Reticular Activation System vs. The Law of Attraction (Do You Really Create Your Own Reality?)

Reticular Activation System vs. The Law of Attraction (Do You Really Create Your Own Reality?)

The New Science of Focus
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This post wont be for everyone, but if you can do yourself a favor. At least take the 1 minute mind blowing psych test in the beginning. You will learn some crazy insight about yourself. It's an awareness test that sees how long you can pay attention. Following the instructions in the vid counting the number of basketball passes. The rest of the article wont make sense without it.

Did you see the dancing bear? For most people, the honest answer is no. This is your reticular activation system at work - your RAS. RAS is your selective focus or for you spiritual folks this is the science behind the Law of Attraction. This is how you create your own realty...through your brain's perspective of outside stimuli.

Think of this example: Ophelia and Pocahontas are swimming at the beach and both get attacked by a shark. The shark takes both of their right arms. Ophelia is thankful she is alive and only lost an arm. Pocahontas is pissed she will never have her arm again (for climbing willows and shit I guess). Same exact situation. Two different responses. Two different focuses.

This means that whatever is happening in your experience is currently being distorted in one way or another either optimism (Ophelia) or pessimism (Pocahontas). You are not seeing the whole picture of reality and the quality of your life is being drastically affected because of it.

But this also means that you can choose to see any situation, however you like, by changing the filter of your RAS. So say you are broke and you want more money....right, who doesn't? If you tell your brain to look for money (think dancing bear from the vid) your brain will find ("create") places where there is money in your reality. Right now your focus is on the lack of money (basketballs) which is why you're a broke fuck lol.

Whatever it is. A new job opportunity,a great relationship, it all comes down to what you choose to focus on. What you want is right in front of your eyes but your brain is filtering it out because you are focused on the things you don't want or lack of what you want. So if you are currently miserably single:

"There's no attractive, interesting, single people in my town" is your basketball and "Love of my life" is your dancing bear.

They are both there in your reality...you are just choosing to only see one of them. Now this is where most people stop reading or tune out. If this is true, it is painful to admit. For most people this feels like they are being blamed for their current situation (shitty job, shitty love life, etc.). If this is true that I create my own experience, then there is some form of responsibility thrown onto us. The implications of this are huge.

You could have had the life you wanted months, years, decades ago...if you could only control your focus.

You could have had the love of your life years ago. You could of had the job you wanted for the past decade. You could have an endless flow of money and opportunities in your life but you missed it because your brain was looking at the basketballs and not the dancing bear.

Now it is not your fault. Your brain is mostly conditioned by society, friends, family to adopt certain beliefs when you are a kid. It's not your fault. It IS your fault if you don't do anything about it from here.

"They did it to you, but now you are doing it to yourself" - Elliott Hulse

An idea like this is going to take a while to be mainstream because it's too painful for the average person to admit. You have to admit that not only could you have the exact life you want right now but you are somewhat responsible for all the past pains in your life (your focus on losing the arm not keeping your life).

Now you can either take this as the spiritual part of it, the Law of Attraction, or as RAS which is more scientifically grounded, but they are saying the same exact thing. We are creating our experience in this world by what we focus on. Your brain focuses on whatever you tell it to focus on because it wants to conserve energy and not waste energy on things you tell it are not important. So how do we fix this fixation with the negative.

Your brain is smart. Saying "I have all the money I need" like the Law of Attraction community totes will not work unless you actually believe that you do have all that money. So don't start there. Start by simply proving that you do have control over your focus...enter what I like to call The Jeep Test.

Money and Love are too emotionally charged to start with focusing on. Your brain will fight you if you have been broke for years and now want to focus on all the money in the world vs. the lack of money. Most people will give up on that experiment.

But the Jeep Test is great because it's a unique looking car that is pretty neutral for most people. For the next week I want you to say the word Jeep as much as possible. "Jeep, Jeep, Jeep" whenever you get a chance and then go about your day looking for Jeeps. It will blow your mind how many fucking Jeeps are in the world. It's not like the company started pumping out more Wranglers, but now Jeeps have switched from your dancing bear to your basketball passes.

Start with jeeps to prove that this concept is real. Then progress just using neutral words Love, Money, Health. Just the word "money" not "I have all the money I need". Once you see more money, love, health in the world you can than dive more into the spiritual realm and do all the affirmation type stuff that most people won't admit they've tried and didn't work :)

You'll be amazed how quickly your life can turn around by actively changing how you interpret the world. Don't take my word for it...prove it to yourself first.



-Dylan

Cover Image Credit: Marina Shatskih

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​An Open Letter To The People Who Don’t Tip Their Servers

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Dear Person Who Has No Idea How Much The 0 In The “Tip:" Line Matters,

I want to by asking you a simple question: Why?

Is it because you can't afford it? Is it because you are blind to the fact that the tip you leave is how the waiter/waitress serving you is making their living? Is it because you're just lazy and you “don't feel like it"?

Is it because you think that, while taking care of not only your table but at least three to five others, they took too long bringing you that side of ranch dressing? Or is it just because you're unaware that as a server these people make $2.85 an hour plus TIPS?

The average waiter/waitress is only supposed to be paid $2.13 an hour plus tips according to the U.S. Department of Labor.

That then leaves the waiter/waitress with a paycheck with the numbers **$0.00** and the words “Not a real paycheck." stamped on it. Therefore these men and women completely rely on the tips they make during the week to pay their bills.

So, with that being said, I have a few words for those of you who are ignorant enough to leave without leaving a few dollars in the “tip:" line.

Imagine if you go to work, the night starts off slow, then almost like a bomb went off the entire workplace is chaotic and you can't seem to find a minute to stop and breathe, let alone think about what to do next.

Imagine that you are helping a total of six different groups of people at one time, with each group containing two to 10 people.

Imagine that you are working your ass off to make sure that these customers have the best experience possible. Then you cash them out, you hand them a pen and a receipt, say “Thank you so much! It was a pleasure serving you, have a great day!"

Imagine you walk away to attempt to start one of the 17 other things you need to complete, watch as the group you just thanked leaves, and maybe even wave goodbye.

Imagine you are cleaning up the mess that they have so kindly left behind, you look down at the receipt and realize there's a sad face on the tip line of a $24.83 bill.

Imagine how devastated you feel knowing that you helped these people as much as you could just to have them throw water on the fire you need to complete the night.

Now, realize that whenever you decide not to tip your waitress, this is nine out of 10 times what they go through. I cannot stress enough how important it is for people to realize that this is someone's profession — whether they are a college student, a single mother working their second job of the day, a new dad who needs to pay off the loan he needed to take out to get a safer car for his child, your friend, your mom, your dad, your sister, your brother, you.

If you cannot afford to tip, do not come out to eat. If you cannot afford the three alcoholic drinks you gulped down, plus your food and a tip do not come out to eat.

If you cannot afford the $10 wings that become half-off on Tuesdays plus that water you asked for, do not come out to eat.

If you cannot see that the person in front of you is working their best to accommodate you, while trying to do the same for the other five tables around you, do not come out to eat. If you cannot realize that the man or woman in front of you is a real person, with their own personal lives and problems and that maybe these problems have led them to be the reason they are standing in front of you, then do not come out to eat.

As a server myself, it kills me to see the people around me being deprived of the money that they were supposed to earn. It kills me to see the three dollars you left on a $40 bill. It kills me that you cannot stand to put yourself in our shoes — as if you're better than us. I wonder if you realize that you single-handedly ruined part of our nights.

I wonder if maybe one day you will be in our shoes, and I hope to God no one treats you how you have treated us. But if they do, then maybe you'll realize how we felt when you left no tip after we gave you our time.

Cover Image Credit: Hailea Shallock

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6 Times 'The Bold Type' Tackled Real-Life Issues

They're undeniably bold.

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The fresh, millennial TV show "The Bold Type" is known to cover a wide-range of cultural issues that society faces today. Relationships, coming out to friends and coworkers, women and fertility, obstacles in the workplace, and tackling sexual harassment are all topics that have been thoroughly covered in this exciting and completely original storyline.

Each character must undertake obstacles, and here are a few wholesome examples.

When Sutton put her job above her relationship with Richard.

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"It's a gamble. All of it. But I'm putting my money down on my career and believing that love will fall in place." – Sutton

She's a powerhouse, and through the trials of "The Bold Type" Season 2, Sutton feared her relationship with Richard, an HR employee for Stafford, the company that runs Scarlet, is going to jeopardize her future as a fashion designer at the magazine. In the end, she chose her career over Richard, and while she felt heartbroken over her decision, she knew it was what she had to do, in order to progress her career at Scarlet.

When Jane found out she carries the BRCA gene.

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After losing her mom to breast cancer, Jane decides it's best she get tested for the gene mutation called BRCA. Well, she gets tested, and it comes out positive. Jane must quickly come to terms with her future fertility arrangements, and it becomes a lot to unpack for her, as she is only in her early 20s. However, she takes charge of her health and decides that she will be freezing her eggs to ensure her ability to have kids in the future, but another problem arises. The company that runs Scarlet doesn't have an insurance plan that covers medical visits for fertility issues. Jane is inflamed, so she turns her thoughts into words, writing a piece for Scarlet, discussing the unfairness between the company not offering fertility coverage, but instead, impotence, or Viagra coverage.

At the start of Season 3, which aired April 10, 2019, we see that her article worked, and we begin to witness Jane and the start of her egg-freezing process unravel.

When Kat tackled social norms.

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Through navigating her first gay relationship with Adena to becoming the head of social media at Scarlet, Kat has shown she has what it takes to overcome obstacles and stand up for what she believes in. Although she is still working to find her true self, Kat never hides her feelings, but instead shows people that opening up about what they're going through is the best way to recover. Just recently, in Season 3, Kat opens up to her social media fans, sharing her story about her break up with Adena and how she is not always okay, and that's okay.

When Jacqueline spoke up about her sexual harassment experience.

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The queen of Scarlet, Jacqueline, is the definition of strong. In an episode which reveals the weight that sexual harassment victims carry brings up a lot of unfortunate memories for Jacqueline, being a sexual harassment survivor herself. After holding back for far too long, Jacqueline opens up to the three women of "The Bold Type," and as the song "Quiet" plays in the background, the four women stand in solidarity, allowing Jacqueline to lay down the weight she's been carrying all throughout her career. It's an amazing episode, and it allows viewers to see a totally different side to Jacqueline, a woman who carries herself with complete resilience.

When Sutton realized she doesn’t have to give up her relationship, in order to do what she loves.

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In the finale of Season 2, we were able to see Sutton and Richard finally reunite, as they decide that fighting for their relationship is the right thing to do. They rekindle their relationship, and not only do they make their relationship exclusive, Sutton decides to move in with Richard, which is huge for Sutton, and her long-time roommate Jane.

I think the most beautiful thing about Sutton getting back together with Richard is that she finally realized she is a remarkably- talented fashion designer, and no relationship is going to jeopardize that fact. Season 3 just began, so we'll see how Sutton and Richard's relationship continues to progress, or what issues may arise with them being exclusive.

The three dominant best friends never giving up on themselves or one another.

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Finally, "The Bold Type" wouldn't be possible without the beautiful friendship behind Kat, Sutton, and Jane. They fight, they disagree, but they never choose to give up on one another, and that's such a special bond to have. They lift each other up, whether it's Jane freezing her eggs, Sutton moving in with Richard, or Kat getting over her relationship with Adena, the women of "The Bold Type" never back down.

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