Stop Judging Students for Being Stressed

Stop Judging Students for Being Stressed

Just because we're young doesn't mean we have it easy

Now that we've hit the midterm slump, the end of the semester is rearing its ugly head. Final papers, projects, and exams are slowly being added to the conversation, and we're not sure where to begin. The phrase "when it rains, it pours" comes into mind considering everything is always due in the same week.

Most of my friends and classmates need coffee in an IV form. We're snippy, tired, and trying to see the light at the end of the tunnel. So when someone who isn't a college student asks, "why are you so tired?" or "how can you be that stressed?," it's pretty easy.

Being stressed isn't an excuse for being a jerk, but it explains a lot. Everyone is sick. Everyone is tired. It doesn't help when someone constantly reminds us that this is supposed to be the best part of our lives, because while it can be fun, it's really, really hard.

It gets challenging half way through once you realize how many projects have been pushed back to read novels, write short papers, or work on homework for gen eds. It's hard when sometimes you just want to talk and laugh with your friends instead of reading or studying Spanish. We're trying to have fun, but everyone thinks college is only about keeping up that GPA.

So let us wear our sweatpants and not wash our hair for a few days. Let us drink our coffee and take an extra long nap since we've been up studying the last 3 nights. Stop telling me that I'm not allowed to be stressed out because I'm only 20.

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How To Not Be A Terrible Roomie, An 18-Step Guide

Freshmen, take notes.

Incoming Freshmen, this one is for you,

1. If your roomie is asleep – be quiet.

Don't play music out loud (use headphones), don't make phone calls and if you have to go out into the hallway or common area to make it!

2. Be polite about working late at night.

Make sure the light isn't shining near their bed so it won't be in their faces while they are trying to sleep.

3. Ask before you turn off the light.

There's a reason you have your own personal lamp.

4. Make sure you clean your side of the room.

Don't leave your clothes everywhere, empty your garbage, make your bed, and clean up your desk sometimes

5. If your roomie is studying for a hard test, don't bring friends into your room.

It's just ten times more distracting.

6. Turn your phone on Do Not Disturb at night.

This will help with the vibration noises/ringers from your phones. (I attached an example just in case you don't know how to do it).

7. Throw food out in the trash room.

You don't want the odor of old food in your room!

8. Do your laundry.

Don't let your basket overflow onto the floor.

9. If your roomie's parents are coming to visit, CLEAN YOUR SIDE.

Make a good impression!

10. Tell your roomie if you are having someone stay over - don't make it a surprise.

(I made this mistake... it's really awkward).

11. Don't take things without asking.

Even if it is as simple as food.. don't take without asking! IT'S NOT YOURS!

12. Don't talk about your roomie's personal life to other people.

You will hear things when they are talking to their parents, don't repeat it, it's rude.

13. Don't tell people who came over the night before.

This applies ties into rule number 12.

14. Share the room.

If your roomie wants to have a night with someone special, let them. They'll return the favor in the future (don't forget that).

15. Don't bring people they don't like into the room.

It's awkward.

16. If you're pre-gaming with friends, you're responsible for YOU and YOUR FRIENDS mess.

Don't leave bottles laying around - clean up!

17. Talk before changing the room around.

Don't move anything before you talk to the other person.

18. Set some rules when you first move in.

It will make everything a lot easier.

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Just Because It's Summer Doesn't Mean We Stop Learning

Exercise your brains and your talents - no matter the season.


I made a list of goals for this summer:

- Write every day.

- Learn how to play "Clair de Lune" by the end of the summer.

- Exercise at least three times a week.

- Read. A lot.

- Stay off of my Instagram until August.

- Pay off half of my Sallie Mae student loan.

These are just a few of the things that I have chosen to busy myself with over the next two months that I am at home. Some of them are easy goals in terms of them only taking a couple of hours a day to complete, but others, like my desire to play one of my favorite pieces of music on the piano, will take daily time and require discipline in order for me to complete it.

Netflix has robbed me of my ability to self-discipline, and it's disheartening. Not that I blame "The Office" for causing me to be lazy, but it's true. I spend more time in front of the TV watching inspiring people (like Michael Scott) do inspiring stuff (like start The Michael Scott Paper Company) and less time pushing myself to do the inspiring stuff that I want to achieve.

How do we correct the laziness that seems to hit hard, especially during the summer for us students?

It will be the battle of waking up daily and saying, "I will dedicate time to making this goal happen." That won't be easy. I have mornings where my laziness is so obvious that I don't even want to make my bed.

Our goals require discipline. It's like when someone wants to lose weight: you don't tell yourself one day, "I'm going to lose weight," and then never have to remind yourself of that goal again. It takes other people holding you accountable and you holding yourself accountable to that declaration. It takes a lot of sweat and tears.

Let's hold ourselves to that same standard in other parts of our lives, too. I want to write a book, and I've started one several times, but I don't discipline myself and set apart time where I work on my goal. So, I have brought other people into this part of my life and have asked that they "check in" on my progress. Once we pop our personal bubbles around our goals and expand the bubbles to include our accountability partners and helpers, we are more likely to finish what we've started.

Where in your life have you set goals and haven't experienced the harvest from the labor? Is it because there are only spurts of labor and not consistent watering and growing and (my favorite word) cultivating of the effort?

"If at first you don't succeed, try, try again." Ugh.

I hate failing, but sometimes we will. Actually, a lot of times, we will. I haven't even started practicing "Clair de Lune." BIG failure on my part, since I'll be playing catch up for the rest of the summer. But, I have not lost sight of the goal yet. It's okay to fail, as long as we don't allow the failure to end the pursuit of our achievements.

There is something so satisfying about seeing your efforts come to fruition, achieving that goal that you've been working on for a summer, a year, a decade, even.

Lin-Manuel Miranda, the creator of the showstopper "Hamilton: An American Musical" worked on his masterpiece for seven years before getting to see it onstage. Well, he didn't actually get to see it because he was "Alexander Hamilton", but his project grew for years. Years of endurance. Years of scrapping material he had put his effort in. Years of pulling other extremely gifted people to help him. Years of wondering when he would be done.

That opening night must have been a dream for Miranda and his team.

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