It's 2018, So Stop Fat-Shaming Me

It's 2018, So Stop Fat-Shaming Me

Ellen DeGeneres once said, "Beauty is about being comfortable in your own skin. It's about knowing and accepting who you are".

It's 2018 people; stop fat-shaming and love each other.

If I have learned anything in my 22 years of being on this earth, it is that we should love and care for one another. I have tried my best in my every day life to not judge others. I do slip sometimes, again, I'm human, but I try to make up for that by getting to know that person and their situation before making any more assumptions about them. As should you.

I am a chunky girl; I always have been. I grew up in a family that made sure that I ate every piece of food off of my plate before I got up. They taught me bad eating and exercise habits such as eating to fill a void. My aunt always had a saying growing up, "If you're hungry or want something, eat it. It's bad to limit yourself and be hungry". While I now know that's not the truth, it set me up for years worth of bullying and self-confidence issues.

After being on my own, I have started to eat healthier. I drink more water, have cut out almost all junk food and go to the gym six times a week with one day off. I have been working on making myself healthy, not skinny. However, just by looking at me, you may be inclined to call me fat and lazy. This is the problem.

I see this literally daily. I hear people call me a fat-ass, say that if others would just lose a little bit of weight they would be pretty and so many more god-awful things. If I wanted to live my life at 400 pounds, which I don't by the way, then it's not your place to tell me thats a bad choice. If I wanted to eat two slices of pizza at the party instead of just one, who said you could give me a look and hold out my name in a long sigh of dissapointment. I don't judge you when you sleep with eight different men in one week do I?

Listen, all i'm saying is, keep to your own business and love me or whoever else is in your life for who they are and not what their habits are. I'm not saying that eating or living that lifestyle is something I encourage others to pursue, it's the fact that I shouldn't have to say anything at all to them. It's their lives, not mine. You don't know someone's story. They may be battling some serious diseases that limit their ability to do activities or they may have genetics that make it extremely hard to lose weight, no matter how hard they try.

To all my thick and thin guys, gals, and non-binary pals, please don't listen to the haters. You are beautiful, kind, wonderful and deserved to be loved through any stage of your life. You are worth it and I will never judge you.

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If You've Ever Been Called Overly-Emotional Or Too Sensitive, This Is For You

Despite what they have told you, it's a gift.

Emotional: a word used often nowadays to insult someone for their sensitivity towards a multitude of things.

If you cry happy tears, you're emotional. If you express (even if it's in a healthy way) that something is bothering you, you're sensitive. If your hormones are in a funk and you just happen to be sad one day, you're emotional AND sensitive.

Let me tell you something that goes against everything people have probably ever told you. Being emotional and being sensitive are very, very good things. It's a gift. Your ability to empathize, sympathize, and sensitize yourself to your own situation and to others' situations is a true gift that many people don't possess, therefore many people do not understand.

Never let someone's negativity toward this gift of yours get you down. We are all guilty of bashing something that is unfamiliar to us: something that is different. But take pride in knowing God granted this special gift to you because He believes you will use it to make a difference someday, somehow.

This gift of yours was meant to be utilized. It would not be a part of you if you were not meant to use it. Because of this gift, you will change someone's life someday. You might be the only person that takes a little extra time to listen to someone's struggle when the rest of the world turns their backs. In a world where a six-figure income is a significant determinant in the career someone pursues, you might be one of the few who decides to donate your time for no income at all. You might be the first friend someone thinks to call when they get good news, simply because they know you will be happy for them. You might be an incredible mother who takes too much time to nurture and raise beautiful children who will one day change the world.

To feel everything with every single part of your being is a truly wonderful thing. You love harder. You smile bigger. You feel more. What a beautiful thing! Could you imagine being the opposite of these things? Insensitive and emotionless?? Both are unhealthy, both aren't nearly as satisfying, and neither will get you anywhere worth going in life.

Imagine how much richer your life is because you love other's so hard. It might mean more heartache, but the reward is always worth the risk. Imagine how much richer your life is because you are overly appreciative of the beauty a simple sunset brings. Imagine how much richer your life is because you can be moved to tears by the lessons of someone else's story.

Embrace every part of who you are and be just that 100%. There will be people who criticize you for the size of your heart. Feel sorry for them. There are people who are dishonest. There are people who are manipulative. There are people who are downright malicious. And the one thing people say to put you down is "you feel too much." Hmm..

Sounds like more of a compliment to me. Just sayin'.

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Part 1: Necessary Changes

One of my favorite movies is "Fried Green Tomatoes" with Kathy Bates. In the movie Bates' character Evelyn Couch says, "Someone helped put a mirror up in front of my face, and I didn't like what I saw one bit. And you know what I did? I changed." I know the feeling.


I looked in the mirror over the weekend and didn't like what I saw.

The person I saw looking back at me is petty, selfish, manipulative, and unattractive. It wasn't that I hated what I saw, but I definitely didn't like what I saw either. It's a surreal feeling, looking at yourself through a critical lens, and it doesn't make you feel good in any way shape or form.

The image that I see of myself is not how I want others to perceive me. I want to be someone that people look at and see kindness, compassion, strength, and confidence.

I have enough general life experience to know that these types of changes aren't going to happen overnight, and not all of them will be physical; most of these will have to happen from the inside, from within myself.

When you find out you are all broken and damaged, it's hard to know where to start putting the pieces back together. I figured the best place to start would be the most literal: my actual insides; so, I decided to embark on a deep-cleansing journey to get all of the toxins out of my body, from the inside out.

I found this book on 10-day green smoothie detox stashed away in the dark corner of my bookshelf. The science behind it seems accurate and legitimate. By eliminating certain foods, your body is able to detox itself off of chemicals and foods that are slowing down your metabolism; the smoothies are specifically designed with combinations of foods that help restart your metabolism. Part of the detox process is getting rid of all dependencies on caffeine, alcohol, and sugar.

Every day you are given the recipe for a specific smoothie; you make the smoothie (about 40 ounces) and sip on it throughout the day whenever you get hungry. Every smoothie is a combination of leafy greens, water, fruit, and flax seeds. If you do happen to get hungry throughout the day, you are encouraged to eat raw nuts, hard boiled eggs, and a wide variety of crunchy green vegetables. There is also a detox tea that you have first thing in the morning, but other than that no other beverages are allowed except water.

I know that this is only the beginning of a very long, emotional, and draining journey. But I think I'm at the point in my life where I have to make these changes. I have to put my pieces together, I have to become a normal functioning adult, I have to find out who I am. I think that this is the perfect way to start.

For the next 10 days I am going to be documenting my experiences, how I'm feeling, what my emotions are doing, and any results that I see.

Stay tuned!

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