a 10/10 because you don't have to iron what is supposed to look wrinkly!

Though dorm life is a challenge, I have absolutely loved our first few days in our tiny home!!

Please enjoy pictures of a CLEAN dorm, because it won't last long !!

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