What does it mean to be a gentleman? Dressing snazzy? Every girl is crazy about a sharp dressed man. That may be true, but those words from the ZZ Top song "Sharp Dressed Man" has a limit. To be a gentleman, it is not enough to look the part because you have to be the part. Be a man of class and sophistication. It seems like the actions of a true gentleman has died in my generation and has become just an idea. Well my brothers, we can revive it. There are numerous tips and rules, but I think I got certain ones that can really help the quest. Here are my 11 tips to become a gentleman.
1. Hold the door for a ladies and men a.k.a. EVERYBODY.
This includes car doors for ladies. It really breaks my heart that I have to put this one up here. It should be common sense. It does not matter if they say "Thank you" or not, it is good manners. It is the most subtle, yet most powerful ways to show consideration to others. It shows you care.
2. Master the handshake.
Not too soft to where it is limp, but not too hard where their hand turns purple. A firm handshake (with eye contact) that shows that you mean business.
3. Know when to not say anything.
There are times where you need to be patient and hold your tongue. Know when to fight your battles and know when to stay silent. Silence is a strong weapon that few have mastered.
4. Call your mother.
One of the most simple tips. I am sure she misses you. Call in every now and then to check up and talk about what is going on in life.
5. Be punctual.
Be on time by arriving five to ten minutes early. Remember: If you're early, you're on time, but if you're on time, you're late.
6. Remember your table manners.
"Please" and "thank you" are important, but most importantly, and this should be common knowledge, do not, NOT, talk with your mouth full or chew with your mouth open.
7. Keep your word and keeps secrets secret.
Do not make plans or commitments if you are not willing to do everything in your power to fulfill those plans. Also, if you are entrusted with a secret, guard it with your life like it is your own. Live and die with them.
8. Treat every woman with respect.
Imagine this: you have a daughter or a younger sister who you look out for. Now imagine a guy like you were to go out with her. How would you feel? Would you let them go out? Be the bigger the person.
9. Connect with people.
Now this might be difficult to start, but trust me, it pays off in the long run. Say hello to a stranger. Make a new friend. Be approachable. Remember that it is about them, not you. Listen to them, ask questions, and make notes. Who knows? Maybe you will meet a billionaire who decides to hire you because he likes you.
10. Show that you care every day.
It is the little things that can make your woman feel like she is the only girl in the world. Flowers and post-it notes with compliments really go a long way. Just do something that can put a smile on her face.
11. Be yourself.
Being at peace with who you are is the sure sign of a true gentleman. It is ok to let your guard down, especially today when our personal and social lives are connected from social media. Just remember Dr. Seuss: "You are you, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than you."
"The greatest act of rebellion today is chivalry and being a Gentleman." ~ Being Caballero
