5 Red Flags That He's Just Not That Into You

5 Red Flags That He's Just Not That Into You

Signs of the times when it comes to guys.

Nowadays, it's hard to figure out if a guy is really interested in you or interested in... something else, if you know what I mean. Relationships with a significant other are so hard to establish because the whole world is watching and judging your every move.

Most guys are hard to read, but here are some signs that he's just not into you.

1. He hits you up during "Booty Call Hours."

If he is texting you between the hours of 12 a.m. — 5 a.m., forget about it. He's only after one thing... and I don't mean late-night texting. I mean if the conversation is just starting at 12 a.m., block that number girl and move on.

2. He refuses to be seen in public with you.

If you both have only ever hung out in a private place, specifically your apartment or his, you two were never a thing. Not taking you out in public, especially during the daytime is a bad sign. This means not only does he not want to be seen with you, but he doesn't even see you as dating material. Boy, bye.

3. He takes days to respond to your texts.

Late responses are the number one sign that he's not into you. It basically means he's not interested in how your day is going or anything you have to say. Don't panic if he doesn't respond within the hour. However, if it's the next day, then it's on to the next one.

4. Your constant second-guessing is no coincidence.

Regardless of the signs, if you are second guessing his worth, then you know he's not interested. Usually, when you meet a guy you can feel it in your gut. If all you feel is negativity, don't even try. You want a relationship that is full of positivity so keep on fishing in the big sea. There's plenty of more bait.

5. You've given him every opportunity to step up to the plate, and he never does.

If you have been talking to someone for a couple of months or maybe a year and he hasn't asked you out, run. All you're doing is wasting time when you can be out looking for someone else. If he hasn't asked you out, he doesn't want to be with you, plain and simple.

Overall, yes, it'll be hard to let go of someone that you really like. Unrequited love or feelings can feel unconquerable, but you want what's best for you. In this day and age, it is hard to start over with someone new but it's worth the experience. You will find someone soon, I promise.

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Why I Listen to Depressing Music Even Though I'm Depressed

Music that's powerful, music that speaks to me, music that means something.

It took me a long time to find my preferred genre of music. In middle school, I remember listening to pop songs that I often heard on the radio. I could (and still can) rap the entirety of Super Bass by Nicki Minaj and I dreamt about my crush professing his love to me by serenading me with Stereo Hearts by Gym Class Heroes. 

By my freshman year of high school, those songs were no longer cool, so I went along with the crowd and started listening to the next most popular type of music: trap music. In my experience, these artists talked solely about fucking bitches and smoking ganja, even though, at that point in my life, I had no intent of having intercourse or "doing" the marijuana (boy was I naive). Though I listened to these genres to appease everyone else, I never felt completed like so many people claimed to feel when they listened to music. I did not have a passion for any bands or artists and I did not feel any sort of deep connection while I was listening.

It wasn’t until my sophomore year that I decided to explore certain genres that I hadn’t yet explored. The first bands I really grew to love were the Arctic Monkeys, Cage the Elephant, and The Kooks. Their music not only sounded great, but the lyrics actually meant something. They spoke about relationships, internal struggles, mental issues, and societal problems. Their lyrics resonated with me, and, surprisingly, the most depressing of their material resonated the most.

I have suffered from depression for as long as I can remember, though I was not diagnosed until a little over a year ago. I’ve been on meds and have learned coping techniques, but the most counterintuitive of those techniques is listening to these depressing songs.

One of the hardest struggles I have with depression is not being able to tell people how I am feeling, not because I don’t want to, but because I don’t have the words. I find that listening to others put into words the exact emotions that I have not been able to convey myself is quite reassuring.  These songs help me better understand my own emotions and give me an idea of how to turn those emotions into spoken language. 

When Alex Turner says “you can shriek until you’re hollow or whisper it the other way” or when AJJ says "everything is real, but it's also just as fake” I feel as if someone has entered my thoughts and put into lyrics the fears and feelings I struggle with on a daily basis. These songs make me feel as if there is a whole community of people out there who experience the same, seemingly-lonely experiences that I do. I feel more connected to the world when I listen to this type of music. I feel understood.

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Two Inspiring Movies Everyone Should See

Movies that take you on an emotional roller coaster.

I have always loved watching movies, especially ones with inspiring and emotional storylines. I get very invested and intrigued (maybe a little too much), but I love having that whirlwind of emotions throughout the entire movie.

Recently, I got the opportunity to see two amazing movies that I think are very important and had a huge effect on me. The films were “Lady Bird” and “Call Me by Your Name”. Both of these films came out in 2017 so they are fairly new. They are making a huge impact and receiving a lot of deserved recognition.

“Lady Bird” has such a special storyline. It follows the relationship between a mother and daughter in such a realistic way. As many girls know, a relationship with a mother is not always an easy one and the film really captures that frustration.

It follows the life of a young girl that is about to leave to go to college. So many things change for girls during this time and there are so many emotional challenges and obstacles. I absolutely love how this film displays this situation and many relationships in a very graphic and honest way. I think it is so important for young girls to watch this film and channel all those feelings. It is incredibly relatable and it reminds girls to be courageous.

“Call Me by Your Name” is seriously one of the best movies I have seen in a long time. It is a love story, which we have seen is countless movies, but this film displays a relationship in such a unique and beautiful way.

The best thing about this movie is that it is awkward at some points and maybe even a little uncomfortable. I admire this because love and relationships aren’t always magical and perfect. It expresses a type of love that is so unapologetic and pure. I could watch it over and over and still have the same inspiring feeling at the end. If you are a fan of emotional love stories or small independent films watch this movie. You will not regret it.

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