​Self-Care Isn’t Always Pretty

​Self-Care Isn’t Always Pretty

But we have to do it anyway.
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On the whole as a society, when we think of the term, “self-care” we think of fuzzy blankets, tea, bubble baths, and string lights in our rooms. We tend to think of taking the day off from work or class, sleeping in, eating comfort food, maybe some meditating, and just letting ourselves rest for the day. That’s all well and good, but there comes a point where that is hurting you more than it’s helping you.

Self-care isn’t always pretty. It’s not always putting on a fuzzy bathrobe and drinking hot cocoa. When you go through a period of time when you’re struggling, and you’ve been putting off responsibilities at every turn, eventually you reach the point where blowing off said responsibilities is the exact opposite of self-care.

Loving yourself isn’t always pleasant. A huge part of loving yourself is doing things that your future self will thank you for. When it finally gets to be too much, and for the third day in a row you feel like you don’t have the physical strength to get out of bed, I promise you that you can. You can do it, and your future self, even the future self as close as tomorrow, will thank you for getting up, showering and putting on something besides the pajamas you’ve been wearing for a week.

Sometimes loving yourself means you have to force yourself to do the things that you’ve been dreading, or confront the issues that you’ve been too drained to address. The frilly image of self-care that everyone has in their heads is only conducive for a very specific spectrum of situations. But more often than not taking care of yourself means managing to drag yourself out of bed and doing your chores so you have clean clothes to wear and dishes to eat off of. It means making yourself go to the store so you have fresh food in the house to eat, because you know those leftovers are beginning to become questionable.

Self-care is exactly what it sounds like: it’s taking care of yourself. And that means you have to do the things necessary to give yourself a happy, healthy life. Which means yes, sometimes you have to treat yourself to a day where you turn your phone off and watch Netflix all day, but it also means that you need to get up, wash the sheets on your bed, take out the trash, and open the textbook that has been staring at you from your backpack for the last four days, because you have an assignment due tomorrow that you haven’t even looked at yet.

Struggling with stress, mental health issues, and just the overload of responsibilities that life can throw at us in general can be difficult to deal with and extremely overwhelming. And I am not writing this to diminish the fact that sometimes all you really need is a day where you don’t do anything. But you have to keep in the back of your mind that there is a balance to everything that you do and don’t do. Constantly deciding that, “not today” is the right answer will hurt your mental state more in the long-run. There comes a point when you need to make the active decision to do the not-so-fun parts of taking care of yourself. But more often than not, those are the most important parts.

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13 Summer Struggles Only Thick Girls Understand

Chaffing. So much chaffing.
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Summer is a lovely time. A time of cookouts, swimming and sunny weather. But if you're a " thick girl," summer sometimes brings more unpleasantries than it does for slimmer women. No matter how beautiful and confident you are in your body, it can bring some struggles.

1. The living hell that is shorts shopping

Step 1: Find the biggest size the store has.

Step 2: (If you can even get those on): Realize your stomach is being squeezed into the top, your butt is falling out of the back and your thighs are having the life squished out of them.

Step 3: Realize why winter isn't so bad.

2. And dealing with them even after finding a pair that "fits"

Nothing like taking a pair of shorts home you remember fitting you okay in the store and then walking for 45 seconds and pulling them out of your butt or crotch 17 times. Truly a magical experience.

3. And every bathing suit you try on shows more skin than you'd planned

Even the most conservative bathing suit turns into cleavage-city and a non-cheeky set of bottoms turns into a thong. I promise, older people glaring at me in my sexual bathing suit, I didn't mean for this to happen!

4. Chaffing. So much chaffing

No better feeling than 4 minutes into wearing short shorts realizing that your inner thighs are literally tearing themselves apart. Body Glide and baby powder are a thick girl's #1 necessity.

5. Loving rompers. Rompers not loving you.

Rompers are made with short and skinny girls in mind. Heaven forbid you're not short, and heaven forbid you're not skinny. Rompers are like a mystical article of clothing that, no matter what, always just barely doesn't fit.

6. Imagining wearing a sundress with a strapless bra and just laughing

Of course, not all thick girls are well-endowed in the boob department, but if you are, you understand how hilarious the thought of you wearing a strapless bra truly is.

7. And bralettes are a thing of fantasy

Once again, bralettes are designed for a very specific body type. One that I do not fall into.

8. Feeling like you need to constantly defend yourself for dressing like you want to

There are so many posts and tweets and just general ideals that people have that certain sized women can't wear certain clothing. You shouldn't feel the need to defend yourself for wearing a cute crop top or a bikini, but you will.

9. And always feeling looked at when you're rocking your swim suit

Yes, I see your judging eyes, and yes, they are making me feel like shit. It doesn't matter how confident you are in your body, people looking at you like you just killed somebody just because you're wearing something typically made for smaller women doesn't make you feel good.

10. Did I mention chaffing?

I just felt like something so horrible couldn't just be mentioned once.

11. Online shopping for cute summer outfits and then none of them fitting you correctly

There's always the dreaded "one size fits all" for plus-sized women. As if there's just one way to be plus-sized. No matter how much they promise online that it'll fit well, it won't.

12. Seeing tiny girls complaining about losing their "summer bodies"

So many tweets talking about choosing food over a summer body. So many profile pictures of traditionally skinny women. I'm not saying that thick girls are the only ones who can complain about their summer bodies, and thick girls do not have a monopoly one not feeling confident in their bodies. But it is hard to see those posts knowing that those women would be glorified in their swimwear while you'd be gawked at.

13. The "you go girl!" comments on your oh-so-brave bikini photos

Compliments are nice, and positive comments while wearing a bikini go a long way. But the dreaded "you go girl" comment just seems so condescending. Just treat me like anyone else you'd see wearing a bikini. I promise, I'd like to feel like that.

Cover Image Credit: Sara Petty

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45 #Goals For The End-All Be-All College Kid's Summer Bucket List

Running out of ideas of things to do this summer? No, you're not!
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It's finally summertime, or as I'd like to call it, the best time of the year! But every summer I notice that there are tons of things I could be doing than just sitting around doing a whole lot of nothing. Do you run out of ideas of things to do during your summer breaks? Well if so, here are 45 activity ideas that will make your summer adventurous and memorable!

1. Have some nice days to relax on the beach.

I mean... this a summer must, right?

2. Relax by the pool.

3. Take some summer classes.

It never hurts to get some college credits on your time off.

4. Finish a TV series on Netflix.

... or multiple.

5. Take a trip to the aquarium or zoo.

6. Go on a froyo or ice cream date.

7. Go indoor/outdoor skydiving.

It seems like skydiving places are popping up everywhere, nowadays.

8. Visit some museums.

9. Go see a new movie that's being released.

10. Take a road trip with your besties.

Road trips are the best for friendship bonding!

11. Go to your favorite restaurant, but try something NEW!

12. Make a summer Spotify playlist.

Come on now... what is summer without the tunes to go with it?

13. Have a cookout or party with your friends.

14. Take your dog for a walk or to a dog park.

Pets are your friends, too.

15. Go parasailing or tubing.

16. Attend a local sports game.

17. Have mini photo shoots (of people or nature).

This one is for all my photoholics out there.

18. Go on a hike.

19. Get a part-time (or full-time) job.

It's nice to actually have money to do this stuff.

20. Go on a shopping spree.

21. Try out some new recipes.

22. Go to a local fair/festival.

24. Go strawberry picking.

25. Go to an amusement or water park.

26. Donate old clothes.

27. Paint a picture.

28. Go on a boat ride.

29. Catch up on some sleep.

30. If you have a record player, go shopping for used vinyl records.

31. Visit a friend who doesn't live close to you.

They will definitely appreciate having visitors.

32. Redo your bedroom.

33. Have a spa day.

Massages? Mani/Pedis? Doesn't matter, get your relaxation on!

34. Help with chores around the house.

Your parents should appreciate this one, and it's a good way for you to get yourself on their good side.

35. Get tan.

36. Have some lazy days to do nothing.

37. Go fishing.

38. Try out a local coffee shop.

You'll notice that these little local coffee shops literally have the best coffee ever.

39. Go to summer concerts.

40. Go to a drive-in movie.

41. Watch a sunrise/sunset.

42. Help out your community and do some volunteer work.

43. Be a tourist for a day in your own hometown.

It's a lot more interesting to be home when you take in what the tourists do.

44. If you have a Polaroid camera, take lots of pictures.

45. Make a summer scrapbook documenting your unforgettable summer.

It'll definitely be one to remember!

Cover Image Credit: Kelsey Thomas

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