9 Signs You're in a Long-Term Relationship

9 Signs You're in a Long-Term Relationship


Many college students are in relationships; some are even engaged, or married! Adults have always told us not to count on being with your significant other forever; we have our whole lives ahead of us so we shouldn’t have to feel like we're tied down. Though all this is true, some of us are lucky enough to have been with the same person for years! I’m one of those people. I’ve only had a few boyfriends throughout my young life. My boyfriend and I have been happily dating for over 3 years! Definitely long enough to be considered a long-term relationship. When you’ve been with someone for so long, you want to share it with the world. Sometimes your relationship can seem a little bit too comfortable and relaxed. Between the two of you, there are always some things that other people don't understand. Here are a few of those things that only people in long-term relationships would understand.

1. You bicker like an old couple.

My boyfriend and I are always arguing and nagging each other about the littlest things. There are some things that we just can’t let go.

2. You’re not afraid of bodily functions.

The best part of being in a long-term relationship is that farting and burping is completely normal to do around each other. At this point in the relationship, you are in it for the long run so nothing will scare each other away that easily.

3. You know embarrassing stories about each other.

Heck, your significant other was probably there experiencing them with you! Yes, it’s been that long! We know each other's pasts and we have been there together through most of it.

4. There’s complete honesty.

You are not afraid of upsetting each other. You’ve been through worse. You pretty much know each other’s limits, and there’s no filter between you. Your relationship takes honesty to a whole new level.

5. Appearance doesn’t matter anymore.

For the ladies, once you’re with your boyfriend long-term, you could care less about looking your best for him. At this point you’re not trying to impress him anymore. In fact, you don’t even care about (GASP) shaving your legs!

6. You share everything (especially food).

This happens all the time, especially for drinks. Instead of ordering a drink for each of you, you just order one and share. This saves money and you always get the same thing anyway, so why bother? You guys have been together so long that you also know exactly what the other wants to order at pretty much every restaurant. Everything he has is basically mine.

7. You know what the other is thinking/feeling without ever having to say anything.

When you see something strange going on, you both look at each other and know the other is thinking the same thing. You don’t need to ask each other what they though about a movie or a trip, because you were already thinking the same thing.

8. Silence isn't weird.

When people first get into a new relationship, silence is weird, and there constantly needs to be talking or something going on. When you're together a long time, doing nothing is completely normal. Silence is nice!

9. You can’t imagine a life without them.

When you’re with someone for so long, you can’t image what it would be like without him or her in the future. As far back as you can remember, you two have both always been there for each other and even though you may have quirks, you wouldn't have it any other way.

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I'm The Girl Without A 'Friend Group'

And here's why I'm OK with it


Little things remind me all the time.

For example, I'll be sitting in the lounge with the people on my floor, just talking about how everyone's days went. Someone will turn to someone else and ask something along the lines of, "When are we going to so-and-so's place tonight?" Sometimes it'll even be, "Are you ready to go to so-and-so's place now? Okay, we'll see you later, Taylor!"

It's little things like that, little things that remind me I don't have a "friend group." And it's been like that forever. I don't have the same people to keep me company 24 hours of the day, the same people to do absolutely everything with, and the same people to cling to like glue. I don't have a whole cast of characters to entertain me and care for me and support me. Sometimes, especially when it feels obvious to me, not having a "friend group" makes me feel like a waste of space. If I don't have more friends than I can count, what's the point in trying to make friends at all?

I can tell you that there is a point. As a matter of fact, just because I don't have a close-knit clique doesn't mean I don't have any friends. The friends I have come from all different walks of life, some are from my town back home and some are from across the country. I've known some of my friends for years, and others I've only known for a few months. It doesn't really matter where they come from, though. What matters is that the friends I have all entertain me, care for me, and support me. Just because I'm not in that "friend group" with all of them together doesn't mean that we can't be friends to each other.

Still, I hate avoiding sticking myself in a box, and I'm not afraid to seek out friendships. I've noticed that a lot of the people I see who consider themselves to be in a "friend group" don't really venture outside the pack very often. I've never had a pack to venture outside of, so I don't mind reaching out to new people whenever.

I'm not going to lie, when I hear people talking about all the fun they're going to have with their "friend group" over the weekend, part of me wishes I could be included in something like that. I do sometimes want to have the personality type that allows me to mesh perfectly into a clique. I couldn't tell you what it is about me, but there is some part of me that just happens to function better one-on-one with people.

I hated it all my life up until very recently, and that's because I've finally learned that not having a "friend group" is never going to be the same as not having friends.

SEE ALSO: To The Girls Who Float Between Friend Groups

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