7 Nonconventional Sayings My Parents Taught Me

7 Nonconventional Sayings My Parents Taught Me

Sayings I'll be passing down to my children, because they should be just as non-conventional as I was.
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Whenever my friends come over, one of the first things they say is that my parents are hilarious. There is definitely a method to all their madness, and as I've gotten older, it's become more and more clear. Everything they taught me should be shared and will be with my future children.

1. “Test-drive a car before you buy it."


If you know my mom, she is absolutely hilarious. She definitely meant this in a sexual way, but I use this way of thinking for anything. I try something before I make any decisions. Personally, it's helped me in a lot of ways.

2. “Just DO it."


My mom and dad always knew I was a troublemaker. Although I was anxious, I was sassy in the moment. They told me to do whatever I wanted, and worry about the consequences later. Now, this wasn't in terms of going out and stealing things or doing anything SUPER illegal, just in terms of stepping on toes. If I ever had doubts or was scared, my mom would say, “Just do it."

3. “LU"


My family isn't super touchy or feely for many reasons, but I always knew I was loved. Every night, my mom always texts me “LU" which means “love you." Through all the dysfunction, there's always love.


4. “Just because there's a goalie doesn't mean you can't score."


We're going to pretend that my dad always meant for this to mean that when there's somebody in the way of a job opportunity, you can always move them. However, 99% of the time he was talking about boys that were trying to get with me when I have a boyfriend. He still says this, and I still think about it when I'm applying for jobs or scholarships or when I'm feeling a little discouraged. Just because there is something in the way, doesn't mean you can't get it.

5. “Suck it back in."


I'm very expressive to say the least. I tell people what is on my mind whether they like it or not, and sometimes my mom isn't in the mood for it. She always tells me this, and as I'm getting older I'm realizing that sometimes it's better to just suck it back in. Some things don't need to be known.

6. “I want Jet's!"


Mental illness runs in my family, and so does dysfunction. Instead of saying that we're having a bad day, we say that we want Jet's Pizza. We then know to brace yourself for crying and drama. Sometimes it's easier to deal with your feelings tomorrow in a more peaceful mindset, rather than address them hot-headed.

7. “Peace out!"


My dad always says this when he's literally going anywhere, even to another room. It's super annoying, but it taught me to always make sure your presence is known and leave an impression before I leave. Stand out, and be weird, because it leaves an impression. Well behaved people, normal people, don't make history.

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I haven't written for the Odyssey in quite some time due to this large issue in my life that I feel some people may also need to hear. Watching your parents go through a divorce can be difficult in itself, but what about having to remove one of your parents from your life at the same time? It's something I don't think many people could imagine doing. However, sometimes you are forced into the position between choosing what is best for your mental health or what is expected of you. For me, I realized that I needed to put myself first.

I realized that I am my own person. How I present myself and how I act and what I choose to believe in is how the world perceives me. I was faced with a parent who did not let me be who I am. The way I thought had to be in line with theirs. What I openly spoke about had to be in line with that parent's thoughts. This also, in turn, meant I had to revolve how I was perceived to the world around that parent's family. I had to abide by these societal norms and do what someone else expected of me. I realized that was ludicrous.

This parent was also abusive. They were toxic and manipulative and I could not stand idly by and just take that from them while also trying to become an independent young adult. I was forced to sit and watch one of my parents transform into someone I didn't recognize anymore. I had to watch them ignore any kind of reality checks and continue to feign innocence. I watched one of my parents mentally manipulate people I once called family into believing lies. I kept my head down and shut my mouth and kept taking the abuse. Now I'm at a point where I can confidently say that I am no longer afraid.

I was forced to cut ties with a parent that raised me, cared for me, attended school functions, fixed toys, bought me my first phone. I was forced to chuck out priceless memories for my own sanity. I could not sit idly by and allow myself to endure one more second of lies or abuse. I had to stand up for myself for once in my life and I blocked most of my family. I blocked cousins, aunts, uncles, and godparents. I changed my phone number that I had since 6th grade. I gave no warning and disappeared from my family's lives. Do I have regrets? No. I would do it again if I had to because I am so much stronger than sitting there and taking it.

I will have one less parent at my college graduation, which I am fighting so hard to achieve. I will have one less parent at my wedding. My future children will have one less grandparent. I mope in these thoughts but then I have to remember the other side of things. I will not have an unsupportive parent at my graduation and instead will have those that were there every step of the way. I will lack someone who was toxic at my wedding. My future children will never have to face the same abusive, toxic situations that my parent put me through. It was a difficult decision to make but one that I know in my heart is worthwhile.

Cutting a family member out of your life is difficult enough but cutting a parent is unimaginable. However, no one deserves to go through abusive situations. It shouldn't matter who the person is; if someone is treating you less than you deserve to be treated, they have no use being in your life. You should always be your first priority. You should never have to endure something for the sake of others. I am here to tell you that you are more than that and that cutting out a family member could actually be the best thing for you, even if it's incredibly difficult. I did it and I'm still here. It made me realize who my real family was, and there will never be enough thank you's in the world to show my mother just how much I appreciate her.

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