“The most fatal illusion is the settled point of view. Since life is growth and motion, a fixed point of view kills anybody who has one.”
Ever been in a room full of good friends and realized you were the only one without a significant other?
Yes, as a matter of a fact, I have. For most single ladies (and men, of course,) it is an inevitable fact that you will be alone one day and surrounded by friends who are “lucky in love.” However, like most people, I am perfectly happy being single. To some that may sound strange — why would someone want to be alone? I argue that I am not alone; I have friends and family, and most importantly my God, and right now that is all I need. In fact, I rarely am every conscience of the fact that I differ from most of my FBO (Facebook official) relationship-driven friends. That is, until we talk about it.
The other night, two of my best friends and I were all catching up, and as most conversations between girls do, our subject made its way into their relationships. That is when I realized, though — I enjoy being single; I hate being the single one in a conversation. I might as well be wearing an invisibility cloak when boyfriends come up. My opinion, my advice, my words carry no weight, because I don’t understand. How could I help someone get through their boyfriend problems when I don’t even have a boyfriend? If I had a penny for everything I “didn’t get” because I “wasn’t in a relationship,” I would fund my own presidential race.
Here is my proposition for all you taken men and women, on behalf of all your single friends in the conversation: the majority of the time, singles give the best relationship advice, so maybe you should listen to us! Consider this: Sometimes the best point of view is the objective outsiders. Those who are in relationships tend to project their couple status on others. Those who have no personal boyfriend/girlfriend aren’t biased in their advice. As a single girl, I see many, many relationships. I know how they work, what makes them shake. Instead of a romanticized idea of how relationships should work, I watch real-life examples of what does and does not make two people last. Most importantly, my mind does not see the world as their couple pairing; when I help a friend, I give them advice as an individual.
All in all, thinking a single person is unqualified to pitch in on the subject of relationships is wholly unimaginative. Just because we don’t have hands to hold and lips to kiss, doesn’t mean our common sense is undeveloped. We aren’t jealous, we aren’t wishful, trust me we aren’t trying to steal him — we just care and most of the time we know the fix. To all the single friends in the conversation, stop hiding! Open your mouth and speak your mind because 99.99 percent of the time, you are right. Most of all, love your single life, and live it freely!
