​Self-Care Isn’t Always Pretty

​Self-Care Isn’t Always Pretty

But we have to do it anyway.
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On the whole as a society, when we think of the term, “self-care” we think of fuzzy blankets, tea, bubble baths, and string lights in our rooms. We tend to think of taking the day off from work or class, sleeping in, eating comfort food, maybe some meditating, and just letting ourselves rest for the day. That’s all well and good, but there comes a point where that is hurting you more than it’s helping you.

Self-care isn’t always pretty. It’s not always putting on a fuzzy bathrobe and drinking hot cocoa. When you go through a period of time when you’re struggling, and you’ve been putting off responsibilities at every turn, eventually you reach the point where blowing off said responsibilities is the exact opposite of self-care.

Loving yourself isn’t always pleasant. A huge part of loving yourself is doing things that your future self will thank you for. When it finally gets to be too much, and for the third day in a row you feel like you don’t have the physical strength to get out of bed, I promise you that you can. You can do it, and your future self, even the future self as close as tomorrow, will thank you for getting up, showering and putting on something besides the pajamas you’ve been wearing for a week.

Sometimes loving yourself means you have to force yourself to do the things that you’ve been dreading, or confront the issues that you’ve been too drained to address. The frilly image of self-care that everyone has in their heads is only conducive for a very specific spectrum of situations. But more often than not taking care of yourself means managing to drag yourself out of bed and doing your chores so you have clean clothes to wear and dishes to eat off of. It means making yourself go to the store so you have fresh food in the house to eat, because you know those leftovers are beginning to become questionable.

Self-care is exactly what it sounds like: it’s taking care of yourself. And that means you have to do the things necessary to give yourself a happy, healthy life. Which means yes, sometimes you have to treat yourself to a day where you turn your phone off and watch Netflix all day, but it also means that you need to get up, wash the sheets on your bed, take out the trash, and open the textbook that has been staring at you from your backpack for the last four days, because you have an assignment due tomorrow that you haven’t even looked at yet.

Struggling with stress, mental health issues, and just the overload of responsibilities that life can throw at us in general can be difficult to deal with and extremely overwhelming. And I am not writing this to diminish the fact that sometimes all you really need is a day where you don’t do anything. But you have to keep in the back of your mind that there is a balance to everything that you do and don’t do. Constantly deciding that, “not today” is the right answer will hurt your mental state more in the long-run. There comes a point when you need to make the active decision to do the not-so-fun parts of taking care of yourself. But more often than not, those are the most important parts.

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52 Instagram Captions Perfect For Your Next Beach Vacation

Perfect for those beach daze.
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Summer is officially in full swing. We are all looking forward to the adventures that await us. A lot of us have been dreaming about the day when we finally get to kick our feet up and relax by the ocean. If you find yourself getting ready for a trip to the beach then read these quotes to help get your in the mood for your vacation. Whether you are looking for an Instagram caption or are just trying to settle a bad case of wanderlust, here are 52 quotes on summer:

1. "Hello summer."

2. "I'm happiest when I'm floating in the ocean."

3. "May you always have a shell in your pocket, and sand in your toes."

4. "Life is better with palm trees."

5. "Sandy toes. Sun-kissed nose."

6. "Balmy nights, pink sunsets, and salty air."

7. "Talk to the sand."

8. "Live in the sunshine. Swim in the sea. Drink the wild air." -Emerson

9. "Everyone should believe in something. I believe I should go to the beach."

10. "Spontaneity is the best kind of adventure."

11. "The ocean is calling and I must go."

12. "Here comes the sun."

13. "If it requires a bikini, my answer is yes."

14. "I'm just a beachy kinda girl."

15. "As free as the ocean..."

16. "As endless as the ocean, as timeless as the tides..."

17. "Life's a beach. Enjoy the waves."

18. "A pineapple a day keeps the worries away."

19. "Let the currents guide your heart."

20. "Happiness comes in waves."

21. "Let's go somewhere where the stars kiss the ocean."

22. "My favorite color is sunset."

23. "I lost my heart to the sea."

24. "Sun, sand, and surf."

25. "Salt in the air. Sand in my hair."

26. "Smell the sea, and feel the sky. Let your soul and spirit fly." -Van Morrison

27. "High tides and good vibes."

28. "Mermaid kisses and starfish wishes."

29. "Stop and smell the ocean."

30. "I'm happy anywhere I can see the ocean."

31. "Tropical state of mind."

32. "Forever chasing the sun."

33. "Girls just wanna have sun."

34. "Some of the best memories are made in flip flops." -Kellie Elmore

35. "Good times and tan lines."

36. "Palm trees, ocean breeze, salty air, sun-kissed hair, endless summer, take me there."

37. "The ocean is calling."

38. "Love you to the beach and back."

39. "Paradise found."

40. "Seas the day."

41. "Live in the sunshine, swim in the sea, drink the wild air..." -Ralph Waldo Emerson

42. "Eat. Beach. Sleep. Repeat."

43. "I never met a sunset I didn't like."

44. "Beach daze always."

45. "Catch me by the sea."

46. "Only worry in the world is the tide gonna reach my chair." -Zac Brown Band

47. "Stay salty."

48. "Done adulating- let's be mermaids."

49. "Find me under the palm trees."

50. "Sea you soon."

51. "Hello sunshine."

52. "Don't mind me... I'm just chasing the sun."

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7 Reasons You Should Be Excited For Fall

Sweater weather here we come.

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Summer is coming to an end and we're all kind of bummed.

The vacations are over and school shopping has started, but that is no reason to be sad. Fall aka the most wonderful time of the year (I don't care what that Christmas song says) is almost here!

That means sweaters will be pulled from closets, flip-flops will be replaced with boots, and bonfires will be going on everywhere. Here are seven more great reasons you should be excited about fall.

1. Cool Weather

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Summer is great with so much free time from school and such, but let's face it, unless your plans involve water or air conditioning it can be too hot to actually enjoy yourself.

The cool fall temperatures and breezes make it perfect for corn mazes, going to pumpkin patches, and just enjoying outdoor time in general.

2. Hot Drinks

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I'll be honest, I don't LOVE coffee like some people, but I enjoy it every now and then.

It blows my mind when I see people drinking hot anything in the summertime. I mean, you're already sweating on the outside, do you want to sweat on the inside too?

With the fall weather mentioned above, comes the perfect time for enjoying all those hot drinks (pumpkin flavored for those of you who go for that.)

3. Fall Colors

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Don't get me wrong, everything in full bloom during summer id beautiful, but the hot weather makes everything grow faster which means more upkeep.

And with all that bloom comes those great allergies. In the fall, nothing is growing out of control, there isn't much pollen circulating, and the falling leaves make for great leaf piles. Plus we all know how good fall colors look in pictures.

4. Decorations

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Fall is when all the cute home decorations start to pop up.

From the fall themed wreathes to spooky Halloween yards all leading up to Christmas decorations. It's easy to even put some decorations together from natural things you find around the yard like acorns and twigs.

5. New School Year

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For most people this is more of a downer — I get it, being free all summer than having to go back to such a tight, busy schedule can suck.

Think of it this way though, it's a new year to make new friends, get better grades, and be one year closer to graduation. Then you're one year closer to being on your own (maybe that's scarier though.)

6. New and Returning TV Shows

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With fall comes the end of new episode drought as most shows air new episodes in the fall and reruns play all summer. Well the wait for new TV is almost over so get ready to watch new and returning shows in the coming months.

You can also prepare for all those Halloween themed movie marathons (which are the best) and another high-stakes football season.

7. Halloween

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Halloween is the best holiday and there's no way you can change my mind. It's spooky and exciting — getting to dress up for one night (or more) and having an awesome time with friends at great parties makes it a holiday like no other.

All the haunted houses and mazes are really fun activities and for some reason getting scared with all your buddies is sort of funny — it also makes for a great bonding experience. All that free candy makes it that much better.

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