Let's Talk About Sex, But Really Talk About It
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Let's Talk About Sex, But Really Talk About It

The time for excuses is over.

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Let's Talk About Sex, But Really Talk About It
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My introduction to sex was from television shows. Then my formal introduction to sex was a sex-ed class which I honestly don't remember anything about. I then learned more about sex through conversations I had with other guys my age. Then at some point, my parents had "the talk" with me. It basically consisted of the basics complete with the classic "I better not get someone pregnant" line.

Basically, all my communication of sex was from a male's perspective or in a male-dominated environment. Now with everything which is going on with #MeToo movement instead of opening communication with the opposite sex, I've been hesitant and a bit lost in my own ideals.

Ideals which I know for a fact are biased and unchallenged.

Growing up, sex was something which I was given the basics and the rest was left up to experience. Up to this point, I haven't wronged any women, crossed any lines sexually, or done things without consent that I am aware of.

Yet, as the conversation grows and situations are presented, my initial thought is a defense of the accused. The knee-jerk sentiments like "but wait, he said this" or "but she made it seem." These initial reactions are what make me fearful of a predisposition to succumb to rape culture.

At the end of the day, all that I have written is an excuse and excuses are nothing but an attempt to delay progress. There are simple things which I can and will do in order to be a better person, and not just a better sexual partner because the two are not mutually exclusive.

This is a proclamation of being proactive in opening my communication in order to better myself.

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