How Social Media Is Ruining Relationships
Start writing a post

How Social Media Is Ruining Relationships

Why "doing it for the gram" is getting old.

How Social Media Is Ruining Relationships
Google Images

Social Media; the good, the bad and the stalker. In this generation, social media is the center. While being a fairly new phenomenon, it has become so widespread across the world that it's actually considered unusual when a person doesn't have some form of social media. We eat, sleep, and breathe it. Literally. When we wake up in the morning, the first thing most of us do is click to twitter and scroll through to make sure that we don't miss a thing. Our friends, family and even that girl from history you pass in the hallway are right at our fingertips. Social media has completely changed the tone of relationships, and here's how.

1. It has become normal to "stalk" your significant other.

How dare he tweet her a smiley face emoji four years ago!? Really, though. Social media has made it completely normal to know every move your relationship partner makes, ever. You can track every follow, like and location. Contrary to popular belief, this is neither normal nor healthy for any relationship.

2. A "like" on a screen has become the largest romantic gesture.

Remember the days of love letters and opening car doors? Yeah, me neither. These days clicking "like" on an Instagram photo is considered the sweetest thing a person can do. Not to mention, when your significant other doesn't like your picture, it actually hurts your feelings. Isn't that crazy? Since when did our self validation come from a like on a screen? Why are our relationships centered around this?

3. Comparison.

This one can be kept short and sweet; comparison. Social media is filled with "#relationshipgoals"; pictures and videos of what the ideal relationship should look like. We see these photos and ask ourselves, "Why doesn't my relationship look like that? What's wrong with us? Why don't I have this?" The answer is nothing. The reality is that every relationship is different. We all have different love languages and different ways of expressing our love. Do not think that your relationship has to look like social media "goals" to be a good one. Do not think that you have to be in a relationship either, just because it's what the media says you're supposed to do. The wrong relationship is so much worse than no relationship at all. Not to mention, many of these photos/videos are all of the highs of relationships and none of the lows; those matter, too.

4. Disconnect.

What happened to looking someone in the eye? What happened to shaking hands, and ringing the doorbell for a date? Social media, while connecting us, has simultaneously disconnected us. Most of us literally do not know how to have a face to face conversation anymore. We start conversations over direct message on twitter and this is how we feel comfortable. It scares me because face to face interaction is what connects us all. It's the only way to truly get to know someone. I hate that we are falling in love over screens. There's nothing that could replace seeing a smile on someone's face or holding someone's hand for the first time. We need more of that, and less likes.

5. It dictates entirely the way we see others.

"She only got 60 likes? He doesn't have very many pictures. His captions are weird." Really? We're all guilty of this. We are all judgmental at some point, if not everyday. It's human nature and it's what we do. But how can we possibly think that a photo and the number of likes it has exemplifies who someone is as a person? We are so focused on these trivial things that we miss out on so many opportunities to get to know awesome people. It's so important to not let a social media site define you, or dictate the ways in which you define someone else.

Social media, as great as it can be for a lot of things, is becoming detrimental to relationships. We care more about likes than we do about connection. Learn to put your phone down and just live. Experience something amazing with people you love and just be there in that moment. Make an effort to build face to face relationships and you will be so appreciative for them. A screen should not be a companion.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.

21 EDM Songs for a Non-EDM Listener

Ever wanted to check out EDM music, but didn't know where to start? Look no further! Start here.

21 EDM Songs for a Non-EDM Listener

If you have been following me for a long time, then you know I write about two main things: relateable articles and communication media based articles. Now, it is time for me to combine the two. For those of you that don't know, I am a radio DJ at IUP, and I DJ for a show called BPM (Beats Per Minute). It is an EDM, or electronic dance music, based show and I absolutely love it.

Keep Reading...Show less
Student Life

100 Reasons to Choose Happiness

Happy Moments to Brighten Your Day!

A man with a white beard and mustache wearing a hat

As any other person on this planet, it sometimes can be hard to find the good in things. However, as I have always tried my hardest to find happiness in any and every moment and just generally always try to find the best in every situation, I have realized that your own happiness is much more important than people often think. Finding the good in any situation can help you to find happiness in some of the simplest and unexpected places.

Keep Reading...Show less

6 Things Owning A Cat Has Taught Me

This one's for you, Spock.

6 Things Owning A Cat Has Taught Me
Liz Abere

Owning a pet can get difficult and expensive. Sometimes, their vet bills cost hundreds of dollars just for one visit. On top of that, pets also need food, a wee wee pad for a dog, a litter box with litter for a cat, toys, and treats. Besides having to spend hundreds of dollars on them, they provide a great companion and are almost always there when you need to talk to someone. For the past six years, I have been the proud owner of my purebred Bengal cat named Spock. Although he's only seven years and four months old, he's taught me so much. Here's a few of the things that he has taught me.

Keep Reading...Show less

Kinder Self - Eyes

You're Your Own Best Friend

Kinder Self - Eyes

It's fun to see all of the selfies on social media, they are everywhere. I see pictures with pouty lips, duck lips and pucker lips. I see smokey eyes, huge fake lashes and nicely done nose jobs, boob jobs and butt lifts. Women working out in spandex, tiny tops and flip flops. I see tight abs and firm butts, manicured nails and toes, up dos and flowing hair. "Wow", I think to myself," I could apply tons of make-up, spend an hour on my hair, pose all day and not look like that. Maybe I need a longer stick!"

Keep Reading...Show less

Rap Songs With A Deeper Meaning

Rap is more than the F-bomb and a beat. Read what artists like Fetty, Schoolboy Q, Drake, and 2Pac can teach you.

Rap artist delivers performance on stage
Photo by Chase Fade on Unsplash

On the surface, rap songs may carry a surface perception of negativity. However, exploring their lyrics reveals profound hidden depth.Despite occasional profanity, it's crucial to look beyond it. Rap transcends mere wordplay; these 25 song lyrics impart valuable life lessons, offering insights that extend beyond the conventional perception of rap music.

Keep Reading...Show less

Subscribe to Our Newsletter

Facebook Comments