Saying What You Feel Can Be Scary, But Sometimes You Have To Do It

Saying What You Feel Can Be Scary, But Sometimes You Have To Do It

When you guard your feelings, you're not allowing anyone to know the real you.


To express our feelings and emotions is such a frightening and vulnerable thing to do. If we say how we feel, we allow others to see us in a way they haven't seen us before; as if we are baring our naked souls. We're allowing others to get a glimpse of how our brain works and what kind of emotions we choose to express.

When you guard your feelings, you're not allowing anyone to know the real you. Yes, it's scary because what if people don't like the real you? What if they walk away? What if they judge you? Those are possibilities, but the right people will stay. Remaining guarded isn't always a good idea, depending on the situation. To suppress your feelings and emotions is not healthy. You're physically bottling up everything in your mind and body. Imagine your body being a bottle of soda. The more suppressed feelings, the more room it takes up in the bottle, building up until it explodes. So, let some air out of the bottle sometimes. Allow yourself to feel.

When we deal with feelings and emotions when it comes to friendships and relationships, that tends to be the biggest hurdle. If a friend hurts your feelings and you don't like confrontation, you just hold it in hoping the subject won't be brought up. If you're going through something and a friend is trying to help but you're not letting them in, emotionally, you're just hurting yourself more. If you're not being honest about your feelings (good or bad) with someone that you like, that's not fair to either person. You're trying to save face for the sake of confronting your own feelings all while making them guess your actions and thoughts on top of their own.

What it boils down to is communication. Interpersonal communication is a big part of being human. We make friends, start relationships, and talk to our families. We hug, we laugh, we cry, we get angry. That's all in our DNA of being a human being on this Earth. If we didn't feel and show our emotions, how would we be able to be with others? How would we be able to show who we truly are and make connections? Without human connection, we probably wouldn't be anything but a vessel, an empty bottle. And an empty bottle might be worse than one that's about to explode.

So let some air in.

Take a deep breath and just feel.

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11 Struggles Every Nice Girl Understands

Because sometimes it's the worst.

We are all taught to be kind-hearted human beings. Nonetheless, some of us seem to follow through more than others. We're called the "nice girls." But being the nice girl isn't all hearts and smiles — in fact, sometimes it's more trouble than it's worth.

1. You take on way more than you can handle because the word "no" is not a part of your vocabulary.

2. When you actually do have the courage to say "no," you feel like the worst person in the world.

3. People take advantage of you like it's their job.

4. Your kindness is often mistaken for weakness — people neglect to realize that even the nice girls have backbones.

5. You entertain every Tom, Dick and Harry because you don't have the heart to say, "F*** off!"

6. You feel that you need to keep everyone around you happy.

7. Always forgetting to keep yourself happy in the process.

8. Sometimes you wonder if your purpose in life is simply to please everyone around you.

9. You can never lie because everyone knows that high-pitched tone you get when you try.

10. You keep most of your problems to yourself because you couldn't possibly trouble someone else with your feelings.

11. Yet, you're the master of listening to other people's issues.

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7 Tiny Things College Dudes Do That Give Off Major Small Dick Energy

If you exhibit any of these signs, re-evaluate yourself and your choices.


If you don't know what "small dick energy" means, let me give you the Urban Dictionary definition: "someone who shows off masculinity by being cocky, showing off, overly confident to overcompensate their 4.2 inch fully erect dick."

If you're afraid you might have this tragic disease: let me explain some of the key symptoms:

1. Adding girls you don't know on any social media platform just because you think they're hot.

I never thought friend requests could be so annoying.

2. Messaging said girls with some stupid pick-up-line to start a conversation.

What is this? Tinder?

3. Getting mad and aggressive when said girls don't message you back.

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Bonus points for calling them mean names!

4. Getting even angrier when they do message back saying they're not interested.

Your insecurity isn't sexy.

5. Putting others down or not treating others with respect.

If you can't be polite to your servers or other customer service employees, you are the epitome of small dick energy.

6. Cornering girls at bars or parties and making them obviously uncomfortable.

If she doesn't seem interested in the conversation, she's not interested in you. Take a hint and walk away.

7. Any sort of forcefulness, pressure, or prejudice coming from a guy as he's talking to a girl.

BIG indicators of small dick energy and also toxic masculinity!

Now look, I know it sounds like I'm being a bitch, but let me tell you that I, and every other female on this planet regardless of race, sexuality, or anything that differentiates us, has been a victim of men with small dick energy. And it's not fucking cute anymore. In fact, it never was. If anything, it's uncomfortable, it's annoying, and it's concerning.

A girl is not a bitch, a slut, a loser, or any other name you want to throw at her if she doesn't like your advances. Calling her that is probably going to make her want to suck your (small) dick even less than before, if possible. We don't know you, and even if we did, we don't owe you anything. And if your first reaction to rejection is name-calling and blatant aggression, then you are likely a toxic person as it is who's got some deep-seated anger issues that you should probably take care of. And if you think that treating someone like that is okay and don't see anything wrong with that, then you might just be a psychopath, honestly.

Have some class and self-respect, guys, and leave the #smalldickenergy back in 2018.

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