Saying “Yes” All The Time Is Exhausting—So Stop Doing It!

Saying 'Yes' All The Time Is Exhausting—So Stop Doing It!

I have learned that "no" is a powerful word. However, many of us are scared of using it.


A lot of people have a hard time saying "no" to others, myself included. Growing up, I always wanted to please and avoid disappointing others. I have always had a fear of telling people "no." While this may seem great for some, it can become exhausting when you sacrifice yourself for others a bit too much. We have been tricked into believing that saying no makes someone "selfish" or "lazy."

However, saying no isn't always a bad thing and you should probably practice it more. Saying "yes" just out of the convenience of not disappointing someone can have a negative impact on your headspace—increasing your stress level. Realign your priorities and put yourself higher on that list. If you aren't taking care of yourself, you probably won't have success fixing others' problems either.

In addition to respecting your own boundaries, reinforce them by adding the conjunction, "and" after you accept. This will allow you to add any conditionals that may make the task more convenient for you. Asking for what you want isn't always a bad thing, especially if it pertains to a task someone else is asking of you.

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Obviously, a balance exists between saying "yes" and "no" too many times. I advise that you try and balance the scales to avoid saying no or yes too often. Don't burn yourself out but don't turn other people away if you can help them quickly or easily. You never know when you may have to ask them for a small favor when you are in a pinch!

The overall takeaway: don't let people take advantage of you and respect your own personal needs. We all know someone who leans on us a bit too much. Establish your boundaries and work from there. Saying "yes" all the time can lead to burnout and overall, stress. We already have enough to worry about, don't freak out about fixing other people's problems.

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27 Things To Do With Your Friends When You're Bored

A little bit of fun for any season.

I am sure many could relate: you are texting or sitting around with your friends and no one knows what they want to do, everyone is bored, and everyone is flat out of ideas that are actually realistic and achievable. Boredom makes an appearance at it's finest moments... always.

Here are 27 things you can do with your friend in just about any season (some are exclusive to a particular season) when boredom takes over!

1. Find a local coffee shop to try out.

2. Or better yet, find a local restaurant that you’ve all been wanting to try.

3. Go shopping at each others' favorite stores.

4. Tie balloons with positive messages inside of them to random places in your town to uplift a few souls.

5. Cook a homemade meal for a homeless person and deliver it.

6. Get crafty and create a time capsule that you and your friends can open after (x) amount of years.

7. Make your own sushi.

8. Plant flowers in little pots for your homes.

9. Road trip to random local cities and do some exploring.

10. Have a photo shoot.

11. Buy or create a blank page’s journal filled art, writing, sketches, and pictures of your friends that can be used as a memory book.

12. Visit a pumpkin patch.

13. Go stargazing in the middle of the night with a blanket and a few midnight snacks.

14. Go to a haunted house.

15. Go to a movie with the group.

16. Have a giant sleepover with board games, snacks, movies, and crazy pajamas.

17. Have a game night with the peeps.

18. Have a gingerbread making contest.

19. Have a bonfire when it gets cool outside.

20. Make homemade ice cream.

21. Search on maps for the nearest natural spring or river and go swimming or canoeing.

22. Take a camera, your group of friends, and stroll around town taking pictures of your adventure.

23. Use the pictures you take on your adventures and create a photo wall in your home.

24. Have a "Madea" movie night.

25. Throw a themed party.

26. Write letters of encouragement to children (or adults) in hospitals.

27. Look up random keywords on YouTube for possibly some of the best videos ever.

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The Struggles Of Acting On Emotion Versus Logic

If not handled in a healthy way, you could hurt someone you care about.


As human beings, we will always have reactionary responses when faced with conflict, action, or certain circumstances. It is up to us to make the choice of how we react, but based on who you are, you are either more emotional or logical.

As a person who acts off emotion in the moment, it can do more harm than good if you don't know how to control it. It can cause you to lash out at someone you care about, say things you may regret later, or only look at the present moment instead of seeing how this could affect the future.

All of this being said, acting off emotion can be good too. It means that you are more empathetic than the average person. Having empathy means that you have the capability to understand the emotions and feelings of other people. When an emotional person is in a healthy and good state of mind, they can handle conflict very well, and be there for other people.

For someone who tends to act off logic, this can look much different for you. Using logic to deal with life can make you come off as more stable, however, it can cause the following you to not be able to emotionally understand someone else, be defensive, and be unable to express how you are really feeling through words or actions.

I have had many interactions with people who are more logical rather than emotional. They handle stress very well, however, they can come off as rude or as if they don't care about you when in reality they just are unable to express how they feel. If not handled well, this kind of interaction can end friendships, partnerships, and relationships.

Every personality is different, but anyone can fall into one of these two categories. People who are more on the emotional side need to take reign of their emotions and use this gift of empathy that they possess to help impact those around them and help other people feel heard and understood. On the other hand, people who fall into the logical side need to be able to healthily express how they feel so they can get their point across in the kindest way and help others to see their side of things in a way that makes sense.

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