My Mom's Goodbye Was The Hardest Part Of Leaving For College

My Mom's Goodbye Was The Hardest Part Of Leaving For College

It wasn't hitting me that every moment I was spending with them was just another moment before we had to say goodbye.


Last weekend was the move-in weekend at my college. I'd been prepping for the day for months, and I thought I was ready. I had my clothes packed and my textbooks ordered. I had been talking to my roommates for months, and we had decided what appliances we would each bring to contribute to the room. I thought I had everything accounted for, except... I didn't.

I didn't account for how hard it would be to say goodbye to my parents, or, more specifically, my mom.

Of course, I'd been warned that leaving your parents is a hard and lonely step, but during the adrenaline rush of moving in, it wasn't hitting me that every moment I was spending with them was just another moment before we had to say goodbye. And after we had gone to the store to pick up extension cords, it still hadn't hit me. It didn't even hit me when we're actually saying goodbye in the parking lot.

I would say that it wasn't a tearful goodbye, in that while we were actually saying goodbye, my mother and I both were not crying. In the past, when I've had to leave for a while, we usually both do. But on move-in day, I just hugged my parents and told them I loved them and then got back into my car to drive back up to my own parking lot.

And that's when it finally hit me.

I was driving away, watching my parents in the parking lot, and I started crying. Saying goodbye had been relatively easy, but I was now feeling that goodbye more intensely than I thought I was going to.

My mom has been a major support to me my entire life. Whenever I have problems going on, or things that I'm excited to share with someone, she's always been the very first person that I go to. I was really worried that I was going to lose that support once I moved away, and that thought really scared me. But I shouldn't have worried about it so much.

My mom is still pretty involved in what I'm doing right now. She still likes when I call her and give her updates about what I'm doing here, and while I might be acting like a teenager sometimes, I definitely appreciate it. I appreciate her greatly. And I'm so grateful to have awesome parents who encouraged me to follow my dreams and are helping me as I go through college. I definitely wouldn't be here without them.

So, if you leaving for college has made you miss your parents a TON, don't be afraid to call them and tell them how much you love them! They're probably missing you, but not wanting to intrude upon your fun time at college (unless your mom is like mine and has no problem calling you all of the time).

While it may be hard to be apart from them, college is going to give all of us a wonderful chance to grow, and our families will still be there for us when we come back home.

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To The Grandmothers Who Made Us The Women We Are Today

Sincerely, the loving granddaughters.

The relationship between a grandmother and her granddaughter is something so uniquely special and something to be treasured forever.

Your grandma loves you like you are her own daughter and adores you no matter what. She is the first person you run to when you have a problem with your parents and she never fails to grace you with the most comforting advice.

She may be guilty of spoiling you rotten but still makes sure to stress the importance of being thankful and kind.

Your grandma has most likely lived through every obstacle that you are experiencing now as a young adult and always knows just exactly what to say.

She grew up in another generation where things were probably much harder for young women than they are today.

She is a walking example of perseverance, strength, and grace who you aim to be like someday.

Your grandma teaches you the lessons she had to learn the hard way because she does not want you to make the same mistakes she did when she was growing up.

Her hugs never fail to warm your heart, her smile never fails to make you smile, and her laugh never fails to brighten your day.

She inspires you to be the best version of yourself that you can be.

You only hope that one day you can be the mother and grandmother she was to you.

A piece of girl’s heart will forever belong to her grandma that no one could ever replace.

She is the matriarch of your family and is the glue that holds you all together.

Grandmothers play such an important role in helping their granddaughters to grow into strong, intelligent, kind women.

She teaches you how to love and how to forgive.

Without the unconditional love of your grandma, you would not be the woman you are today.

To all of the grandmothers out there, thank you for being you.


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An Open Letter To My Mom

Thank you for everything that you've done for me


Dear Mum,

My friends call us the Gilmore Girls, which is funny because I am pretty sure that you can't stand that show. My friends constantly tell me how they are so in love with the pairing of the two of us because we seem to like the perfect mother-daughter duo.

I don't think that I ever thought of it that way, I always just thought of us as just you and me, and nothing else to it. But now as I step back and really think of it I realize how amazing our relationship is in comparison to those of other mothers and daughters.

I love that we can just hang out, go on coffee runs, spend an obscene amount of time in Marshalls and it truly never gets old and I don't think it ever will. I think that I took for granted all of the time that we spent together. I realized when I came to college this year how different things were going to be from this point on.

From now on when I come to stay in the house I will technically be a "visitor" and that is really strange to think. It is kind of weird going home and now having to plan time to spend with you because I can't just wake up and see you everyday. Now whenever we are together I feel like our relationship has shifted from being a mother and her child to two friends and it is honestly the best thing ever.

It makes me so happy that I can come to you about anything like I were to go to any of my other best friends.

Also, that's another thing I want to thank you so much for just always knowing what to say. I tend to get extremely flustered all the time while always getting wrapped up in situations that I should not be in. You are just there waiting with a step by step plan on how I can fix what I am doing to make it all better.

It is a typical "mother" quality to give advice, but you take it to a whole new level and lord knows I need that.

It is actually so crazy how you manage to do so much for not only for me, but also for Dad and Craig. You go out of your way to do anything for us. Once you said something and it has always stuck with me, you said "It is my job I do things for my husband and for my kids", call it old fashion, call it whatever you want.

I have always thought of what you said as a line that emphasizes how selfless you are. You put everyone and anything before yourself and I don't think I could ever really repay you for that.

On top of taking care of the entire family you also manage to work a full time job and be a complete boss. I always joke around and call you a girl boss, but it is so true. Whenever you're on work phone calls I am so mesmerized by how professional that you sound and how hard you work.

I believe that you have made me have such a strong work ethic because you have made the perfect role model my whole life. You have pushed me to do what I have to do to succeed. Always fight for my grades, never take no for an answer, and really just do not stop until I get what I want.

I credit you for all of my successes especially everything that I did in high school that led me to Syracuse.

Everything that I am is because of you. You have shaped me into the person that I am today and I don't even know what I can even say other than thank you. Thank you for helping me, thank you for telling me when I'm doing something wrong, thank you for pushing me to do better, and thank you for being my best friend, I love you.



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