3 Self-Care Practices That Will Cost You Literally $0

3 Self-Care Practices That Will Cost You Literally $0

Doing healthy things to improve the care and love you give yourself do not always have to cost money
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One of the biggest things that should consume our time should be the love and care we give ourselves. Unfortunately, this too can cost a lot of money. Self-care practices are known for looking like bath-bombs, manicures, pedicures, getting your hair done, buying a new outfit, and spending tons of money on things that make you happy now. What we forget are the practices that do not cost a thing:

1. Setting healthy boundaries

One of the things that we forget to do when we allow people to enter our lives is set boundaries. We wonder why our friends make comments that hurt our feelings, why our partner teases us in ways that annoy us, or why people do things that we don't like. It's because we don't set boundaries.

Healthy boundaries look a lot like deciding whether a potential relationship will be good for you instead of jumping head first and rushing into intimacy. It looks like recognizing that friends, partners, and family are not mind-readers. It's knowing what you do and do not want and not allowing people to decide that for you. It's also being your own parent and not allowing others to control you. It's saying no when you want to and telling people around you when something isn't for you. Healthy boundaries include trusting your own decisions, being sexual when you want to be, and not allowing others to take advantage of who you are romantically or in general.

When boundaries are set and are healthy those around you will not have a chance to walk all over you, like before.

2. Forgiving yourself

We are so good at forgiving others that we forget that we need to forgive ourselves as well. We need to tell ourselves that what we do is okay the same way we tell others. It's okay if we say the wrong thing at the wrong time, it's okay if we do something stupid, it's okay if we fail a test, it's okay that we ate the whole cake, and it's okay if we don't have it all together. We are all our biggest critics and we put the most pressure on ourselves, so the most that we can do is forgive ourselves after any slip-up.

When you forgive yourself you can feel the weight lift off your shoulders. When you say to yourself, "I forgive you", you can instantly feel what forgiveness feels like. It isn't keeping you up at night and it doesn't have you wondering who else you might've let down.

3. Finding something you enjoy doing alone

I'd say this would be healthy for both introverts and extroverts. Even if it means sitting in your bed for hours upon hours watching your favorite show. There's a long list of things you can enjoy doing alone. Going to the gym, reading, running or sitting outside for a few minutes doing absolutely nothing.

It's not something you have to do every day or it is something you can do every day. It's something you enjoy but you don't need to reason with why you enjoy doing it or tell anyone what you enjoy most about it. It's to bring you closer to yourself in a way that is more understanding. That is what practicing self-care is. It's doing things for you that make you enjoy life a little more. Let this "something" that you find be that for you.

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Everything You Will Miss If You Commit Suicide

The world needs you.
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You won't see the sunrise or have your favorite breakfast in the morning.

Instead, your family will mourn the sunrise because it means another day without you.

You will never stay up late talking to your friends or have a bonfire on a summer night.

You won't laugh until you cry again, or dance around and be silly.

You won't go on another adventure. You won't drive around under the moonlight and stars.

They'll miss you. They'll cry.

You won't fight with your siblings only to make up minutes later and laugh about it.

You won't get to interrogate your sister's fiancé when the time comes.

You won't be there to wipe away your mother's tears when she finds out that you're gone.

You won't be able to hug the ones that love you while they're waiting to wake up from the nightmare that had become their reality.

You won't be at your grandparents funeral, speaking about the good things they did in their life.

Instead, they will be at yours.

You won't find your purpose in life, the love of your life, get married or raise a family.

You won't celebrate another Christmas, Easter or birthday.

You won't turn another year older.

You will never see the places you've always dreamed of seeing.

You will not allow yourself the opportunity to get help.

This will be the last sunset you see.

You'll never see the sky change from a bright blue to purples, pinks, oranges, and yellows meshing together over the landscape again.

If the light has left your eyes and all you see is the darkness, know that it can get better. Let yourself get better.

This is what you will miss if you leave the world today.

This is who will care about you when you are gone.

You can change lives. But I hope it's not at the expense of yours.

We care. People care.

Don't let today be the end.

You don't have to live forever sad. You can be happy. It's not wrong to ask for help.

Thank you for staying. Thank you for fighting.

Suicide is a real problem that no one wants to talk about. I'm sure you're no different. But we need to talk about it. There is no difference between being suicidal and committing suicide. If someone tells you they want to kill themselves, do not think they won't do it. Do not just tell them, “Oh you'll be fine." Because when they aren't, you will wonder what you could have done to help. Sit with them however long you need to and tell them it will get better. Talk to them about their problems and tell them there is help. Be the help. Get them assistance. Remind them of all the things they will miss in life.

If you or someone you know is experiencing suicidal thoughts, call the National Suicide Prevention Hotline — 1-800-273-8255

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To The Big-Hearted Girls Who Just Can't Hit The Block Button

Your compassion for others knows no bounds, and that's why you can't seem to let them go.

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Not everyone is worthy of your good heart.

It might be hard to accept that, but it's true. The ones that don't deserve your attention and your care always out themselves. Maybe they take advantage of your kindness, maybe they use you for your love, or maybe they hurt you because they envy some aspect of you or your life. Whatever the case may be, I know you feel the pain from it. I know you are not naive enough to believe that they don't mean the hurtful things they say or that the awful things they put you through are only mere accidents.

Your problem is that you have too big of a heart. You love giving second chances and when they screw that chance up as well, you just can't help yourself from giving them a third, a fourth, or a fifth. Far too easily you are swept up in this cycle of forgiving and forgetting, only to have it blow up in your face time and time again.

You know better.

How many times have you sworn you wouldn't help them again, that it was the last time you'd speak to them, only to snatch up your phone the second you see their name pop up across the screen? How often have you cried over someone who only wanted to be a part of your life when they needed something from you?

Stop giving your all to people that don't care.

Trust me, I know it's easier said than done. It's a difficult habit to break, but once you do you are completely and utterly free from the toxicity. If you're looking for a sign to block that boy who has done nothing but break your heart, or if you were waiting for your cue to finally end that friendship that does nothing but make you feel small, here it is.

Unfortunately, not everyone is going to treat you with the love and respect that you so freely give. Most of the time the people that treat you like crap are just crappy people. It's not your responsibility to save every troubled soul, and you've probably learned by now that not all of them want to be saved.

There's nothing wrong with looking for the good in people, but when they start to drain you of your light you need to have the strength to let them go.

To the girls gifted with hearts too sensitive and ready to burst with compassion, it's OK to cut ties with those who hurt you time and time again. It doesn't mean you've stooped to their level; it doesn't mean you're a bad person. You tried your hardest, but toxic people rarely change their ways. You don't deserve that kind of pain.

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