From The College Girl Who Now Knows That Single Life Is The Best Life

From The College Girl Who Now Knows That Single Life Is The Best Life

I'm embracing singleness, and you should too.

I’m not going to be the one to write another Valentine’s Day article complaining about singleness, nor will I be all lovey dovey.

No, I am going to be the one to embrace it. Being single has so many perks that are brushed aside, especially on a day like Valentine’s Day. To you people that go into depression mode on this day, I have good news, take a chill pill and look at the bright side of this occasion.

Singleness is the time to live! You physically have nothing holding you back. Could you and your girls buy plane tickets to West Palm Beach on impulse the night before just because you want a getaway? Or, could you and your boys drop everything and take off on a road trip to the mountains at 5am? These are situations that we day dream about, why not follow them?

Take the job offer in New York. You don’t have kids to raise, you don’t have a significant other to please, and if you have a puppy, he/she can come with! A dream job is a once in a lifetime opportunity that if you let go once, in most cases, you let go for good. Your schedule is yours and only yours, your nights will be free to go downtown with coworkers and new friends, and you will be the only person you have to worry about.

Those are “big deal” examples. Let’s think about the more simple ideas. How much will you miss wine and movie night with your bestie? Do it while you can. Rosé and Rachelle won’t be available forever either.

This is the time to join a slow pitch softball team. Would your Tuesday and Thursday evenings be available if you were tied down? Go meet those new teammates and make those new friends. There is a very good chance that they are in the same boat as you.

Go to the club because it’s your sorority sister’s birthday and you wouldn’t miss it. Put on the black, sparkly dress and the extra eyeshadow. Strut the streets in your clique of five and slay the game.

Join the pottery club because you’re artsy and you can make cute little pieces for your cute little single room apartment.

Catch the bouquet at your best friend’s wedding! Kacie will try to aim for you.

Last but not least, own it. Find who you want to be and be confident in it before you even start looking for a significant other. Confidence is the most attractive anyways and think about all of the stories you’ll have to tell about your single years if you choose to make the most of them. Also, who knows, maybe while you’re “living it up”, that special someone will walk right in and blindside you. Happy belated Valentine’s Day to all of you singles out there. Have some fun with it.

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22 New Things That I Want To Try Now That I'm 22

A bucket list for my 22nd year.


"I don't know about you but I'm feelin' 22," I have waited 6 long years to sing that and actually be 22! Now 22 doesn't seem like a big deal to people because you can't do anything that you couldn't do before and you're still super young. But I'm determined to make my 22nd year a year filled with new adventures and new experiences. So here's to 22.

1. Go sky diving.

What's crazier than jumping out of a plane? (Although I'll probably try indoor skydiving first.)

2. Go cliff jumping/diving.

I must be the only Rhode Islander who hasn't gone to Jamestown and jumped off a cliff.

3. Ride in a hor air balloon.

Up, up and away.

4. Try out skiing.

Cash me in the next Olympics, how bout dat.

5. Try out snow boarding.

Shawn White, I'm coming for you.

6. Go bungee jumping.

Because at least this time I'll be attached to something.

7. Go to Portugal.

I mean I'm Portuguese so I have to go at some point, right?

8. Go to Cape Verde.

Once again, I'm Cape Verdean so I have to go.

9. Vist one of the seven wonders of the world.

I mean hey, Egypt's on, my bucket list.

10. Try out surfing.

It's only natural that somebody from the Ocean State knows how to surf.

11. Learn a new langauge.

Because my little bit of Portuguese, Spanish and Latin isn't cutting it anymore.

12. Travel to a state that I've never been to before.

Fun fact: I've only been to 17 of the 50 states.

13. Go paddle boarding.

Pretty boring but I've never done it.

14. Go scuba diving.

I'm from the Ocean State so I guess I should see the ocean up close and personal.

15. Learn how to line dance.

There's actually a barn in my state that does line dancing, so this one will definitely get crossed off.

16. Go kayaking.

All this water around me and I haven't done a lot of the water activites.

17. Stay the night in a haunted hotel room.

I bet if I got my friends to come with me, it would be like the Suite Life of Zach and Cody episode, minus the ghost coming out of the wall but you never know.

18. Get my palms read.

Because who doesn't want to know their future.

19. Go to a medium.

Like a medium that can communicate with people that have died.

20. Take a helicopter ride.

Air plane: check Helicopter:....

21. Sleep under the stars.

Because sleeping in a tent is more like glamping than camping

22. Just to try new things in my everyday life.

Whether it's trying a new restaurant, getting something different at my usual restaurants, changing my usual style, going on the scary rides at amusement parks, and bringing things I used to do back into my life now.

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I Have No Label

Labels aren't for everyone, and I'm one of them.


There's a huge pressure from society for people to know things about themselves—what they want to do with their life, what career they want to be tethered to, where they plan on being five years from now—that we really shouldn't add more pressure by requiring people to know their sexual orientation and gender identity.

I've always been pretty comfortable with my gender, but my sexuality? I'm still figuring that one out. I grew up in a fairly conservative home, so I was never exposed to the LGBT+ community or anything similar to it. Straight was the only way to go, and I grew up completely fine with that. It's only now that I know I'm not, that I'm realizing some of the things I did, probably should have told me I wasn't sooner.

Thankfully, it was never a huge source of stress for me because I was OK with being straight. I was fine with the idea of only being into men because I mostly still am. It's just that "mostly" bit that has me thrown off.

If I'm not fully into just guys, does that make me bisexual? What's the full difference between them, anyway? What does "bi" really imply, anyway? Two? Which two? Does the "bi" aspect of the word "bisexual" even really matter?

Do people identify as "pansexual" because the distinction of "bi" is misleading since there are more than just two genders?

Speaking of genders, would I date someone whose gender identity doesn't conform to the binary? How about a transgender person? How can I really know this for a fact without dating someone like that?

All of these thoughts gave me countless headaches, and they still do if I think too hard about it. Since I'm still discovering myself, I'm not fully comfortable labeling my sexuality as anything other than "not straight."

That should be totally fine.

If anything, I think this should be encouraged. It puts way less stress on people who are already stressed beyond belief. It shouldn't be something that a person has to know immediately, and they shouldn't have to ever label themselves if they aren't comfortable with it.

Let people explore their sexuality and gender. If they find a label early, let them. They may change it later. They may not. As long as they're happy with it, what does it matter? Why tell them "no?" Even if you're their parent or caregiver, you should at least be fine with them exploring their own identity and figuring their life out.

It's healthy, and ultimately, it will make them a happier person to know they had support for the whole wild ride.

Respect people if they find nothing and choose to stay label-less.

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