Stop Apologizing For Taking Up Space

Stop Apologizing For Taking Up Space

The next time someone bumps into you, don't say sorry.
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"Sorry!"

"Oh, sorry! Let me get out of your way!"

"Excuse me, so sorry!"

If any variation of these phrases drop from your mouth without a second thought, it's time to stop apologizing. If you you can't make it through a single interaction with a stranger without saying them, it's time to stop apologizing.

If you can't move through a crowd, grab something off a shelf, or stop yourself from saying, "Sorry," when someone else bumps into you, it's time to stop apologizing.

These incessant apologies are more than simply being polite.

Whenever you get that knee-jerk reaction to say sorry: stop. Ask yourself, "Why?" What do you have to be sorry for?

You're apologizing for taking up space. You're saying sorry for being present in time and space. You're apologizing for something that you have no control over and it's time that you took a moment and stopped.

Take a moment and accept that you don't have to apologize for existing.

The next time that someone bumps into you, reign in that instinct to say sorry and ask yourself what Beyonce would do, or what Leslie Knope would do, or what Nicki Minaj would do. It sure as hell wouldn't involve apologizing. It would more likely involve a lot of side-eye and sassy comebacks.

Sassy comebacks are 100 percent approved by all of the leading ladies of our world, for making people respect your personal space.

You don't have to take the route of, "Move b****, get out the way!" But that level of enthusiasm is definitely appreciated.

The next time someone bumps into you, jut out your hip, throw your shoulders back and stare them down like they are the last cockroach on earth that is about to have the life squashed out of it.

You can have a quiet nervous breakdown about your newfound level of sass after the now-disgruntled stranger storms around the corner.

You need to have the same attitude that says, "I am existing in this space and I refuse to move and/or be apologetic about it." Have that attitude every time that someone gets up in your grill, every time someone knocks your books from your hands, every time you hit a pedestrian for walking slowly across the crosswalk, do not apologize! Wait...okay that last one might be going a bit too far, but you get the picture.

You deserve the space you are existing in; don't feel the need to apologize for it.

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To The Parent Who Chose Addiction

Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.

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When I was younger I resented you, I hated every ounce of you, and I used to question why God would give me a parent like you. Not now. Now I see the beauty and the blessings behind having an addict for a parent. If you're reading this, it isn't meant to hurt you, but rather to thank you.

Thank you for choosing your addiction over me.

Throughout my life, you have always chosen the addiction over my programs, my swim meets or even a simple movie night. You joke about it now or act as if I never questioned if you would wake up the next morning from your pill and alcohol-induced sleep, but I thank you for this. I thank you because I gained a relationship with God. The amount of time I spent praying for you strengthened our relationship in ways I could never explain.

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Thank you for giving me a stronger bond with our family.

The amount of hurt and disappointment our family has gone through has brought us closer together. I have a relationship with Nanny and Pop that would never be as strong as it is today if you had been in the picture from day one. That in itself is a blessing.

Thank you for showing me how to love.

From your absence, I have learned how to love unconditionally. I want you to know that even though you weren't here, I love you most of all. No matter the amount of heartbreak, tears, and pain I've felt, you will always be my greatest love.

Thank you for making me strong.

Thank you for leaving and for showing me how to be independent. From you, I have learned that I do not need anyone else to prove to me that I am worthy of being loved. From you, I have learned that life is always hard, but you shouldn't give into the things that make you feel good for a short while, but should search for the real happiness in life.

Most of all, thank you for showing me how to turn my hurt into motivation.

I have learned that the cycle of addiction is not something that will continue into my life. You have hurt me more than anyone, but through that hurt, I have pushed myself to become the best version of myself.

Thank you for choosing the addiction over me because you've made me stronger, wiser, and loving than I ever could've been before.

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5 Songs to Add to Your Playlist This Month

Spring into finals week (and the summer) by "cleaning up" your playlist

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Here are some fun, fresh new tracks to check out as you finish out the rest of the school year and help you get out of your "music comfort zone!"

“Patience” by Tame Impala 

Genre: Electronic/Alternative

Tame Impala FINALLY released new music (!!), and this track is absolutely stunning. With frontrunner Kevin Parker staying on brand with the band's psychedelic, seemingly ethereal style, it sounds like a combination of 70s soft rock and waves of modern-day electronica, with Parker's voice drifting in and out in a kind of otherworldly, mellowed-out manner.

“Harmony Hall” by Vampire Weekend 

Genre: Alternative/Indie Pop

Vampire Weekend is also releasing an album, entitled "Father of the Bride", on May 3rd. From the looks of it, this track relates to the theme of marriage/weddings present in the album's title, and it is a fun, upbeat song that I have been listening to a lot in the morning as I'm getting ready for class! Ezra Koenig's voice is so unique and can cover a broad range, and I highly recommend listening to some of the band's other work as well ("Step" from their 2013 release "Modern Vampires of the City" is one of my all-time favorite songs!).

“Ready to Let Go” by Cage the Elephant 

Genre: Alternative/Alternative Rock

So many great artists are (finally) releasing new albums this year, and Cage the Elephant falls into this category. This track is an absolute banger and doesn't stray much from the band's style in that it includes a lot of loud guitar and dynamic vocals. Like Vampire Weekend, Cage the Elephant has been around since the early 2000s, and I highly recommend checking out some of their earlier work as well (big fan of their most recent album, actually!)

“Apple Orchard” by Beach House 

Genre: Indie/Electronic

Beach House is one of my favorite bands of all time, as I find a kind of an ethereal, beautiful sadness in the dreamy style of instrumentalist Alex Scally and lucid vocals of singer Victoria Legrand. This track is from their 2006 self-titled debut and is probably one of my favorite songs they've ever released. The lyrics are poetic and perfect for the post-finals enjoyment of spring weather, in that they preach relaxation and restfulness, and the song's electronic rhythms echo the essence of spring as well. If you like this song, then I highly recommend checking out the band's other albums as well (Depression Cherry is one of my favorite albums of all time).

“April Come She Will” by Simon & Garfunkel 

Genre: 60s Pop

No spring playlist is complete without a little Simon & Garfunkel! This song is a classic, its timeless, poetic lyrics capturing the epitome of the coming of spring and all its glory. In fact, I consider the entire album (entitled Sound of Silence) to be perfect for the pleasantness and feelings of renewal/natural revitalization associated with the coming months, so be sure to give it a listen if you haven't heard it before!

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