#DenimDay Is Important Because Your Body Is Important

#DenimDay Is Important Because Your Body Is Important

Some new information about denim day if you didn't know or wanted to know more.

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#DenimDay. Some of you are asking what this might be. Denim day is a day where it is dedicated to sexual assault awareness. It started in Italy when women wore denim jeans to show solidarity to a victim of sexual assault. Some history for you about this day is that it grew out of a 1998 Italian Supreme Court decision that overturned a rape conviction because the victim wore tight jeans. AN 18-year old girl is picked up by her married 45-year old driving instructor for her very first lesson. He takes her to an isolated road, pulls her out of the car, wrestles her out of one leg of her jeans and forcefully rapes her. Threatened with death if she tells anyone, he makes her drive the car home. Later that night she tells her parents, and they help and support her to press charges. The perpetrator gets arrested and is prosecuted. He is convicted of rape and sentenced to jail.

1999, Denim Day in Los Angeles

A statement from the Court argued that because the victim wore very tight jeans, she had to help him remove them, and by removing the jeans it was no longer rape but consensual sex. This became known throughout Italy as the "jeans alibi." Enraged by the verdict, the women in the Italian Parliament protested by wearing jeans on the steps of the Supreme Court. This protest was picked up by international media and eventually spread to LA. Inspired, Patti Occhiuzzo Giggans, Executive Director of Peace Over Violence, though everyone should be wearing jeans to protest all of the myths about why women are raped.

Sexual assault is never OK and if you try to justify that is it, we can get into an argument about it all day. Just because of what someone is wearing does NOT give you the right to sexually assault them. Try and argue with me, I dare you. Rape culture awareness has grown so much especially with the social media that is going on in today's world. Hashtags such as #YessAllWomen, #WhatWereYouWearing, and #DenimDay makes it more aware.

Help someone, if you know them there are hotlines because people are scared to speak up and some people it can cause PTSD and even in some cases, some commit suicide. Help them bring awareness to this and know they are not alone.

Assaulted Women's Helpline at 1-866-863-0511

Suicide Hotline 1-800-SUICIDE (784-2433)

Suicide Prevention Hotline 1-800-827-7571

National Sexual Assault Hotline 1-800-656-4673

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"I Believe You" By Fletcher Is A Song Everyone Needs To Hear

Are you losing your mind thinking "What would it take?" to make somebody listen to you?
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It's still April which means it's still Sexual Assault Awareness Month! I was talking with my friends last week and one of them mentioned the song "I Believe You" by Fletcher. I had never heard it so I decided to listen to it later while doing homework- and my life was changed. I mean changed. This song is IMPORTANT and everyone needs to listen to it. Below are the lyrics courtesy of AZ Lyrics. I highly, HIGHLY recommend listening to the song while reading the lyrics.

It's the sick-to-your-stomach feeling with a smile on your face.

Too often victims are forced to keep a smile on their face out of fear. They feel like they can't speak up or act like anything is different because of retaliation.

It's the memory you ignore but you can't erase.

The memories of assault or times of harassment are always in the back of their minds.

It's the text in the middle of the night you didn't ask for.

You didn't ask for it.

It could help your career but at what cost.

Trading promotions for sexual favors. Disgusting.

Are you holding back something that you're dying to say?

Are you?

Me too.

Girl, I believe you.

I believe you. I promise someone believes you.

Are you losing your mind thinking "What would it take?" to make somebody listen to you

Me too.

It's the room full of rumors and everybody's staring.

It feels like all eyes are on you. People have their own versions of every story but it's none of their business. Ignore them, it's easier said than done but I promise they don't matter.

Did they tell you "You were asking for it by what you were wearing."

Your outfit does not mean consent!!! A short skirt is not an invitation to be groped. A low cut top is not asking for inappropriate comments.

It's the stains from your makeup and tears on your pillow.

Your pillow knows your every thought and feeling. It's a constant reminder.

It's a piece of yourself that you let go.

Something was stolen from the victims. Something that no one had the right to take and they had to let it go.

Do you want to scream but just can't find the air?

Sometimes you feel you're going to suffocate.

Me too.

Girl, I believe you

Are you losing your mind thinking "What would it take?" to make somebody listen to you?

All they want is to be believed. This society is so messed up and blames the victim instead of listening to them. Just please listen to them.

Me too.

They say step up and sit down, shut up and back down.

So what's up yeah, what's up with that.

What the hell is up with that? Telling the victims to keep their mouths shut so they don't ruin another person's life? What about their life? Why don't people care about the victims' lives?

So we dress up, get felt up, get shot down, don't speak up.

Yeah, what's up, yeah, what's up with that.

I don't think it's too much to ask to not feel AFRAID to dress up and go out but apparently, it is. I would just get blamed for my outfit.

Are you holding back something that you've just been dying to say?

Say it. Say it loud.

Me too.

Girl, I believe you.

Do you know every battle that you've had to face is making you bulletproof.

You. Are. So. Strong.

Me too, me too

Girl, I believe you

Do you know every battle that you've had to face is making you bulletproof

Me too.

Girl, I believe you.

Me too. I believe you.

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The Real Reasons Women Don't Report Sexual Assault

Content warning: Sexual assault.

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These days in the United States, it is hard to get online and not see a headline of a woman coming forward telling her story of how she was sexually assaulted. You read the article and scroll through the comments underneath. Whether it happened last night, or 20 years ago, you'll probably see questions like these: "what was she wearing?" "was she drunk" "was she walking alone late at night?" If the rape didn't happen the night before, you'll probably see this question as well: "Well what took her so long to report?" Followed by an "I don't believe her, just another whore looking for attention." or.."He probably didn't call her back, so now she's looking for revenge." We can't forget my favorite, though "Was she drunk and just woke up regretting it?" Those are just a few reasons women don't report.

We see headlines about Brock Turner violently raping an unconscious girl, and getting sentenced only SIX MONTHS in jail. He only served three months. Brett Kavanaugh, who was accused of sexual assault by three women, was appointed as Supreme Court Justice. Donald Trump, the President of the United States, sexualizes his own daughter and says things like "grab her by the pussy." The leader of the free world speaks about women like that. Are you still questioning why we don't come forward?

If you find a woman willing to open up about her experience with sexual assault, her story will probably sound something like this. First comes the shock, what you just went through is unfathomable. You're not even completely sure if what you think just happened, happened. You blame yourself, you go through every second kicking yourself for not fighting back harder, not yelling, and maybe kicking yourself for not saying anything at all. Denial sets in shortly after. You tell yourself "no, that wasn't rape. That couldn't happen to me."

Eventually, the pain sets in and there are a lot of tears. It sucks, the dreams, the flashbacks, even certain sounds will take you back to that moment. Sometimes it causes panic attacks and severe anxiety. You dissociate, you don't want to socialize, you don't want to go out and have fun, because you're scared you'll break down. When the anger sets in, though, that's a different story. No man stands a chance, especially those who resemble him. You are repulsed by everything men do, and you think it will never go away. Honestly, you pity the next man you fall for, if that even happens because you don't know how you'll be intimate again, both emotionally and physically.

The last thing a sexual assault survivor wants is to see the person who did it again. So that plays a huge part in not reporting, along with the trauma that comes with getting a rape kit and being interrogated by the police, as if you've done something wrong. Once you've been completely violated, having a stranger poke and prod you to make sure you're not pregnant or don't have an STD feels like a violation all over again.

Don't ever ask a woman why she didn't report and do not ever ask why it took so long. You don't know what courage it took to accept it come forward in the first place.

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