6 Tips For Selflessness

6 Tips For Selflessness

Our compassion and acts of selflessness take us to the deepest truths

We live in a world where we all focus on ourselves. We focus on is best for us! What we want to do, what we need, what we want to eat. We are so concerned with ourselves, we forget about others.

Now imagine a world where we were all selfless. We cared about what others wanted, what others needed and sometimes we did things for others without even knowing.

We all know someone whose selfless, these are the people that impact our lives the most. The most selfless person I know was my Papaw, Bill. He was a small business owner with a heart of gold. He was the most selfless person. He was always willing to help others and was happy to do it.

He was the gentleman that would do things in life and not expect a single thing out of it. For 17 years he donated a large Christmas tree to Noblesville high school and many people were unaware where this tree came from. The tree brought happiness to so many people. It’s the little things in life like a tree that made so many people happy because Bill was such a selfless person. He was a small business owner, the strived for all the old-style customer service.

These little things that he taught his employees about learning to be selfless. Doing things for others to simply make them happy, and not expecting a dime in return.

The goal of all of us should be learning how to be selfless. Here are a few things to help us begin to become more selfless….

Think about others

Walking down the street, showering, doing homework, eating…. All the time! Think about other people. When we constantly have others on our mind it helps us learn to put others first. Always have others on your mind, think about their feelings. Feelings are the most important things to people and we need to make sure to consider these. If we think about how our actions will affect someone else, we can learn to always make people happy and not accidentally hurt people

Learn the little things

The littlest things you do for people sometimes have the largest impacts. Learn your best friend’s friends favorite candy or drink. If they’re having a bad day at work take it to them, no matter how busy you are. If your girlfriend is kind of clumsy and always drops her toothpick after dinner, simply take more than one when you leave. She might not always need it, but the times she does you’ll have it for her. This will make her so happy that your thinking about her. If your significant other likes it when you simply grab their hand in public, do it! Find out what little things the people in your life enjoy and make an effort to do them. These little things may take you 5 seconds but will make the person in your life so happy.

Their problems are your problems

When the people in your life are going a tough time, it is your problem. Take them under your wing and help them. Help them find the things in their life that make them happy. Take time out of your day and support them. Search for the solution with them. Sometimes all that special someone needs is to know that they can talk to you about their problems and you’ll care and help them.

Be available

Don’t be too busy to help someone. Make time for the people that matter in your life. If someone needs you, make time for them. Find the precious hours to spend time with the people that matter. Nothing is more important than sharing time. Time is the precious thing you can give someone and never get back.

The old things

Open a door for someone, load their groceries, smile. These are the things that use to be normal, but we don’t see so much because everyone is living a selfless life. If you want to become more selfless, do these things. Holding a door for someone takes an extra two seconds, but that could make someone’s day. Compliment or smile at a stranger, this could make them show someone cares about them.

No thanks needed

The biggest part of being selfless is doing things and expecting nothing in return. When you do things in this crazy world, learn to do things to make others happy. When you complete things, don’t always expect a thank you. A thank you is just a bonus. Leave that soda on the teacher’s desk and don’t claim that you did that. Leave a note on your significant others car. You don’t always have to be with the selfless act for it to count. Simply knowing you changed someone day should be more than plenty.

Being selfless in this crazy world we live in might be something that you have to work at but in the end, it will impact other peoples lives. Live in a world where you look at what others need and want as well. When you learn to help others your happiness will increase, and you will be impacting peoples lives. These few things will show people how much you really care and the act of being selfless will make you known.

Bill is a gentleman that is known very well in his community. People respected him, and he left a great legacy. He inspired and still inspires others to lead a better life. He changed peoples’ lives for the better simply for being himself.

We all want to leave a positive impact when we leave this world, and the act of being selfless will help you get there. Leave a positive impact on someone’s life today.

I leave you with something to think about:

Selfish people will never see the beauty of love.

They can’t comprehend why there is joy in serving another person and loving them without expecting anything back.

Selflessness is foolishness to them.

Cover Image Credit: Kendall Gatewood

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1. "Ooooooo, he needs some milk."

2. "Hi, welcome to Chili's."

3. "It is Wednesday, my dudes."

4. "Country boy, I love you ahhhwweelhwh..."

5. "Escalera oooooooaaaa!"

6. "F**k ya chicken strips!"

7. "Barbecue sauce on my titties."

8. "Gimme your F**KING money!"

9. "That was legitness."

10. "Ms. Keisha, MS. KEISHA! Oh my f**king God, she f**king dead."

11. "Fre-sha-vocado."

12. "Staaaahp! I coulda dropped my croissant!"

13. "That's my OPINION."

14. "You're not my dad, ugly ass f**king noodle head."

15. "What the f**k, Richard."

16. "This bitch empty, YEET!"

17. "Road work ahead? Yeah, I sure hope it does."

18. "What up, I'm Jared I'm 19, and I never f**king learned how to read."

19. "Um, I'm never been to oovoo javer."

20. "My God, they were roommates."

21. "Why are you running, why are you running?"

22. "Whoever threw that paper, your mom's a hoe."

23. "I can't swim."

24. "Lebron James."

25. "It's an avocado, thanksssss..."

26. "Mother trucker dude, that hurt like a butt cheek on a stick."

27. "Watch your profanity."

28. "I love you bitch, I ain't never gonna stop loving you, biiiiiitch."

29. "What are thoooooose?"

30. "I smell like beef."

31. "You better stop."

32. "What the F**K IS UP KYLE?"

33. "Come get y'all juice."

34. "Two bros, chilling in a hot tub, 5 feet apart cause they're not gay."

35. "So you just gonna bring me a birthday gift on my birthday to my birthday party on my birthday with a birthday gift?"

36. "I wanna be a cowboy, baby."

37. "Why you always lying?"

38. "Nice Ron" "I sneezed, oh, what, am I not allowed to sneeze?"

39. "I'm washing me and my clothes."

40. "Honey, you've got a big storm coming."

41. "XOXO, gossip girl."

42. "Shoutout to all the pear."

43. "A potato flew around my room before you came."

44. "Chipotle is my life."

45. "Look at all those chickens!"


47. "I like turtles."

48. "It's the most beautiful thing I've ever seen in my life, watermelon, INSIDE A WATERMELON."

49. "Deez nuts, HA GOT EM?"

50. "F**k you, I don't want no ravioli."

51. "21."

52. "I'm in my mum's car, broom broom."

53. "Iridocyclitis."

54. "You know what, I'm about to say it."

55. "That is NOT correct."

56. "Uh, I'm not finished" "Oh my God, can you let me do what I need to do?"

57. "I have osteoporosis."

58. "ADAM."

59. "Merry Chrysler."

60. "Wait a minute, who ARE you?"

61. "Try me, bitch."


63. "I didn't get no sleep cause of y'all, y'all not gone get no sleep cause of me!"

64. "Do you want to go see Uncle Cracker or no?"

65. "So no head?"

66. "You got eczema."

67. "I am shooketh."

68. "Hey my name is Trey, I have a basketball game tomorrow."

69. "Can I PLEASE get a waffle?"

70. "There is only one thing worse than a rapist." "A child."

71. "Ah f**k, I can't believe you've done this."

72. "Bitch, I hope the f**k you do."

73. "Two shots of vodka."

74. "F**k off Janet, I'm not going to your f**king baby shower."

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Making a Decision: an Indecisive Guide

To all the indecisive people out there: you are not alone


I am the queen of indecision. For me, making a choice will have me frantically calling both of my parents, asking all of my friends' advice and postponing all studying until the decision is made. Of course, this is because I do not want to make a choice that I regret – such as the time I decided that starting my job at 6:30 am would be a good idea, or the time when I scared my friends with how hyper I was after drinking both coffee and Boba tea. Yet when I take this caution of making the wrong choice too far, the decision-making process itself ends up being regrettable. So much so that I called my mom approximately seven times this weekend to ask her advice on a decision. So much so that my brother used an example of me not being able to choose what kind of shoe I should wear in his article.

This weekend, I was presented with two amazing opportunities to make a difference in the world this summer and I entered a stage of decision paralysis that I did not know was possible. No matter which angle I looked at each situation from, they both would provide me with a phenomenal experience, and would both require sacrifices. Despite not (as of yet) reaching a concrete decision, I learned a lot about the decision-making process and what to do in the next time I am faced with a difficult choice. So, in the spirit of finding summer jobs, gearing up to register for classes and deciding what on earth we want to do with our futures, here are the tips and tricks that I would follow to make the best decision that you can.

Don't overthink it.


Really, this goes without thinking! Or, unlike most of us, it goes with a LOT of thinking! Seriously though, if you overthink things, they will turn into a pudding mush in your brain until you don't know what you don't know anymore. There is a very fine line between thinking through all your options and overthinking them – and judging by the number of times I called my mom this weekend, definitely crossed it.

Always use the pro-con list


Ah, the Gilmore Girls. Not only did you inspire me to read every single book under the sun or have a witty conversation full of cultural references no one else understands, but you also taught me the beauty of the pro-con list. Choosing what you want can be messy and difficult to find because of the fears you might have. distinguish from the fears. Writing it all down on paper can often illuminate the right decision and show you which path is ultimately better.

Decide on your make-or-break factor


Sometimes even the best pro-and-con lists will not be enough and will leave you in a frantic analysis ("should I go for the decision with 3 cons or 3.5 cons?") When even the Gilmore method fails, fear not! Consider which factors you truly do not want to compromise on and go from there. This can mean that even the worse decision may be the right one for you.

Trust your gut


As much as it is difficult to dig through your feelings to find your true motives behind a decision, your gut can sometimes tell you what you are most passionate about and therefore what decision is best for you to take. As my Emory Reads friends tell me, passion trumps everything. Choosing which decision aligns with your values will often lead you to make the best and most-satisfying decision.

But trust your head as well


But your gut can't always be trusted. It can lie to you, and when you overthink too much, it can change its mind. Your gut feeling may be one that is furthermore borne out of fear of the other option. In that way, I have made many a good decision based on the pure basis of rationality. Using only our heart to make important decisions allows fear to be one of the factors, whereas looking at the decision rationally can help you see the ultimate path.

Ask around


When I am puzzled about making a risky decision, I often consult the people in my life who are on my side and want the best for me. These people can help you gauge what your heart truly desires, bring up factors that you haven't considered and even act as a support network for you while making this decision. When your mind kicks into over-analysis, sometimes a fresh perspective is all you need to truly make a confident choice. Decisions are hard, people. Don't make them on your own.=

Don't ask everyone


There is such a thing as consulting others to make an important decision, and there is such a thing as relying on them to make your decision. If you ask too many people from too wide a pool, you'll end up having opinions for and against what you are proposing, which means that someone will always be disappointed in your decision. The bottom line is, asking too many people for their opinions is frustrating, no matter what – whether they have contradicting opinions, or they just nod their heads and go "hmmm, tough choice" (thanks, I guess?). In order to avoid frustration, consult the people in your life who know you the best and are dearest to you, rather than the stranger in front of you in line for fries at the DUC.

"Would my dad be proud?"


Or your granddad, or your mom, or your professor, or even a TV character. Whoever you know whose morals you can measure your decision up to will often provide reason and illumination. If the decision you are making is not too wild and you feel that you will have their approval, then it is likely not detrimental.

Stick with your decision!


Resolutely make up your mind and refuse to turn back. Exercise your right as a free individual to make a choice for yourself, and then do not second-guess it. Please don't do what I did and email a company two days later saying you've changed your mind. Please.

There is not always a right decision


Sometimes both decisions you are presented with have different but equally good opportunities. In that case, lucky you! You have two amazing opportunities and therefore cannot mess up. Rather than stressing that you are picking the wrong choice, know that you cannot go wrong in either.

Realize you will grow no matter what


Decision-making should be viewed as a challenge and a privilege rather than a burden. Make big, bold and beautiful decisions. Making up your mind can lead to a phenomenal experience that you will adore or a difficult experience that will only fashion you into a better person. Positive consequences can come out of any decision, even if we land in an upsetting position. Each choice we make can positively contribute to our character, fashioning us into the person we are becoming, day by day.

By the time this article is published, I will know my decision. And hopefully, by the end of this article, you will know yours. Let's continue to make decisions courageously, following both our heads and our hearts. Let's be determined to grow through our decisions, realizing that we have made the best choice we could, and never looking back.

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