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I've Said 'I Can't' More Times Than I Can Count This Semester, And That's OK

To the one who feels exhausted because their plate is overflowing, sometimes you just have to take the "L."

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I've Said 'I Can't' More Times Than I Can Count This Semester, And That's OK
Allison Blythe

Some days are just worse than others. Sometimes, those bad days turn into weeks or even months. But it is OK to have a bad day.

We have this perception that we are not allowed to fail. But sometimes, failure is bound to happen.

I am the type of person who doesn't like to say no and doesn't like to be bored. I don't like alone time, and I like to stay busy. I don't know how to rest, and I don't know how to plan free time for myself.

I have FOMO like no other, and I hate to think that I've missed out on something.

If you're like me, you may take on way too much, and your plate might be overflowing. I usually think that I can do everything. However, I have had to come to the realization that I can't.

This semester, I am working full time AND going to school full time. It has been one heck of a roller coaster, and I've had to let some things go.

I had to go inactive from my sorority for a semester. I have had to say I can't hang out. I haven't been able to go back home in who knows how long. I have had to say the words "I can't" more times than I can count this semester.

While I may not like saying those two words, I have learned that it is OK to not be able to do everything.

No person can do all things well, especially all at once. But you can do a few small things all at once with excellence.

I've had to find time to rest because I needed to do that for me. I have had to take the "L" on some assignments this semester, just so I could enjoy my day a little bit before bed. Sometimes, I have had to say "I can't" because I had to work.

When life becomes a whirlwind and you feel like you just can't win, remember that it is OK to only do a few things incredibly well, as opposed to everything half-heartedly.

So friend, if you feel like you just can't win, take a step back to decide what can you let go. Then go do a few of those things (that are of most importance) with pure excellence. I can guarantee you that you won't feel as exhausted after.

Choose the important things to focus on, and let the not so important things go. Realize that you need time for you, too, my friend.

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