As I turn 20 years old. I get more and more questions on when I plan to be married or have children like some of my peers. When being asked this I can't help but roll my eyes and question why people are rushing me. I am only 20 years old... I haven't fully developed into an adult just yet. Maybe I am not ready to be married. Heck, I won't be ready for at least another 5 years. As stated, I am ONLY 20. I'm sorry I enjoy being a little selfish. There are many things I want to do before I am married such as have a successful teaching career, figure out who I am, live my own life, and travel on road trips with some of my best friends. I have no problem with those who chose to get married straight after high school but I am not one of them. How do you expect me to take care of a family when I am in college struggling to feed myself and do my own laundry?!? All my life my family has taken care of me when I have been sick, in sports, and needed things done. I believe that maybe just maybe before I even give marriage a thought I might need to figure out who I am and how to care for myself.
You may be thinking I am nuts for thinking that I am alright being single. I know "I am not getting any younger." But the thing is that the person I am today will not be the person I will always be. Right now I am young, quirky, peppy, and fun. For all I know, one day I may not be able to go out on random drives with my friends to nowhere and just turn my phone off. I want to be able to live the "single lifestyle" for as long as I can because one day I won't be known just as myself. I will be known as someone's mother, wife, and teacher. So instead of pressuring me to find someone to marry right away take into consideration that just because you are happier in a relationship that maybe I enjoy being single and only having to worry about me.
When you see me in public maybe instead of asking about my dating life right away ask me about how my schooling is going or what I enjoy doing when I'm not doing school work or things for my sorority. When coming to college I learned many things one of which being that I am so much more than being someone's girlfriend. I am a sister, daughter, best friend, and granddaughter. I have a loving family. I enjoy spending time with my friends eating George's, Oreos, and Cheez Its. I love going to watch my siblings in all of their extracurricular activities and I love staying in and watching Netflix. When looking at my life I realize that I like only having to worry about me, myself, and I.
