One of the most controversial topics to date other than politics is sexual activity. Personally, I feel as though having sex as an act has become so taboo for no real reason. Yes, I understand that people stand firmly behind their faith, which is great and totally fine, but I don't quite see why people feel as though someone having sex is so awful and why does someone who has a lot of sex have to be called a hoe, or a slut or some other horribly derogatory term? Why does someone who has sex at a young age also get judged so aggressively? They are partaking in a very common and natural human act just as everyone else does, but they are considered to be doing something wrong. As long as they are being safe and aren't being disrespectful or crossing any boundaries with anyone, then who cares what they do.
However, some people, myself included, believe that sex is a beautiful and very personal thing between two people that forms a very intimate bond between those involved. It is an expression of love and trust of their partner. I feel like you should at least know the person a little before you decide to get in bed with them that way, so you at least know what you're getting into.
But not everyone is like that, not everyone needs that feeling or connection. For some people, sex is just a physical act, and there's nothing wrong with that. Everyone has their own reasons for the things that they do and that is for them and only concerns them. All we are to do as fellow humans, as well as their friends and family, is to be there for them, encourage safety, and love and support them.
Now, with that being said, 13 and 14-year-olds shouldn't be doing these kinds of things because they're just not mature enough for it. There are boundaries and things of that nature that I feel go with such a thing. People this young have other life journeys and experiences to take part in.
But once you hit the age of 17-18 and start to become an adult and do things on your own, you have to learn things like that on your own, and as long as you are sure you're ready and safe I quite honestly don't see the issue. It is your body and your life, and you have all right to do what you want with it. It is not our place to judge anyone else. As long as they are being safe and aren't sleeping with other people's significant others, I don't see why we judge them so hard.
I'll admit that I have judged people in the past, but the older I get, the more I realize how dumb it is for me to judge anyone because it is their life, not mine.
Overall, I think that there is entirely too much hate and stigma towards people who have either become sexually active young or are very sexually active. I understand that for some people they don't personally agree with such things, but that doesn't mean that we have to be nasty about it just because we disagree. We can simply keep our thoughts and feelings to ourselves and keep it moving. Just like we were taught when we were little, if you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all. So instead of trying to force your beliefs on others, think: does it affect me, is it hurting me, and is it my life to control? If not, live your life and let them live yours, we as a society need to be less judgmental.
