My whole life, I have dreamed of having sisters. As far as I can remember, my first good friend was my imaginary friend (yes, I was THAT person) named Samantha. Sadly, sisters were never meant to be and I lived a very lonely childhood as an only child. My parents loved me very much and to this day are still unbelievably protective of me. They were skeptical of any new friends I made and I’m sad to say that very few of my friendships from my childhood made it to my adult life. My mother was never able to have other children so my dreams of having a sister died at a very young age.

Until those dreams became a very bright reality my freshman year of college. Rushing a sorority had never been a main focus of my life but on one September evening, I found myself holding a card inviting me to join the sisterhood of Kappa Alpha Theta.

I finally had my sisters.

Now, as I begin my junior year of college, I can hardly remember what life was like without my amazing sisters. I know it sounds cliché to make these bold assertions about my sorority, but, for the first time, I don’t feel like I’m a lonely only child. Whether they’re telling me that, no, I shouldn’t have one more cocktail or, yes, you are going to ace that presentation, my sisters have my back. That’s exactly how your sorority sisters should be.

I have read too many articles about sororities gone rogue or girls who don’t like their sororities. Although I’m not an expert on the matter, I believe that girls who are unhappy with their sororities made a fatal mistake – they didn’t choose their sorority based on the sisterhood.

Many college campuses have cutthroat Greek life. Your position in college is focused on what sorority you are in. If you can secure a spot in a coveted top-tier sorority, your life is supposed to be as glamorous as Elle Woods'. The sad reality is that while it might seem appealing at the beginning, choosing a sorority for something other than the sisters is unwise. Would you prefer to be surrounded by girls you dislike just so you can wear letters that frat guys are attracted to? Chances are you won’t enjoy that after four years.

I’ve even read stories about girls who preferenced their sororities because they liked the sororities colors or symbols for crafts. Don’t be that girl. Just please don’t.

That being said, give every sorority a chance. I hadn’t even considered Theta before I began recruitment but I am so thankful that I kept an open mind throughout the process. I was having a difficult time choosing which sorority I liked the best until I sat through three different sororities videos. In the videos, the girls all had interviews with other sisters. Theta was the last video I watched and unlike the two previous ones, I could tell that these girls weren’t acting while in front of the camera. They were goofy, honest, and I saw that they genuinely loved spending time with each other. Those girls were the ones I wanted to call my sisters. Thankfully, I can now call them my sisters.

I have never once regretted my decision to join Kappa Alpha Theta because I joined for the sisterhood. The love we have for each other is as strong as ever and most importantly, it’s real.

So, Mom, I’m sorry for asking for a sister my whole life. I now have thousands of them across the globe and I wouldn’t want it any other way.