Is It Weird To Get Personal With Someone You’ve Just Met Or Are You Just That Person?

Is It Weird To Get Personal With Someone You’ve Just Met Or Are You Just That Person?

This article has been one I've been wanting to write for awhile now and I am excited to hear my friends/family's opinion on it!

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For me, this is totally normal. I am such a people person but I have to admit, there are times where after I ask someone a question, I ask myself if that was too much. In my opinion, we need more people like this because you will be surprised at how many amazing relationships I build with so many people when doing this.

This year, I've really been putting myself out there. I am a treasurer for Tech Creative Media Association at Texas Tech so I've been learning how to act as a role model, leader, and a support system for my peers. With that being said, I've made some new friends and find myself introducing myself to someone new each week at our club meetings!

I wanted to talk about how in my opinion I think it is o.k to get personal with someone in the beginning because I feel that people like to see that you care and genuinely want to learn about them. I love studying people and from doing this, I am learning how to communicate properly with someone while becoming their friend at the same time!

In one of the first club meetings of the semester, I did just that. Someone came up to me with questions and I happily answered. Then I proceeded to get to know the person and boom. Friendship. We exchanged numbers and became friends just like that.

I'm learning that people love that. People love talking about themselves and what is better thIan a complete stranger politely asking for a look into their very own lives.

You also have to understand that every single person is different. This doesn't always work. Some people don't like to be talked to or like talking to a stranger in general. That is why you have to be extra careful before approaching them.

People often ask me, "How can you tell who to approach and who not to go up to?" And here is my response: body language and eye contact. If the other persons eyes are glued to their phone and if they have earphones in, then that means that they're probably not in the mood to socialize.

If they seem to be looking around, body relaxed, and maintaining a natural grin then I would say go for it. In that scenario, it almost seems as if they are anticipating a conversation to happen. That or their just bored, you honestly never know.

Sometimes, you have to just shoot your shot because you never know WHO you are going to meet, how much they could impact your life, or what is going to happen later on- so just go for it. The worst that can happen is you getting rejected and that is perfectly fine, they do NOT know what they're missing out on if that is the case!

I know that this could definitely be a black or white situation. One person could feel one way and another could have total opposite ethical standards, that is why I love talking about these things with such a broad perspective because it opens the floor for discussion.

Let me know what you think and I will see you guys again next week, happy reading!

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An Open Letter to the Best Friend I Didn't See Coming

Some people come into your life and change you forever—thanks, bestie.
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Dear best friend,

I wasn't expecting you when God placed you in my life. I had my friends. I had my people. I wasn't exactly open to the idea of new meaningful friendships because I had the ones I needed, and it didn't seem like I really needed anybody new.

Thank God that was false. Sometimes you meet people and you just know that you're going to be good friends with. Sometimes you meet people and you realize that there is no such thing as chance. I think God has a funny way of making it seem as if the things that happen to us are by chance, but honestly, that’s a load of crap. If the biggest moments of our lives were left up to chance, then I believe that would make God out to seem as if he didn’t care. It would make it seem as if He was truly abandoning me and making me face some of my most important seasons fully isolated. But you, best friend, are a true testament to the fact that God doesn’t just leave such important aspects up to chance. Thank you for taking a chance on our friendship, and thank you for allowing me to take a chance on what I didn’t realize would be the most impactful friendship in my entire life.

Thank you for being real with me. Thank you for not sugar coating things. Thank you for telling me when I have a bad attitude. Thank you for loving me through my mistakes. Thank you for supporting me in my decisions, even if it isn’t always the decision you would make. Thank you for wanting the best for me, and for making that your true intent behind the words that you say to me, whether they be constructive criticism or encouragement.

Thank you for being a goof with me. Thank you for putting me first. Thank you for seeing the importance of our friendship. Thank you for making time in your schedule for us to just sit and do homework, eat Mexican food, or sit on the porch and listen to music that emotionally wrecks you.

You’re one of a kind. You’re a shoulder to lean on. You’re a safe place. You’re a free spirit. You’re rough and tough, but your heart melts for the people you love and it’s obvious. You’re more than meets the eye. You are worth getting to know. You are worth loving. You pursue people. You are passionate about your future. You are everything that a person needs, and I really thank God that for some reason you continue to choose to be in my life. Thank you for literally dragging me up my mountains of fear when I want to stay exactly where I am at and wallow in the sadness. You bring joy—true joy—wherever you go. You are my best friend, confidant, and biggest fan. You will be the Maid of Honor, Godmother, and fun Aunt.

I used to think lifelong friendships weren’t really a thing. It just seemed like people always grew apart and forever was never a point that was attainable. Best friends forever is a cliché phrase that is continuously overused nowadays (sometimes, I even used to make light of it), but thanks for making that a reality. You are truly the best friend I could have asked for. So thank you for it all. You make life more fun, and I couldn’t thank God more for making an incredible human, friends with me.

I love you, pal!

JQ

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Your Boat's Captain Deserves A 20% Tip, Just Like Your Server Or Barber

A tip about tipping people who serve you.

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I date a man whose talented, smart, and very good at what he does. He's a captain and runs his own business. He goes to college full time, five classes every semester, and runs his business on the weekends.

After being with him for almost a year I've gotten a good look at how much work he puts into his trips. He'll come home to me explaining all about his trip and I think my favorite part is watching the joy surface his eyes when he mentions his customers were happy. He values customer satisfaction and I wish his customers could see how much he values it, even after the trip is over. He'll walk through the door, smelling like a dead fish, and looking like he got ran over by a train. He'll get home and I'll push him to the shower after I hold my breath to kiss him.

Sometimes he helps his friend's business out and runs his charters for him for a couple of days. The other day I listened to him explain one of his trips to me and I couldn't help but feel anger. He took this group out and they caught a great amount of fish and he took extra time to filleted them for his customers. After he was finished, he collected the money for his friend and received a tip. This tip wasn't close to 20% of the total amount for the trip, instead, it was around 11%.

I am a waitress and I think we all know common courtesy of the 15%-20% tip at a restaurant. So when I heard this 11% tip was given to my boyfriend I felt hurt for him.

I wish that customer could see how much this man works and loves what he does. He cares about his customers and when his customers aren't happy, it follows him home. Being a captain isn't just a job to him, it's his everything. Making people happy, makes him happy. He deserved more than what that customer valued him as and he worked harder than the value of that tip.

This can pertain to tipping in general, but when you're tipping your captain, waitress, hairstylist, or even valet driver, realize that they live off of those tips. They served you, sweated for you, and created satisfaction for you. Tip people appropriate because serving someone isn't easy, it's exhausting but we do it because we want you to be happy when you walk away.

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