5 Red Flags That He's Just Not That Into You

5 Red Flags That He's Just Not That Into You

Signs of the times when it comes to guys.

Nowadays, it's hard to figure out if a guy is really interested in you or interested in... something else, if you know what I mean. Relationships with a significant other are so hard to establish because the whole world is watching and judging your every move.

Most guys are hard to read, but here are some signs that he's just not into you.

1. He hits you up during "Booty Call Hours."

If he is texting you between the hours of 12 a.m. — 5 a.m., forget about it. He's only after one thing... and I don't mean late-night texting. I mean if the conversation is just starting at 12 a.m., block that number girl and move on.

2. He refuses to be seen in public with you.

If you both have only ever hung out in a private place, specifically your apartment or his, you two were never a thing. Not taking you out in public, especially during the daytime is a bad sign. This means not only does he not want to be seen with you, but he doesn't even see you as dating material. Boy, bye.

3. He takes days to respond to your texts.

Late responses are the number one sign that he's not into you. It basically means he's not interested in how your day is going or anything you have to say. Don't panic if he doesn't respond within the hour. However, if it's the next day, then it's on to the next one.

4. Your constant second-guessing is no coincidence.

Regardless of the signs, if you are second guessing his worth, then you know he's not interested. Usually, when you meet a guy you can feel it in your gut. If all you feel is negativity, don't even try. You want a relationship that is full of positivity so keep on fishing in the big sea. There's plenty of more bait.

5. You've given him every opportunity to step up to the plate, and he never does.

If you have been talking to someone for a couple of months or maybe a year and he hasn't asked you out, run. All you're doing is wasting time when you can be out looking for someone else. If he hasn't asked you out, he doesn't want to be with you, plain and simple.

Overall, yes, it'll be hard to let go of someone that you really like. Unrequited love or feelings can feel unconquerable, but you want what's best for you. In this day and age, it is hard to start over with someone new but it's worth the experience. You will find someone soon, I promise.

Cover Image Credit: Jasmine Rodulfo

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Sorry Not Sorry, My Parents Paid For My Coachella Trip

No haters are going to bring me down.

This piece is intended to be a satire of an experience at Coachella.

With Coachella officially over, lives can go back to normal and we can all relive Beyonce’s performance online for years to come. Or, if you were like me and actually there, you can replay the experience in your mind for the rest of your life, holding dear to the memories of an epic weekend and a cultural experience like no other on the planet.

And I want to be clear about the Beyonce show: it really was that good.

But with any big event beloved by many, there will always be the haters on the other side. The #nochella’s, the haters of all things ‘Chella fashion. And let me just say this, the flower headbands aren’t cultural appropriation, they’re simply items of clothing used to express the stylistic tendency of a fashion-forward event.

Because yes, the music, and sure, the art, but so much of what Coachella is, really, is about the fashion and what you and your friends are wearing. It's supposed to be fun, not political! Anyway, back to the main point of this.

One of the biggest things people love to hate on about Coachella is the fact that many of the attendees have their tickets bought for them by their parents.

Sorry? It’s not my fault that my parents have enough money to buy their daughter and her friends the gift of going to one of the most amazing melting pots of all things weird and beautiful. It’s not my fault about your life, and it’s none of your business about mine.

All my life, I’ve dealt with people commenting on me, mostly liking, but there are always a few that seem upset about the way I live my life.

One time, I was riding my dolphin out in Turks and Cacaos, (“riding” is the act of holding onto their fin as they swim and you sort of glide next to them. It’s a beautiful, transformative experience between human and animal and I really think, when I looked in my dolphin’s eye, that we made a connection that will last forever) and someone I knew threw shade my way for getting to do it.

Don’t make me be the bad guy.

I felt shame for years after my 16th birthday, where my parents got me an Escalade. People at school made fun of me (especially after I drove into a ditch...oops!) and said I didn’t deserve the things I got in life.

I can think of a lot of people who probably don't deserve the things in life that they get, but you don't hear me hating on them (that's why we vote, people). Well, I’m sick of being made to feel guilty about the luxuries I’m given, because they’ve made me who I am, and I love me.

I’m a good person.

I’m not going to let the Coachella haters bring me down anymore. Did my parents buy my ticket and VIP housing? Yes. Am I sorry about that? Absolutely not.

Sorry, not sorry!

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Why You Should Read 'Snotgirl' By Brian Lee O'Malley and Leslie Hung

I'm absolutely obsessed with Leslie Hung's artwork.

Back in high school, I was obsessed with the Scott Pilgrim comic series. So when I saw that Brian O'Malley was working on another comic, I knew I had to pick it up. I'm a little late to the party, so that means I was able to read the first five issues bundled as Volume 1: Green Hair Don't Care all at once.

Needless to say, I'm still a fan of O'Malley's writing, and I'm absolutely obsessed with Leslie Hung's artwork. The premise is interesting and utilizes modern day technology/social media jobs to its advantage. There's also something mysterious and possibly supernatural going on, but it hasn't quite been revealed yet.

The characters are also very real; in fact, a lot of them are kind of unpleasant (especially our main character, Lottie), but the fact that we get to see their ugly sides makes them more believable. It's compelling that one moment I'm rooting for Lottie to fail, then the next I'm rooting for her. Although sometimes the text language and vapid characters can be a little cringy, I'm still interested enough in the plot that I'm willing to look at these elements as intentional social critiques.

There's really only one thing that's off-putting to me, and this is something that could be remedied over the course of the series as it continues. Currently, I'm not really understanding what's going on in the story and know I probably won't get any answers for a while. I can't tell if I'm supposed to focus on the drama between Lottie and her ex, her crumbling relationships with her crappy friends, or the mysterious new relationship with Coolgirl. There are hints of something going on under the surface, some darker undertones, that's just not prevalent enough for me to understand exactly where Snotgirl is going.

If you don't like cliffhangers, I suggest waiting a while before trying out Snotgirl.

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