Stop Comparing Yourself to Other People

Stop Comparing Yourself to Other People

Don't think about what your peers are accomplishing, and use that time to give yourself the credit you deserve.


One of the most exciting parts of going to college is meeting diverse and exciting people who share our interests as well as introduce us to new ideas and passions that we otherwise would have never encountered. A lot of the learning in college is done outside of the classroom, through our peers, our extracurricular activities, and the interactions we have with professors and mentors. The skills we gain from living with like-minded individuals and from navigating our differences while celebrating our similarities are unique to the college experience. Within this collaborative environment, however, comes competition. Although some competition can be a healthy motivator to challenge ourselves and make the most of the college experience, worrying too much about what our peers are accomplishing and participating in can quickly become toxic.

It is very easy to become overwhelmed with feelings of inadequacy during this fragile time in our lives. College is the time when students are supposed to work towards figuring out their goals in life and how they want to work towards them. However, with the advent of social media, it is easy for people to share their highlight reels while leaving out the details of their times of struggle or uncertainty. From the outside looking in, it seems as though everyone has everything all figured out. No one brags about their poor academic performance or their rejection letters. No one posts about their mental health battles or their confusion and misdirection.

I remember feeling panicked because I found myself lost and confused about my future and was anxious about my plans and how I was going to execute them. I was under the impression that it was time to hit the ground running, and I felt that everyone was already halfway through the marathon when I didn't even realize it had begun. It took a lot of time and a lot of listening to my peer and family members to debunk my preconceived notions; most students are also just figuring it all out. The time and effort I am putting into my current responsibilities are more than enough, and the time I spent worrying about what other people were accomplishing is time that could be spent pursuing my passions and excelling within my own responsibilities.

We all experience rejection at one time or another in college. It is inevitable, but how we choose to channel our energy after these low points is what will determine our success in the future. Comparing our personal qualities and choices to the supposed successes we notice in others won't make us happier, but will only make it more difficult to thrive and achieve our full potential. I fondly remember the words of my father when I called him one day worrying about the caliber of my accomplishments and my concerns for the future. He said, "One who constantly compares themselves to others will never have a moment's peace." We all owe ourselves some peace, and we deserve to be proud of our accomplishments. It doesn't matter if the grass is greener because we each have our own garden in full bloom.

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To The Friends I Won't Talk To After High School

I sincerely hope, every great quality I saw in you, was imprinted on the world.


So, for the last four years I’ve seen you almost everyday. I’ve learned about your annoying little brother, your dogs and your crazy weekend stories. I’ve seen you rock the awful freshman year fashion, date, attend homecoming, study for AP tests, and get accepted into college.

Thank you for asking me about my day, filling me in on your boy drama and giving me the World History homework. Thank you for complimenting my outfits, laughing at me presenting in class and listening to me complain about my parents. Thank you for sending me your Quizlets and being excited for my accomplishments- every single one of them. I appreciate it all because I know that soon I won’t really see you again. And that makes me sad. I’ll no longer see your face every Monday morning, wave hello to you in the hallways or eat lunch with you ever again. We won't live in the same city and sooner or later you might even forget my name.

We didn’t hang out after school but none the less you impacted me in a huge way. You supported my passions, stood up for me and made me laugh. You gave me advice on life the way you saw it and you didn’t have to but you did. I think maybe in just the smallest way, you influenced me. You made me believe that there’s lots of good people in this world that are nice just because they can be. You were real with me and that's all I can really ask for. We were never in the same friend group or got together on the weekends but you were still a good friend to me. You saw me grow up before your eyes and watched me walk into class late with Starbucks every day. I think people like you don’t get enough credit because I might not talk to you after high school but you are still so important to me. So thanks.

With that said, I truly hope that our paths cross one day in the future. You can tell me about how your brothers doing or how you regret the college you picked. Or maybe one day I’ll see you in the grocery store with a ring on your finger and I’ll be so happy you finally got what you deserved so many guys ago.

And if we ever do cross paths, I sincerely hope you became everything you wanted to be. I hope you traveled to Italy, got your dream job and found the love of your life. I hope you have beautiful children and a fluffy dog named Charlie. I hope you found success in love before wealth and I hope you depended on yourself for happiness before anything else. I hope you visited your mom in college and I hope you hugged your little sister every chance you got. She’s in high school now and you always tell her how that was the time of your life. I sincerely hope, every great quality I saw in you, was imprinted on the world.

And hey, maybe I’ll see you at the reunion and maybe just maybe you’ll remember my face. If so, I’d like to catch up, coffee?



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Writing Saved My Sanity

Write it all down when you can't talk to anyone.


I love writing.

I have since elementary school, and I've dreamed of becoming a published author. I started off writing stupid plays in elementary school, then it grew it almost writing a full-blown novel in middle school. I have no idea where that thing went to. It was all notebook paper and bad writing. In high school, my writing was kinda pushed to the side so I could focus on school. When I entered college, I started writing small poems about my now ex-boyfriend.

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I always have ideas flowing through my head. They never cease and I wouldn't want them to. Writing gives me an escape, from stress, work, school, or fights. It gives me a place to vent and to be open with everything. This is a reason I love writing for Odyssey, not only has this place brought me amazing friends but revived my love for writing. I'm never without my notebook anymore, I'd get distracted in class by an idea and have to write I think then and there.

I love sharing my more personal writing with close friends, especially my poems as of late. I found that I have a voice for young women who find themselves in a toxic relationship much like mine was. I want to speak out and show them that you can grow from the bullshit. It may take some time, but you will be better.

Writing saved my sanity. It allows me to express myself without having to use my actual voice. Anyone who knows me, knows I hate public speaking. I tend to psych myself out leading up to it. My current projects include writing for Odyssey every week, I'm in the process of trying to continue my short stories, and I'm excited to announce that I'm currently working on my very first poetry book!

Writing has given me so much, and I'm so looking forward to making a career out of something I love so much.

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